A letter to a second-grade parent.
Dear parents:
Hello everyone! The new semester has started for a week. Some semesters in the eighth grade are very traditional Chinese medicine semesters, facing the dual task of connecting the preceding with the following. This semester is not only a period of students' development potential, but also a period of transformation, danger, climbing and watershed.
After children enter the second day, especially after the second day, the main difficulties they face are:
1, the course is more difficult and the capacity is increased. Physics is added to the second grade of junior high school, which will usher in the key point of the senior high school entrance examination-mechanics, accounting for almost half of the proportion of the senior high school entrance examination. The functions involved in junior two mathematics also create a new method for us to learn mathematics-the method of combining algebra with geometry. These are the difficulties for junior high school students to learn and understand. There are many senior high school entrance examinations in biology and geography, which makes the already complicated study burden very heavy.
2. Students' awareness of autonomy, independence and rebellion is enhanced. With the growth of age and constant familiarity with schools and teachers, some students no longer listen to their parents and teachers, but have their own views and opinions. Some students have the phenomenon of associating with unhealthy teenagers outside school.
3. Due to the rapid changes in physical and psychological development, students begin to enter adolescence and have the idea of being willing to associate with students of the opposite sex. If you can't give your child normal care and help at this time, your child's healthy growth will inevitably deviate from the normal track.
4. They don't have the freshness of entering junior high school, and they don't have too much pressure to enter higher schools brought by the senior high school entrance examination. Although parents are eager for their children to succeed, some students have poor self-discipline ability. Once they relax, their academic performance will drop and they will even feel tired of learning. How many students are there at this stage? Loose a loose, drop a drop; Grab it, go up, go up? Phenomenon.
Combining these factors, we must seize the opportunity of education, give them timely help and guidance, let children cross this watershed smoothly, and add a valuable wealth to their lives. Greatly increased education is willing to help you manage your children and let them grow up healthily while studying happily.
Introduction of Zengda Education Counseling Course: From Monday to Friday night, the main task is to finish the homework assigned that day, and with the help of the teacher, students will make clear what they didn't understand that day; On Saturday and Sunday mornings 10- 12, there will be explanations of the important and difficult points learned in physics and mathematics this week and previews of the learned contents, and English learning will be conducted on Sunday afternoons. In addition, time will be arranged to systematically review and recite the biology that is about to take the senior high school entrance examination (it is estimated that it will be arranged around May Day). In a word, if your child can't study hard at home, Zengda Education, located at No.51West of District D of People's Federation, is a good place for your child.
Finally, I wish all parents wish their children success, and wish women success! Best wishes to Shang Qi!
Zeng Zeng Education: Zeng Xiang Jun
2065438+7 March 2006
A Letter to Parents of Grade Two (Part Two)
Dear parents:
Hello!
The summer vacation has passed for a while, and the summer course of New Oriental has arrived as scheduled. I feel very honored to take my children to learn the new subject of physics this summer vacation. As a subject initiation teacher, I feel a great responsibility. As a student of science and engineering, I can tell you responsibly that physics is the most difficult subject in all disciplines, and it is also an indispensable basic subject in many fields such as science, engineering, biology and even medicine.
I am writing this letter to you, not to talk empty words, mainly to win the support and cooperation of my parents. This summer vacation, my classes are full. I am in senior two and senior three, from 8 am to 9 pm, ten hours a day. There is basically no time and energy to supervise children, and communication with you will inevitably be insufficient. Then I have made all the preparations in the early stage. This is what I need your cooperation. Please read it carefully and carry it out. Our purpose is only to let the children have a good grade!
Ensure the normal attendance of children and punch in before class; If something happens temporarily, you must be on the WeChat group @ Teacher to avoid the teacher being distracted by the students' real problems.
The formation of habits is very important for learning. Please allow me to express my gratitude to the children. Is it serious? . But don't worry, as a teacher with sound personality and good professional ethics, I will be very measured.
Parents' supervision and encouragement are essential, and parents are also expected to participate in their children's learning. In order to ensure the efficiency of the two-hour class, children will not be allowed to take notes slowly in class. When writing the textbook, I have edited the key notes before each chapter of the textbook in the form of fill-in-the-blank questions. In class, children only need to fill in the key contents, but after class, they need to copy them into their notebooks again through the electronic notes I provided. Then do your homework by taking photos and uploading them to our WeChat group? Punch in? . The next day in class, each class screened out several excellent notes to encourage them and cultivate their enthusiasm for learning. Want parents to do supervision and homework? Punch in? Work.
