Successful cases of mothers educating their children 1. Water dispenser incident
When my daughter is almost one year old, she is curious about everything, especially the switch of the water dispenser. Her grandmother was so worried about her that she kept watching her and stopped her. It is very difficult to know that adults always walk away, while her daughter can walk around in a walker. So I decided not to watch it. The switch of the water dispenser is not very dangerous. As soon as I let go, the water stopped. Let her burn it instead of watching it all the time. Soon, she burned, thinking it was dangerous, and she didn't touch it for a long time. By the way, I told her that we stopped her because this thing is dangerous, so remember that everything adults stop you from moving is reasonable. Don't think that one-year-old children don't understand, but they will. Well, girls should understand earlier and boys should understand later.
Second, the socket event.
When my daughter was almost two years old, she was very interested in the socket hole on the wall, so I brought her a tape recorder and told her that there was electricity in the hole on the wall, which was needed by the tape recorder. When plugging in, she needs to hold the plastic part in the back, which is safer. If she takes the first two pieces of metal, she will die, and her hands will be wet and she will die if she plugs into the socket. My daughter is still afraid of death. Although she may not understand what will happen, it is a very bad and terrible thing in short. When she was less than two years old, she learned to plug in the socket. From that day on, we often ask her XX to help me plug in this or that socket. She often drags her tape recorder to listen in this room, and then drags it to that room without asking us to help her. Well, she has lived safely until now. She has never been exposed to electricity, and I have never worried that she will get an electric shock. I even told her that if you see a metal wire and want to know if it is charged, you can try it with your back. If charged, it will hit you, it will hurt a little, it will be a little numb, but remember never to scratch it with your palm. The back of your hand will bounce off when touched, which is not dangerous. If it touches it, your palm will hold it tightly, which is fatal.
Third, change clothes for PP.
When my daughter is two years old, she wears her own clothes after taking a shower, but after wearing fresh clothes, she will try to be lazy. One day after taking a shower, I wore more than half of my clothes and said to me, Mom, please help me get dressed. I am happy to say, yes, but with conditions, I will help you wear a suit and let me type. I like the way you type. She thought about it and agreed to exchange it, so I helped her put on two socks and changed PP twice. I still remember that I hurt my hand twice. After the fight, her face was embarrassed, and I was intoxicated. It would be addictive to praise her how good PP feels. The next day, when I was dressing, I excitedly asked to help her dress, and repeatedly stated that I liked the feeling of hitting her PP, hoping that she would give me another chance to enjoy it.
Of course, I haven't found this opportunity to enjoy it up to now.
Fourth, go home by yourself.
My daughter is two and a half years old and has been in a small class for some time. She has a deep understanding of the rules that when the red light stops, the green light goes.
Once I took her shopping, told her I was going to work in downtown and asked her if she knew the way home and could go home by herself. Of course, she felt fine, so I followed her far away to see how she got home. My daughter waited for the traffic lights carefully at every intersection, and even waited for the sixth green light at one of the intersections. Afterwards, I learned that she not only looked at the green light, but also looked at whether other cars might run a red light when passing, and confirmed that 100% was safe before passing.
In fact, when children are responsible for themselves, they are far more responsible than adults think.
Bugs are very lovely creatures.
I'm afraid of those soft-skinned carnivores. Although I know it's actually harmless, I'm afraid.
Children don't know how to be afraid. My selfishness is to teach my daughter not to be afraid and help me stop bugs in the future. So one day there was only one peach with insects. I told her that the peach with insects was sweeter, and the insects inside were cute, fat and white, and could crawl. My daughter asked if the bug would bite me. I replied that these bugs are vegetarian, while you are carnivorous. When you are old, bugs can't bite.
My daughter was quite sure that she caught the bug in her hand and watched it crawl around. Her palm crawled back and forth, her left hand climbed to her right hand, and then climbed back to her left hand. When eating, she put the worms on the table and watched them eat. When she crawled away, she grabbed it and continued to look. I, I, I screamed in my throat, but I couldn't make a scared expression. If I look a little scared, my daughter will always be afraid of harmless bugs. I don't remember how I finished eating that time.
She began to bring back all kinds of bugs, big and small, to my home. Finally, my nerves became extremely strong, and I was no longer afraid of these fat and soft bugs. Then I found that some bugs have round heads and cartoon brains. We have always wanted to raise butterflies. It turns out that all these caterpillars will eventually grow into moths of all sizes.
