From these reference books, we can seek some methods and skills, including psychological education, sex education and parent-child reading. These books can give some answers. Of course, we must combine the actual situation, according to the suggestions put forward in the book, constantly explore in practice, and find the right way for ourselves.
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How to say that children will listen, how to listen to children will talk.
"Why are you so disobedient?" Parents often can't help but blurt out their children's behavior, but children's scolding of their parents often goes in one ear and out the other, but they don't listen to anything.
Countless parents are worried about this, and the family is full of shouting and killing, but it is useless. The smell of gunpowder is getting stronger and stronger, but the problem cannot be solved. "How to say that children will listen, how to listen to children" will help you learn a magical language that makes children obedient. This language of love makes it easy for children to accept your requests and suggestions.
This is a mutual respect and practical communication method provided by two excellent education experts, which makes the relationship between parents and children of all ages easier and more quality, and shares their views and suggestions with parents. Focusing on "how to say" and "how to listen", this paper discusses and practices from six aspects:
1 to help children face their feelings;
2. Encourage children to cooperate with us;
3. Alternative punishment methods;
4. Encourage children to stand on their own feet;
5. Appreciate children properly;
6. Free the child from the role.
In order to realize 30 kinds of skills in these six aspects, the author clearly and concisely created a set of operation methods, with a large number of common scenarios and problems explained, and corresponding exercises, so that parents can learn these skills by heart, use them flexibly, and respond to various situations at any time.
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The power of six a's
Six A refers to the six principles of active children's education, because these six principles all start with "A" in English words, so they are called six A. 6A principle is a set of practical principles for educating children, which was researched and sorted out by Dr. mcdowell in the United States.
Acceptance-the basis of building a sense of security and belonging;
Appreciation-the secret of building a healthy self-image;
Emotional care-the vitamin of the soul;
Available time-giving time is love;
Accountability-cultivate mature self-control and judgment;
Authority Authority-The balance between love and discipline is the best authority.
These six principles will help you learn how to be a good role model for children in compassion, character building and perseverance. You will find that being a hero is not difficult, and it is full of fun and a sense of accomplishment. It can help you build a close relationship with your children and make your children live a full and fruitful life in this dangerous and tempting world.
The first four of the six principles can help you build a close relationship with your children. When you have a close relationship, then you should emphasize the responsibility with your child, restrain him at the same time, and help him not to evade responsibility and take responsibility.
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Give me your hand, son.
Teenagers are a turbulent period, full of pressure and storms. Children will resist authority and customs, parents' help will be resented, guidance will be rejected, and attention will be regarded as an attack. Dr. Heim G. Guinot provided detailed, effective, concrete and feasible methods on how to help, guide and communicate with teenagers.
Love alone is not enough, and insight is not enough. This book tells good parents how to acquire and use these skills. It provides concrete suggestions and desirable solutions for all parents facing daily situations and psychological problems.
According to the basic communication principles, some concrete suggestions are given to guide parents to respect each other when they get along with their children. Of course, some practical communication skills mentioned can also be flexibly applied to all other interpersonal relationships to help us adults improve various interpersonal relationships.
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The sensitive period of catching children
Why do children always cram everything into their mouths? Why do you keep throwing away what you have? If you pick them up and give them to him, he will throw them away again. Why do you always put buckets and shovels on your head? Why do you always get into the closet under the table? ...
Eat hands, throw things, make holes, "hit" people and say "no" ... did you help him or stop him? These behaviors of children are actually learning-driven by the inherent nature of life, learning from the external environment and life itself.
This book contains more than 200 real cases of children (0 ~ 10 years old) in the sensitive period, all of which are recorded by parents or teachers and commented by Sun Ruixue, a famous early childhood educator and psychologist.
The so-called "sensitive period" refers to the process that children concentrate on absorbing the characteristics of something in the environment and repeat this practice within a certain period of time when they are growing up at the age of 0-6. After successfully passing through the sensitive period, the child's psychological level will rise to a new height.
I hope parents can understand the law of children's growth and crack the secrets of their hearts. Help children get through every sensitive period smoothly, walk into their hearts, respect their behaviors in different periods and guide them correctly to release their inner vitality.
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Be good at virginity
Sex education is an important issue that all parents can't avoid. Are you always shy and shy? Afraid that the answer is irrelevant, but let the children go astray? How should father and daughter, mother and son spend the sensitive period? Sex education begins when you start to face all kinds of embarrassing questions raised by your children. ...
As parents, how to educate and guide children and care about their physical and mental safety? What should parents do after a child has suffered sexual assault? This book will give the corresponding answer.
For those questions that make parents feel embarrassed, this book explains them through examples, so that parents can make more appropriate answers, understand their children's behavior and find the right way to lead their children to grow up healthily. It can be said that this is a good reference book, and adults can find corresponding treatment and coping methods at any time according to their children's behaviors.
Understanding Naivety has a series of works, which can be selected according to the age of children.
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Sears parenting classic
Sears intimate parenting practice manual leads readers to understand how parent-child relationship develops from birth to adolescence and how intimate relationship affects children's success.
The first part is to check whether the intimate relationship between parents and children is smooth, because it determines the emotional and intellectual development of children. The second part instructs parents how to turn good parent-child relationship into more specific success skills-communication skills, empathy, self-confidence and security, and so on.
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Read the manual aloud.
Reading Manual is a summary of Trilis's research and practice on children's reading guidance for decades.
This book answers all kinds of questions about reading aloud in detail with rich, concrete and credible cases: when should I start reading aloud to my children? What kind of books are good reading materials? How about reading comic books? How to properly handle the problem of watching TV? How to strike a balance between books and computers? This book expounds the functions, methods and precautions of reading aloud.
Numerous studies have shown that children who love reading have stronger thinking ability, stronger problem-solving ability and stronger tolerance for setbacks, thus achieving greater success. Reading aloud to children is such a magical effect! This book has helped countless parents and teachers solve educational problems and made countless children lifelong book lovers. Share the fun of reading aloud with your children and read aloud for them!
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The seed of happiness
Mr. Song Juzhi, the "father of Japanese picture books", systematically introduced the important role of picture books in children's growth with his childhood growth, parenting experience and deep understanding of children's book publishing industry, and quoted many vivid examples to teach parents and teachers how to choose excellent picture books for their children and how to guide their children to read. Let the happy picture of "parent-child reading together" become a warm memory that children will never forget when they grow up.
Nowadays, more and more parents attach importance to parent-child reading, which is also an enlightenment book of "parent-child reading", witnessing the popularization and promotion of parent-child reading in picture books in China. Almost everyone wants to have a look. Adults who draw books in the palace, as long as this book is in hand, almost all have passes to share the journey of reading trains and picture books with their children.