Entrance examination is a unique teaching feature of New Oriental. The purpose of the introductory exam is to test and review the knowledge of the last class. After counting the scores, I will explain them in class. Go out and test the mastery of this course. In order to improve the efficiency of class, I will ask my teaching assistant to send it to you through WeChat. And use my WeChat official account to do a good job of voice explanation for everyone. Please ask parents to supervise their children to listen to the explanation every day to confirm whether they understand. Is that included? Punch in? Punch form: Zhang San has understood the test. I will save all the entrance exams for you and send them to you at the parent-teacher meeting.
I hope parents can cultivate it? Look at the crowd? Due to the large number of people, it is difficult to tell them one by one. Some important things will be in the group @ everyone, please give an answer after seeing it.
If in doubt, please communicate with the teaching assistants in the group in time during the day. For important things, please communicate with WeChat privately. After class is over at 9 pm, I will reply one by one.
Well, I've said a lot. I arranged some for you, okay? Mission? Don't bother, again, children's grades can't be separated from parents' cooperation. I hope parents can set a good example for their children, and my younger brother would like to thank me (hand in hand ~).
What I can assure you is that Uncle Lei's physics class is never short of fun. As long as children are willing to learn, I have the ability to improve them. I dare not say anything else. For physics, Uncle Lei is the flag of New Oriental!
Ahem, I want to nag again:
The two things that parents, big brothers and big sisters need to cooperate most are: ① Punching in notes, in the form of taking photos and uploading them to the group. (2) go out to listen to the lecture, listen to the lecture and punch in. Form: Zhang San went out for the exam and got it.
Learning may be an achievement for children, a prestigious school or the future. In my opinion, the most important thing is the cultivation of habits and character. Good habits and personality will benefit you for life!
I hope the children are healthy and happy.
Hong lei
7. 18 night
A Letter to Parents of Grade Two (3)
Parents:
? The second day phenomenon? It is a new phenomenon in junior high school education at present, which means that junior high school students are more prone to all kinds of misconduct. ? The second day phenomenon? Yes: the dangerous stage of frequent accidents? . ? The watershed of ideological and moral character, academic performance and ability training. ? It is a hurdle: some adapt to the environment and stand out, while others don't, and they are in a state of many troubles.
? The second day phenomenon? Its specific performance is:? Dye your hair, boys have long hair, girls make up and make new friends? 、? Smoking? 、? Puppy love? Wait a minute. I like to over-express myself, causing classmates' laughter and confusion, even laughing at the teacher, making noise at will and ignoring the teacher's criticism; Attention can not be concentrated, resulting in learning difficulties, leading to a decline in academic performance; Often mixed with some irresponsible people, especially rebellious, can not listen to teachers and parents; Some will also have different degrees of confrontational emotions and bad behaviors such as escaping, lying, destroying or even leaving home (school); ? Idyllization? Fascinated; Eager to get the favor of the opposite sex, very bold to communicate with the opposite sex; Keep up with the joneses, follow the fashion, imitate adults to smoke and drink, or show coolness by smoking and drinking; Obsessed with online games and those fantasy worlds and romantic stories that describe boys and girls? Pocket book?
A careful understanding of the above performance is actually a common phenomenon among junior high school students, but why did it break out in the second day of junior high school? In my opinion, students are young and naive in primary school, and generally can listen to teachers and parents, behave well and obey the rules. After entering junior high school, I feel fresh and timid about the new campus and new study life in the first year. I can observe discipline and study hard. Senior three is a year to take the senior high school entrance examination. At this time, junior high school students have been able to understand the importance of the senior high school entrance examination, so they will be self-disciplined without major behavioral problems. It is precisely the second year of high school that the adaptation to the environment and the pressure of the senior high school entrance examination are relatively weak, which makes it a stage with frequent problems.
So why are there so many types of problems? Let me do some simple analysis:
1, teenagers' own reasons
1) Physiologically, it is in a special period: the average age of junior two children is 14, and almost all girls and boys are in adolescence. The right frontal lobe of the brain began to develop. Under the induction of endocrine factors, many significant changes have taken place in students' bodies, the most obvious of which is the acceleration of bone growth and the development of secondary sexual characteristics. Another important physiological phenomenon in adolescence is the emergence of various psychological activities related to sexual desire. For example, how to know love and how to deal with sexual consciousness and behavior. The curiosity and desire to explore brought by puberty sexual maturity promote the development of adolescent sexual consciousness. However, because parents and society adopt a closed or even shy attitude towards sex education, teenagers' curiosity about sex is unusually strengthened because of secular suppression. They are full of mystery about sex and are eager to know its secrets. But they dare not reveal it in front of teachers and parents, which leads to adolescent troubles. At this time, it is easy to form if you encounter bad external stimuli, such as pornographic scenes, pornographic publications and nude photos in movies and television? Can I have a try? Sexual impulse. In addition, teenagers' moral and legal concepts are not perfect enough, and this sexual impulse will gradually strengthen and become difficult to control. This makes it easy for students to enter the strange circle of sexual crimes and mistakes, and naturally some of the phenomena mentioned above appear.
