First of all, I will tell you the operation mode of such schools.
The model of this kind of school can be said responsibly, at least 80% is not much different from the closed boarding system of large private schools. So what's the difference? He mainly has so many projects, such as inviting psychologists and education experts to give lectures at school regularly, arranging several psychological tutors to provide one-on-one consultation services, occasionally sending students to participate in some social practice or rural labor experience, allowing students to participate in some public welfare activities occasionally, and organizing some parent-child activities for parents to participate in.
At first glance, it seems that there are quite a lot of functions, and it feels good. But in fact, according to my understanding and personal telephone consultation, these schools generally have the following problems:
Well-known psychologists can come twice a semester.
When every school publicizes itself, it will give you a list of several famous psychologists, whether they are really famous or not, but at least they say they are famous. A class lasts 1~2 hours, which is nothing more than talking about some philosophy of life, listing some typical cases, and finally pouring some chicken soup for the children, telling them to be strong and how beautiful the future is. But in fact, really well-known experts are hard to come, just come once a semester, and it is impossible to come often. Therefore, the role of these experts is at most a "short-acting medicine" to temporarily relieve pain, and it is the kind with the shortest time limit. The specific situation of each child is different, and the lectures are basically not targeted, which can play a small role.
2 One-on-one psychological counseling teachers employed by the school for a long time are worried about their professional level, and most of them will only follow the book and cannot take care of every child.
People's psychological laws are very complicated, and every child comes from a different family environment. Without a full understanding of children's family background and lack of life experience, it is difficult to do a good job of psychological counseling only with psychological diploma or psychological counseling certificate. After all, schools should consider labor costs. After all, we must make profits and make money. Real experts will not be employed here for a long time. Only people with similar majors and relevant work experience can stay here for a long time, even those who have graduated from psychology for several years. In fact, most people will only follow the script. Moreover, a grade is equipped with at most one such counselor, and even if there are many, it is impossible to take care of every student.
Whether it is social practice, public welfare activities, or rural labor experience, these are also accidental things.
The specific frequency may mainly depend on the distance between these activities and the school. If you go to a distant place to participate in some social welfare activities or practices, it will be good once or twice a semester; If the school happens to be not far from the village, some schools may organize rural labor experiences several times, but not more than once a week.
④ Counseling for parents and parent-child interaction activities are basically a formality.
Some schools will give parents one-on-one consultation and education before entering school, which is more responsible. After all, the problem children come from a problem family. The so-called parent-child activities, of course, have a good purpose and starting point, in order to enhance the feelings between parents and children, but if parents are willing to interact with their children often, will they send their children here? Therefore, the form of these activities is greater than the content, and parent-child interaction activities can be held once or twice a semester.
⑤ The totally enclosed militarized management mode still can't get rid of the suspicion of creating depression and tension.
Without exception, these schools will choose the semi-military management mode of closed boarding, and this atmosphere and environment itself will easily cause a feeling of tension and depression for children, which is especially unfavorable for many children who are prone to depression. Not only can't parents get the desired effect, but it will also have many negative effects and even push children to the wall. Because there are many introverted children, even if their hearts are very painful, they will not take the initiative to seek psychological counseling teachers. After all, there are several teachers in charge of most students in the school, so it is difficult to find out the inner movements of children in time.
Secondly, let me talk about my views and attitudes on this matter.
My point of view can be summarized as two points:
First, the existence is reasonable, and such schools also have their uses;
Second, this type of school is not recommended, but it is not completely denied.
In the market economy environment, demand always precedes supply. As long as there is one thing, no matter how long it exists, there must be a reason behind it. I will never completely deny this type of school and tell everyone that it is a lie and a scam. If parents are really busy, unable to cope, unable to reach energy and unable to do anything at once, then at least it is much better to send their children here than to leave them unattended at all. For example, I once met a family whose father was a soldier. Because of his special job, he could not go home several times a year. Grandparents can't help in other places, my mother has to go to work, and I have to take care of my grandmother who is paralyzed in bed (grandpa has passed away). Therefore, I really have no ability to accompany and educate my children. It is better to send them to this special training school than to leave them unattended. After all, the lesser of the two evils.
However, I still don't recommend that parents send their children over as soon as their minds are hot. There are three objective facts to remind you:
These schools are essentially the form of school education, which is a big framework based on exam-oriented education, but there are some embellishments related to quality education.
As long as it is a school education, it must be a one-to-many model, and it is impossible for teachers to fully consider every student. This is an undeniable law of death; As long as it is an exam-oriented education framework, it is not much different from the child's original school.
(2) These schools are private and commercial.
In other words, schools should consider practical issues such as cost control and stable profitability in the course of operation. I don't think there is anything wrong with this in itself. And problem children is exactly what people need to accompany and care about, and it is the most labor-intensive thing. Therefore, even if the children are sent in, they will not get meticulous attention, let alone one-on-one intimate service. After all, labor costs are there.
(3) Today's children are tired of learning, rebellious and depressed, and their family background must be involved. The root of the problem lies in the child's guardian, and all the abnormal behavior of the child is a symptom of the problem.
Therefore, parents, not children, should be educated and changed the most.
Finally, I want to say that if parents are not as busy as a bee, no matter what the root cause of the problem is, it is very discouraged to spend money to send their children to such schools to buy peace of mind; It is undoubtedly irresponsible to escape from your own problems and pin your hopes on unrelated outsiders. If you really love your children, please start from yourself, change from yourself, let go of some unimportant things, spend more time with your children and be their friends.
I'm Mr. Wei. Welcome your attention.