1. Don't beat and scold.
Some parents are very strict with their children, so whenever their children make mistakes, they will not calmly understand and reason, but scold first and then beat. I always think that children can't succeed without struggle. Treating children like this will not only make them really realize their mistakes, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personality will easily become more extreme.
Parents should set a good example.
Children's imitation ability is very strong, so parents' words and deeds have a deep influence on children. Parents should set a good example for their children. Lead by example. If there is something wrong with parents' conduct, children will only follow suit. How can they educate their children well? Therefore, it is really important for adults to set an example.
3. Adults should agree.
Parents should communicate well and have a unified opinion on the education of their children. Don't tell me what to say, and don't scold each other in front of the children. In this way, children will be at a loss and don't know who to listen to. And the prestige of adults in front of children is gone. Over time, it will be more difficult to discipline children.
4. Let children's interests develop freely.
Now parents have high hopes for their children, giving them all kinds of extra-long classes and letting them follow suit, but ignoring their real interests. Therefore, what parents have to do is to let their children be their own masters. If a child shows a hobby, don't interfere, but encourage him, which may become a skill of the child.
How to educate children to love learning
Interest is the driving force of learning. If children want to love learning, they should turn learning into interest. So how should we educate them?
1, to help children build interest in learning.
In order to make children interested in learning, it is necessary for them to establish confidence in learning, which is inseparable from the guidance of teachers and parents.
Communicate with children in an equal manner at ordinary times. In the process of communication, we should find the bright spots of children's study life and hobbies, find common topics, make friends with children, let children believe in you, encourage and appreciate children in ordinary life, and let children feel that they can do it. Only in this way can children find the feeling of success and naturally fall in love with learning if they are interested.
2. Help children set learning goals.
If children don't have clear goals, they will become blind in the process of learning, and they don't know why they want to learn and how to learn. When you can have a clear learning goal in your study and study to achieve this goal, learning is no longer annoying. On the contrary, learning will become an interesting and most important thing that can determine one's own destiny. Children will naturally fall in love with learning, and they will solve problems if they don't want to learn. This kind of learning is active, conscious and effective, not forced, stressful and inefficient.
How to educate children to be obedient
I believe some parents will complain that their children are always naughty and disobedient. The more you talk, the less you listen. I don't know how to educate to be obedient. In fact, as long as parents are willing to think hard, it is not difficult to get their children to obey.
If you want to educate your child to be obedient, parents must put down their posture and think from the child's point of view. What you think is a "small thing" is a big thing in the eyes of children. When you can understand the child from the perspective of the child, you will find that in fact, many times your criticism of the child will make the child feel wronged. Imagine not knowing how to be an obedient child.
Take time out to get along with children alone every day, do something of common interest together, and make friends with children. In this way, children are willing to tell their parents what they think. Parents, as children's listeners, supporters and spiritual companions, are often willing to listen to their parents.
How to educate children not to lie?
Parents should not think that it is okay for their children to lie occasionally. If they lie for a long time, they will definitely form the habit of lying, and most of this habit of lying is formed from childhood. To educate children not to lie, we must first understand the reasons why children lie. Only in this way can we prescribe the right medicine.
The survey found that the main reason why children lie is fear of being scolded and punished by their parents. Therefore, the first thing parents want their children not to lie is to gain mutual trust and understanding with their children. This is the premise of children's honesty. Let the child know that even if he tells a lie, you still love him and you can understand his feelings. Once the child tells a lie, discuss with the child what better way to replace lying in similar situations next time. In addition, don't threaten children with severe punishment. This method often makes children tell more lies and be more cunning, so as not to be discovered by you.
If you find that your child has lied, don't immediately accuse or preach in front of others. Why don't you find another time to talk to your child alone? In most cases, children lie because they are afraid of being punished, so try to let children tell why they are afraid of their parents knowing, so that you can know why children lie. If the child dares to admit that he has done something wrong, he can immediately praise him in special language.