2) Psychological changes: an obvious manifestation of adolescence in their psychology is that the gradual maturity of physiology leads to their longing or wrong psychological maturity. Therefore, they are as eager for or need heterosexual friends as adults, need independent space, and are not used to the constraints and discipline of teachers and parents. Psychologically, I am particularly rebellious to my parents and teachers. Physiological changes lead to more fantasies, more desires, inattention and poor ability to distinguish right from wrong; Strong sense of autonomy, but poor sense of restraint and self-control. Imitation, comparison and fashion are almost the common psychological orientation of these students, and there is polarization between excellent students and backward students. At the same time, children at this time pay special attention to their evaluation and status in the group. On the surface, they don't care about anything, but the herd mentality is obvious. Coupled with the long-term influence of teachers and parents' educational values, some students have unhealthy psychology such as nervousness, anxiety and inferiority. Due to the serious imbalance between psychological development and physical development, there will be some bad behaviors such as confrontation, evasion, lying, destruction and violence to varying degrees.
3) Sudden changes in learning style and knowledge structure: from primary school to junior high school, the convergence of knowledge structure is not very consistent. After the running-in of the first grade, there are new puzzles. From simple memory to understanding memory, to the second day of junior high school, we need the ability of abstract generalization. And the size of this ability will determine which pole students will go to polarization. At this time, students need to make more efforts and pay. Need more perseverance. This will also make some students who are not strong enough choose to escape and give up.
4) Immature cognition: Most senior two students are thirteen or fourteen years old, which is an extremely fragile age group and has poor ability to distinguish and resist various temptations in society. Junior high school students' critical thinking ability and comprehensive analysis ability have just begun to form, and they can't form a reasonable judgment on many bad phenomena in society. Therefore, the cognitive deviation of middle school students, especially junior two students, is most easily captured by the temptation of bad phenomena. Some Internet cafes and book stands near middle schools are doing well. Many students are obsessed with online games and games that describe fantasy worlds and romantic stories of boys and girls? Pocket book? . These are very attractive to middle school students? Extracurricular books? A large number of them were put into students' schoolbags or quietly brought into the classroom. Small circle? Pass it on to each other Some students even imitate the story that aristocratic children in the book are unwilling to read, flirt, and change their ways to oppose teachers and parents, and introduce them to each other among students or in society? Handsome guy? . Some middle school students have learned to cheat money since the second grade. Cognitive deviation makes them step into the swamp on the road of growth.
2. School factors
1) environmental factors: the middle school campus will be greatly improved compared with the primary school campus. Gymnasiums and spacious venues will bring more outdoor activities to students. It will also bring freshness to children. In the first day of junior high school, I changed from a big brother in primary school to a little brother in middle school. A year later, every corner of the campus was familiar with it, and a second child was born. At this time, the phenomenon of fighting and group fighting will also appear. It is inevitable to be jealous when standing.
2) School education is out of line with family requirements, which weakens the strength. The school requires students to develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically and laboriously, but some parents oppose students' participation in political activities and collective life, and only ask their children to do their homework and study hard, even fearing that their children will suffer a little.
3) Teachers' dereliction of duty: individual educators have one-sided thinking mode, single way, untimely or ineffective measures, etc. , prevent students who make mistakes from correcting their mistakes in time and adjusting their life course, thus causing the deterioration and spread of students' bad moral character. For example: (1) Some educators treat students equally, and sometimes reprimand, satirize and ridicule them, which hinder students from receiving education ideologically; Some teachers cheat, coax students, or drive them out of the classroom, or fail to grasp the law of students' ideological development and personality differences, and the educational conversation is dry and weak, which makes students unable to generate interest and mobilize their enthusiasm to wait. (2) The moral concept, moral behavior and moral quality of individual educators are not good, which has a bad influence on students. Does the above situation provide students with direct imitation or indirect influence? A role model? It provides conditions for its bad behavior.
3. Family factors
1) Family environment: The popularity of family networks will bring the temptation of the Internet to children, and wealthy families will cultivate the idea that children are exclusive or even do whatever they want. Poor families will bring inferiority, vanity and even depression to children. The dining and entertainment places in the society will also become places that children yearn for.
