Note: 1. Respect children's personality and dignity, let children think independently and choose freely, and treat children as equal members of the family.
Two: Listen to children's opinions carefully and patiently, and try to be friends with children. Parents can't just make their own decisions and completely ignore their suggestions.
Third, try to understand children, understand their hearts and wishes, respect their choices and agree to their just demands.
Fourth, when educating children, we should use practical and reasonable methods. Don't make comments and instructions on children's behavior easily, but try to guide children to think.
Five: Being friends with children is not that you have no principles and spoil your children. Free to develop children's hobbies, but not to let themselves go.
Six: communicate with children more actively and exchange ideas with children. The purpose of this is to close the spiritual distance between parents and children.
How to educate children well 1, and parents should remain calm.
Children, like adults, always procrastinate when others order them to do things or threaten them. So parents need to stay calm. In order to avoid being angered, parents can give their children some time in advance and say to him: You have to take a bath in five minutes. ?
2. Let your children repeat what you said.
In this way, you can immediately find out whether the child heard what you said. If your child really doesn't know what to do, for example, he can't turn off the radio, then when you ask him to repeat your request, he can take this opportunity to tell you that he won't do it.
3. Let the children obey in the game.
Do your children like to dress up as characters in storybooks? Once a child becomes a character in a story, he can listen to his parents more carefully. Besides, every child likes fantasy. Parents have conflicts with their children on sleeping, so it is better to spread their fantasy wings with their children. Follow the child's thoughts first: I hope we never need to sleep. Then can we stay up for many days? ......？ Your child must be happy to daydream endlessly with you, and then he can consider and accept the arrangement of real life.
4. Clever use of detention.
To make a child obedient, sometimes you need to ease his bad mood as much as possible. If your child is about to lose his temper because he can't get what he wants, help him calm down. But don't punish him with detention (? Stay in your room! ? ), might as well take him to the comfortable sofa in the living room, or take the child to his favorite corner of his room.
Maybe your child is even willing to designate a place for himself? A quiet harbor? Take a big pillow, a soft blanket and some favorite books. If he doesn't want to go, you might as well ask to go with him and tell him a story.
If he still doesn't want to go, you can go by yourself, just to calm down. Not only do you set a good example, but you can also get some rest time. When you both feel better, talk to him about what is appropriate.
5. Give him rights.
Give the child a chance to make his own choices and let him exercise his newly acquired autonomy within a controllable range. For example, let him choose one of the two pants you took out, instead of letting him wear the one you chose. Ask him whether he likes eggplant or beans for dinner. Which of the two stories do you want to hear before going to bed, and so on.
Another way to help children feel more in control is to tell them what they can do instead of what they can't do. Stop talking:? No way! You can't hit the ball in the house! ? Say:? Let's go out and practice the racket outside! ? If he wants to eat ice cream before dinner, let him choose between cheese slices and apples.
6. Cut him some slack.
What if yours? Fashion? The baby wants to wear a green camouflage top and orange striped shorts. What are you worried about? If he wants waffles for lunch and peanut butter for breakfast, isn't there any harm? Sometimes it may be easier to look at the problem from another angle. For example, he ran into a small mud pit on his way home, or stuffed his doll under the bed instead of putting it on the shelf where it should be. Let him indulge a little.
7. Distract him.
You should pay attention to avoid situations that may cause children to resist. For example, take your children to meet friends in an outdoor park instead of sitting in a restaurant. Don't let your child go shopping with you, he won't be quiet if you keep trying on clothes.
If you find yourself in a passive position, divert your child's attention and avoid confrontation with him. For example, if you find a toy store that fascinates children on the pedestrian street, you should immediately take him to another direction or divert his attention. Wow! Kay, look at that fountain! Do you want to play for a while? )。
8. Respect his age and stage of development.
When you let your child make the bed or sweep the floor, you should make sure that he knows what to do. First of all, take some time to teach him to do new jobs and work with him until he really learns. Sometimes, a child seems to be disobedient, in fact, because what you ask him to do is too difficult.
Finally, we should respect the child's own unique world, especially his concept of time (or lack of it). Don't expect him to leave kindergarten immediately and go home with you. Give him a few minutes to help him make a smooth transition. (for example? Kay, we will go home in five minutes. Now let's finish the game with the children. ? )
How to educate children 1 Give children some freedom of choice.
Children around the age of 3 are rebellious, and unilateral orders from their parents often become the reason for their temper. If you just say to them: Go eat! ? Or? Go take a shower! ? Usually orders are resisted. At this time, parents might as well give their children some freedom of choice and say in another way: which do you want to do first, eat or take a bath? Put forward two equivalent projects for him to choose, because 2-year-old children will not consider anything else except these two, so most of them will choose one. This kind? It doesn't matter which one comes first, just do what you like. Freedom is enough to make him feel excited and satisfied. This is a good strategy to deal with children's temper.
In addition, giving children some freedom of choice virtually instills in them a sense of deciding their own affairs.
Parents should not use corporal punishment when educating their children. Corporal punishment includes two risk factors.
One of them is that children tend to imitate their parents and use violence against others. Parents are the closest people to their children, and they are also the natural objects. If parents often punish him, it will turn him into a cruel man.
Secondly, parents often punish their children, and children will be alert and no longer close to their parents. In this way, parents can't give them education and discipline at all, not to mention that children will hold a grudge against their parents and want to wait for revenge. Of course, parents are human beings, and sometimes they can't help getting angry and hitting their children. At this time, there is no need to feel sorry for yourself and regret it, as long as you can control your emotions as much as possible, handle them rationally and avoid excessive corporal punishment.
3. How do parents deal with children losing their temper?
The biggest headache for parents of children around 2 years old is to lose their temper for no reason. In this respect, if parents lack discipline policy and are too soft-hearted, they will be confused by 2-year-old children. The following are some disciplinary guidelines for your reference.
(1) to make up for the child's incomprehension.
Children of this age lack understanding, can't correctly judge the surrounding situation, and easily lose their temper. Parents must listen to him patiently first, and then explain it to him so that he can understand. For example, when he wants someone else's things and cries, let him know first? Your own things? . ? What about yours? Show it to mom! ? Then explain to him:? Isn't this the same?
(2) Pay attention to whether he is hungry or tired.
Ordinary things, such as being hungry and tired, sometimes become the reason for children to lose their temper. Mothers often scold their children: they lose their temper every night when they are busy, and they have no idea of the hard work of adults! ? However, has the mother forgotten that the child's hunger and fatigue have reached the limit? In fact, it is the mother's responsibility to prevent this from happening.
(3), the command should be unified
If mom and dad, or grandparents and parents give their children different instructions, it will be very dangerous, which will not only make the children lose their temper, but also make them fall into chaos and be at a loss. Generally speaking, adults' opinions will certainly be different, which may be inevitable, but if they are opposed to young children, they will fall into chaos. So in any case, family members should adjust their opinions in advance and try to maintain the same policy, so that children can make judgments on complex things.
Indecision is the worst
When a child loses his temper, the most taboo is the indecisive style of his parents. First, he hesitates, then he can't stand the child's crying and finally gives in. So, children will think that when parents say? No? Sometimes, as long as he loses his temper, he can get what he wants, so he uses losing his temper as his weapon.