Sixth, sex education.
Every child will ask himself where he is from. I've been waiting. Finally, she asked, so I took her to buy two anatomical maps and found two external maps. Then explained in detail all the organs, the function of each organ, including the different reproductive organs of men and women, where she came from and how she came out. The summary is how to go out as you come in, but you need a microscope to see it, and you will be a big baby when you come out ten months later. This is just common sense. To tell the truth, I think so, and so does my daughter. It's not mysterious at all. After fully understanding this, my daughter is no longer interested in it. When others tease her, she will calm her face and tell them in detail where she comes from. Everyone comes out like this.
Seven, lying on the ground crying.
My daughter seldom uses crying as a means to achieve her goal, because she has never succeeded once. After a small class, she saw a successful case and learned to use it. One day, in order to eat rice porridge with us, she still had to lie on the ground alone. Our family should do whatever it wants and be her air. Thanks to my mother, she began to sweep the floor. She went to the place where her daughter was lying and said to her, come, lie down for a while. I want to sweep the floor here. Stay out of the way. I will clean and play before you lie down. So the daughter moved and continued to lie down and cry. Later, she said, well, I have cleaned this place, so you can lie back. My two-and-a-half-year-old daughter actually lay back in her original place, whining. Our whole family hid and laughed wildly. My daughter stayed in the air for half an hour and finally found that other people's success stories could not be successful for her. She stood up and said, please, I also think rice porridge is delicious. After that, she went to eat clean rice porridge.
Until now, I have never seen her cry on the ground as a means to achieve her goal. In fact, many children's behavior is just temptation. If they were stopped for the first time, the same behavior would hardly happen again.
Eight, not eating is your own loss, not others'.
One day, we quarreled before dinner. I put the bowl heavily on the dining table and said, I'm tired of seeing you. I won't eat it. I said at once, yes, but I can't eat anything before the next meal. My daughter began to feel a little guilty. Go on, I'm not saying I won't eat. I just won't eat with you. I'll eat after you finish eating. I answered her, either eat together now or save it for next time. There is no third option. She said angrily, then I won't eat.
After we finished eating, we got rid of the counter and began to discuss with a smile. How can such a stupid person threaten others without eating? It's funny that he threatened others with hunger. Ha ha ha ha ha, at the expense of a hungry stomach, my daughter understands that it is foolish to threaten others by hurting herself. A similar thing never happened in her life again.
The way mothers educate their children is 1. Children don't need to be too smart and edgy. I don't think this is a good thing. The key is to cultivate good habits (good habits determine good life).
2, the environment is very important, you have to do it right (parents are children's teachers, and parents' words and deeds will definitely affect children).
3, don't easily form a bad habit, then you will find that the time to correct a bad habit will be twice or three times that of forming a habit; Don't introduce new bad habits to children because of short-term interests. For example, because children don't eat, you can turn on the TV for them to watch, so as to achieve the goal of feeding more (it is easier to learn bad than to learn well! Be sure to develop good habits of life and study for children.
4. Respect children and get used to empathy (we also need democracy for children and respect their words and deeds).
5. To tell the truth, when you find that some truth is not necessarily effective, you should pay attention to your speaking skills. You'd rather say half, say diplomatic words and don't lie (hehe, it's true! If it will hit children, it may get a very different effect if expressed in another way.)
6. Say what children can understand. Mothers who are used to reasoning should be concise and clear, and avoid being like Tang Priest (now children's understanding ability is much stronger than we think)
7. Educate children to pay attention to skills, step by step, don't eat fat, and step by step; Understand children's current characteristics, and don't encourage them (pay attention to cultivating children's interests and hobbies, so that children can get all-round development)
8, prescient, knowing that doing so may cause children's strong resistance and compromise with themselves, then don't interfere with children, otherwise the final result will only be worse and not better (know the child's temper and personality, be a good mother who can understand the child).
9, eat, pay attention to a more balanced proportion, not too fine; /kloc-before the age of 0/year, children should ensure the amount of milk; Pay attention to three meals after one year old; If you can't balance all kinds of diets in one day, it's ok to mix all kinds of diets in one week (the most important thing is that the children are in good health)