2) Improper family education. Family is a child's first school; Parents are the first teachers of the children. Therefore, the influence of family plays an important role in the cultivation of students' moral quality. Parents' words and deeds directly affect the formation of children's moral quality. In this regard, there are mainly the following problems. For example:
(1) Parents' own conduct is not good, and their example is not good. Some parents are rude all day and don't drink much, and some parents are even morally corrupt and have an unhealthy style. These will inevitably have an intangible impact on children.
(2) only raise and not teach, and pay more attention to raising and neglecting teaching. Some parents only care about their children's material needs, regardless of their spiritual needs; Some couples are not in harmony, leading to family breakdown and no one to take care of their children; Some parents think that education is a school teacher's business, which relaxes the strict discipline of the family and leaves a blank in family education.
(3) Two extremes, combining leniency with severity. This kind of education will also have serious consequences if one parent dotes on the child unprincipled, or if one parent is rude to the child.
(4) Different requirements cancel each other out. Some parents play the devil's advocate in front of their children, leaving them without certain standards of right and wrong. Over time, they will behave differently, which is bound to play a very bad role in the formation of their moral quality.
3) Special families: With the development of society, there are more and more divorced families and single-parent families. Even unmarried parents are not uncommon. According to the survey, children from divorced families in some schools account for 20% of the students in the whole school, and nearly half in individual classes. It is found that parents' divorce has a profound and lasting impact on their children's will, morality and emotional life, because their parents' behavior makes them deviate from their understanding of society, leading to children's psychological closure, sensitivity and aggression, depression, anxiety and paranoia. This influence will be obvious in their adult relationship.
4. Social factors
1) Bad influence of society: As they get older, they come into contact with more and more people or things and are influenced by various aspects. Money worship, hedonism and related ideology and lifestyle are the social reasons for students' unhealthy moral quality. Some vulgar and obscene books, movies, games, etc. I don't know how many students have been harmed. The surrounding environment of some schools is also not conducive to the growth of students. Nowadays, crime is younger, as evidenced by students' participation in school.
2) Academic pressure and social employment pressure: One of the reasons why students are afraid of learning is the heavy burden of learning, which makes many students subconsciously think of avoiding learning. High academic pressure is not a new problem. Most children as young as 1 1 understand the high expectations of parents and society for their children's future? Books have their own golden houses? Meaning of. Paying too much attention to one's studies will often lead many teenagers to neglect participating in other social activities, and even develop a tendency not to cultivate any personal hobbies. Students are a single learning machine, which naturally makes them feel boring, so they are particularly yearning and infatuated? Wonderful outside world? . In addition, from primary school to junior high school, high school to university, every pass will face greater pressure of academic upgrading. According to the survey, 63% students think that there is a big gap between their education in school and the skills they need for future employment, which has caused too much extra pressure and made them tired of studying in school. Coexisting with academic pressure is the pressure of employment competition. The need to find a good job makes teenagers feel the fierce social competition. Just being employed is still risky, and the ability to be employed is safe? These concepts force junior high school students who don't have a deep understanding to constantly go outside to improve? Your own ability? .
Seeing the above analysis, parents can't help asking: What should parents do? Here are some simple ideas for parents' reference:
1, you should be psychologically prepared for the changes of your child. If you have enough knowledge about children's psychological development, you will be more targeted in your education methods, so you don't have to use the same thing to deal with children. In terms of educational attitude, it will also give children more equality. After children enter junior high school, parents should learn some knowledge about puberty physiology and psychology in time, and find opportunities to give their children some books on adolescent education, so that children can understand their own changes, which can alleviate their anxiety and reduce the frequency of problems.
2. Strengthen contact with school teachers. During this time, parents need to worry more. If we can find early signs and do a good job in time, we can avoid more troubles. Having some simple telephone chats or face-to-face conversations with teachers every month can help parents understand their children's specific situation well.
3. Do a good job in family education
1) Parents should not pin their hopes on society and schools, which are factors beyond their control, so parents should make up their minds and take the initiative to take responsibility, and don't let their children go astray because of temporary luck.
2) Find problems: Take some time to observe children's behaviors in life. When you find some inappropriate behavior, you should take the initiative to say it. Don't give up just because the problem is not big. At this time, it will be easier to correct it.
3) Don't panic: Parents should not panic when they find problems. Generally speaking, this problem will not cause very serious consequences. At this time, parents need to calm down and judge whether the child's problem is serious and whether it is an objective fact. Subjective speculation is prohibited. Children at this stage want to be respected, so subjective speculation will stop children from expressing themselves in front of their parents.
