Independence is an important quality of children's life development. In our country, most families are only children, and parents do everything for their children and give them whatever they want. Under such a development, children are bound to have strong dependence and poor independence. So that in the activity class, I will find that several children will say "I can't teach" and "help me", and some children will even secretly ask other children for help. What is even more ridiculous is that when children enter middle school, parents have to pack their schoolbags, urge them to do their homework, and wash their clothes and trousers. And their requirement for children is to be obedient at ordinary times, thinking that obedient children are obedient. In this ever-changing modern society, children need to have the ability to think, judge and choose problems independently. A docile tool was eliminated by the club. And early childhood is the stage of laying the foundation. Therefore, with the joint efforts of the family, we need to cultivate children's independence in early childhood and create good conditions and environment for the development of children's independence. Cultivating children's independence in one-day activities With the development of children's bodies, the expansion of their activities and the enhancement of their activities, their desire to know and explore the objective world becomes more and more urgent. They are talkative and active, like new and different stimuli, and their cognitive activities are increasingly active. Therefore, we can let children start from some small things around them, and let them learn to eat, dress, pack toys and so on. Although sometimes they eat slowly, their clothes are not neatly dressed and their toys are not very clean, we let the children make their own decisions during the activities, giving them the feeling of being small masters and making them feel the fun of doing things independently during the activities. In order to cultivate their awareness of doing their own thing. Cultivate children's independence in education and teaching. I remember an educator saying, "Educators should first guide their children along the road of independence." She believes that children themselves have great development potential, so we should respect children's autonomy and independence and let them develop in activities. For example; In our usual regional activities, teachers can let children freely choose areas, activities, game roles, game links and game modes, so that children can fully feel their freedom of choice, exploration and expression. When there are contradictions between children, teachers can give children the right to solve problems, give them the ability to independently adjust their emotions and behaviors, form their own judgments on things, and then form their own unique ways of thinking and behavior. At the same time, we should also respect children, pay attention to the tone and way of talking to them, and listen carefully so that children can feel that you are respecting them. Don't call children "useless" and "stupid" in public, which will deeply hurt their self-esteem. Treat children equally and respect their personality. In this way, it is helpful for children's emotional development and the formation of independent personality. Children's independent ability is not only through the education and training of kindergarten teachers, but also through the subtle influence of parents, because they spend more time at home. If parents do everything for their children in real life, children's independent ability will be poor, which will bring certain difficulties to our teachers' work. Therefore, in our daily work, we explain to parents the importance of cultivating children's independent ability, strive for parents' understanding and cooperation, unify our thinking with parents and maintain the consistency of family education. In this way, day after day, children's independence will be improved. Where are the parents? We can start from the following two aspects: let children do what they can and cultivate independence in practice. Self-care ability is an important content of independence cultivation. Let the child do what he can. For example, eating by yourself, dressing and undressing by yourself, handing dishes and chopsticks when eating, and taking soap when parents wash clothes. In fact, this is a good life education, which invisibly cultivates children's habit of hard work and lays the foundation for independent life in the future. At the same time, children get exercise and development in the process of doing things, which is value. As long as the child is willing to do it, parents will encourage him and give him self-confidence, which is the driving force to cultivate independence. To cultivate children's initial thinking ability, it is necessary to encourage children to do things independently and to encourage children to think independently. Let children think for themselves about everything that they can think for themselves, and cultivate their habit and ability of independent thinking. Nowadays, parents attach importance to their children's intellectual development and encourage them to ask questions. However, when telling their children knowledge or answering questions, parents should also ask their children questions to make them think and encourage them to use their brains. For example, a child asks his mother why there are no traffic lights on the overpass. Mother didn't answer him, but let him think about why there are traffic lights at the intersection of the road and what are the functions of traffic lights. The child thought about it and found the answer by himself. It's good for mom to do this. Instead of answering children's questions, it inspires children to think and solve problems by themselves. In a word, children are our future and hope. Their growth and progress need our care, love, guidance and education. Whether we are teachers or parents, we should be careful, patient and enthusiastic about our children in life and guide them to gradually develop good independence. Give children more opportunities to try and experience, and actively encourage their every progress. Help them establish self-confidence and let them grow up healthily, lively and happily in this ever-changing modern society!