What should children do if they are willful in public? Parents must not neglect their mental health. The future depends on their growth at this stage. Solving the problem is to clear the way for their development. All parents should attach importance to their children's education. Now, what if they share their children's willfulness in public?
What should children do if they are willful in public? 1 Calm down and don't lose your rhythm.
It doesn't matter if the child cries willfully. Don't panic because of embarrassment Remember, not many people have time to stare at you all the time! When the child is willful, you must keep calm and don't lose rhythm. Face the child calmly and let him know that splashing water is not the solution to the problem. Then slowly calm the child's emotions.
Be clear about your attitude
A child cries willfully, probably because he wants a toy or doesn't want to do something, but no matter what the reason is, you must clearly tell the child that crying is not enough, and you won't agree to his request just because he cries! This will also make children realize faster that fooling around is not feasible.
Don't give your child a chance to be willful.
Every interaction with children is a mutual test. He is testing us, and we are testing him. If the child cries, give him candy to eat. Then don't expect him to be honest at the next activity. The crying nightmare will be staged again. Since willfulness can be exchanged for candy, of course, it must be willful several times.
Divert the child's attention.
Children's attention is easily distracted. Once his attention is attracted by something else, he will immediately forget what is happening now. If the child keeps crying, it's no use persuading him. You can wipe his face and say something else. When he finished, he was finished.
Ignore, treat coldly
Sometimes a child is fooling around to concentrate. The more you pay attention to him, the more headstrong he becomes. You can leave for a period of time, wait for the child's mood to stabilize, and then tell him: it was wrong for you to fool around just now. If you do this, I will ignore you!
There are actually many reasons why children are willful. As long as you find the right reason, you can solve the child's willful crying without hurting the child's feelings!
What are you waiting for?
What should children do if they are willful in public? 2 1. Relieve their emotions and guide them slowly.
When children don't buy their favorite toys, they will be very disappointed and depressed. Under the influence of various complex emotions, they can't think of a better way, so they can only choose to vent their emotions by punching and kicking. At this time, it is useless to reason with children, let alone insult or even beat them.
We have to wait for the child's mood to ease, and then slowly guide. Can take the form of rhetorical question: Baby, why did you buy this toy? Where is good? How is it different from toys at home? Why don't you like your old toys?
After some heart-to-heart talk, the children stopped rolling and losing their temper.
2. Designate a toy day.
You know, there is nothing wrong with children buying toys, but there is something wrong with the frequency of buying them. Therefore, we can make toy purchase days with children to reduce this frequency. It can be once every two weeks or once a month, and only one toy can be bought at a time.
People were very excited when they first heard me say this method. They clap their thighs and say, that's it for the future!
Every time, she will prominently mark the date of buying toys in the month on the calendar. After reading the picture book with Tingting in the evening, she will ask Tingting to cross out the date of the day and sum up what she has learned, how she is doing, and whether she is happy or not.
A few days before the toy purchase day, people will enthusiastically tell Xiao Tingting, "Baby, we can buy toys the day after tomorrow. Do you want to buy a bunny or Lego this time? "
This kind of inquiry can make Tingting really feel that the toy purchase day is approaching day by day, and she is particularly looking forward to it. The moment she got the toy, Tingting's satisfaction was greatly improved. In the face of "hard-won" toys, Tingting cherishes it very much.
On the last toy purchase day, I got a panda doll, and Xiao Tingting held the panda tightly in her arms. That moment was definitely the brightest smile since I bought the toy. After I buy it, I will take the panda out to touch and play every day. I can't put it down.
Of course, this process is not always smooth.
Yun Yun told me that it wasn't toy shopping day some time ago, but I need to buy a birthday present for Tingting's cousin. She took a fancy to a big dinosaur in the toy store and kept holding Yun Yun's hand and said, "Mom, buy a dinosaur!"
Everyone looked at the dinosaur, squatted down and took Tingting's hand and said, "Mom knows Tingting wants this dinosaur very much. This dinosaur is bigger than the dinosaur at home. It must be fun, but today is not toy buying day. It's toy shopping day in a few days. It was Saturday. Mom and dad brought you to buy this dinosaur in the morning. Please touch this dinosaur first. Is that okay? "
Tingting looked tangled, as if she understood, but she didn't. She didn't believe it until she repeatedly promised to buy it in a few days. When she left, the crowd asked her to say goodbye to the dinosaur. Tingting is very sensible, reluctantly waved goodbye to the dinosaur and left the toy store hand in hand with her parents.
Since the toy purchase day, Tingting's life has been more expected and she knows how to communicate with her parents. Independent, she will tell her mother what toys she wants in advance, and she is rarely willful. This change finally made her put down her hanging heart and her face was full of smiles.
In the process of making toy purchase date with children, parents and children have made rules together, so as parents, we must unswervingly abide by the rules and cannot change them at will. Speaking of impatient babies, we have to come up with a third killer.
3. Decisively refuse and then cool down.
When you shouldn't buy toys, no matter how the children cry and splash water in public, you will resolutely refuse to buy them, decisively refuse them and quickly take them away from the scene.
When the child's mood is calm and no longer noisy, we will come back and reason with the child and let the child know that it is not advisable to "threaten" mom and dad by rolling.
After several tests, children will know that crying and splashing are useless. For her toys, she will calm down, understand the rules and be willing to abide by them.
When the children are older, you can also make a list method to solve some difficult problems.
This method to be played next is suitable for all babies!
Step 4 encourage praise
After the implementation of the rule system for a period of time, we must sum up and affirm the performance of children and give appropriate encouragement and rewards. Children will feel a sense of accomplishment when they hear your praise, so as to abide by the agreed rules more firmly.
My baby Jiale especially likes me to praise her. Every time she hears my praise, she will dance with joy and be lovely, and then she will remember what I said next time and do things well.
Of course, when we praise, we should also decide according to the actual performance of the children, seeking truth from facts and not exaggerating. The content of praise should be specific, and children should know what they have been praised and what needs to be improved.
Once this encouragement mechanism is formed, the child will learn to abide by the system and restrain her willfulness, which is beneficial to her growth.
Dear mom and dad, if you have the same trouble, try these four methods quickly.
Finally, Mommy Dandan has something to say:
Parents should make corresponding treatment according to different situations. As far as possible, when the child is willful in the early stage, take the appropriate way. Only in this way, children will not "bully" you.
We should also know that the family environment will affect the child's life, and the cultivation and careful teaching of parents are particularly important for the child's growth. Even if the child is willful occasionally, parents should not be too harsh, because the child is just born with a blank sheet of paper. They need to explore and make progress in continuous learning, and they need the correct guidance of our parents.
May every child grow up healthily and happily.