4) Looking for opportunities to communicate: When it is confirmed that the child does have some inappropriate behaviors, parents should find some suitable opportunities to talk to the child about it. When eating, it is easier for children to talk before going to bed. Or they can have a real conversation by treating their professional partners. For example:? Dad has a question to discuss with you. I hope I can go to your room later. I wonder if you have time.
5) Matters needing attention in the communication process (Note: How parents communicate with their children is a very complicated process, and a separate topic needs to be written. Just write some key points here. For more details, please pay attention to: How parents communicate with their children)
(1) Skills of equal respect: When parents communicate with their children, they can imagine that their children have become a friend in their own lives, and they want to help this friend out of trouble. Then make a dialogue in your mind about the problem. In the simulation process, parents should put themselves in their children's shoes and see if their words can benefit them without touching them.
(2) Don't lose your temper, and don't reprimand. It's useless for adolescent children, it will only make them more disgusted and don't enter the wrong child.
(3) When speaking, face to face with children and make eye contact. The voice can be harsh, but it can show the importance of this matter.
(4) If you can't reach a consensus with your child, express your concern about your child's current situation and let your child know that your parents care about you. Tell the child that he will come to help and support him at any time if there is any problem.
6) Ask more questions: Parents should try not to preach the truth by themselves. Instead, you can admit some recognition to your child's thoughts first, and then ask more questions according to your child's situation to guide your child to think in a question-based way. Would be better than direct reasoning.
Attachment: Several types of manifestations of the phenomenon in Grade Two (reproduced):
1, failure type.
(1) Internal factors: curiosity, hyperactivity, temptation, fear and other psychological states or bad needs.
(2) External situation: At present, there are specific situations where this behavior is easy to succeed.
(3) Psychological activities and personality characteristics: The level of psychological development is low, mainly due to low cognitive ability, and most of them have not formed a relatively stable consciousness tendency.
(4) Behavior and characteristics: general disciplinary actions, such as swearing, fighting, playing pranks or lying occasionally, damaging things, skipping classes, etc. Generally, it is accidental, situational and blind.
(5) Behavior consequences: It has certain influence on the collective and others and hinders the formation of good moral character.
(6) Self-evaluation and experience: Self-evaluation is unstable, with a low level, and there are often psychological activities such as fear and regret.
(7) Nature and degree: discipline and morality, followed by.
2. Bad moral character.
(1) Internal cause: poor demand.
(2) External scenario: At present, there are situations where this behavior is easy to succeed or actively seek and create foul scenarios.
(3) Psychological activities and personality characteristics: Misunderstanding of moral norms or knowingly committing crimes, lack of moral sense, and resistance to temptation have mostly formed some bad moral consciousness and personality characteristics.
(4) Behavior and characteristics: adopting ways and means that violate the ethical norms, such as stealing, cheating, fighting, vagrancy, vandalism, etc. Generally, it is characterized by regularity, tendency, intentionality and even group.
(5) Behavior consequences: it will cause damage to the collective and others and hinder the formation of good moral quality.
(6) the cost and experience of self-expression: the cost of self-expression is often incorrect, easily influenced by partners or negative social costs, unwilling to accept the cost of educators, not regretting the consequences of actions, and even having a sense of satisfaction and pride.
(7) Nature and degree: moral problems, to a lesser extent.
3. Type of attack.
(1) Internal cause: negative emotions caused by setbacks, mainly anger.
(2) External scenario: the scenario of conflict with others after frustration.
(3) Mental activity and personality characteristics: emotional excitability, strong temperament, stubbornness and impatience.
(4) Behavior and characteristics: In order to eliminate the inner tension caused by anger, vent methods are mainly adopted, such as confrontation, revenge and anger. , are generally open and explosive.
(5) Behavioral consequences: causing some adverse effects on others or collectives and hindering the healthy development of personality.
(6) Self-expression price and experience: Self-expression price is often very high, and it is easy to be conceited and has a rebellious attitude towards other people's prices.
(7) Nature and degree: It belongs to emotional and personality problems, deep or shallow.
4. Depression type.
(1) Internal cause: negative emotions caused by setbacks, mainly anxiety.
(2) External scenario: the scenario where setbacks continue to work.
(3) Mental activity and personality characteristics: easy to be depressed and in a bad mood. Flags are mostly weak, mostly introverted and depressed.
(4) Behavioral style and characteristics: mainly take the form of escape or negative response, pessimistic disappointment and self-destruction, which are generally concealed and persistent.
(5) Behavioral consequences: generally, there is no obvious harm to others or collectives, mainly hindering the healthy development of personality.
(6) The cost and experience of self-expression: Generally, the cost of self-expression is low, which may be the encouragement of the educated.
(7) Nature and degree: It belongs to emotional and personality problems, and the degree is deeper.
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