Life education lies not only in parents' suggestions, but also in children's experiences, which are carefully designed by parents and educators. Life education and life experience education are the foundation of all human knowledge. Without this kind of education, all subject knowledge is a building without foundation!
So, how to experience it?
First of all, cultivate people's willpower in the bitter experience of physical exercise. The guarantee of life is health-from physical health to mental health. So early life is not only the development and cultivation of intelligence, but also the cultivation of physical strength! The cultivation of physical strength is different from the cultivation of intelligence, because the cultivation of physical strength is bound to be accompanied by the cultivation of willpower. At this point, many parents have ignored it! Therefore, many people with high IQ now often have a mismatch between willpower and intelligence. It is suggested that children must take part in some physical exercise when they are young. Only when people have endured physical pain can they bear the hardships of life. Cultivating willpower should start with physical training.
Secondly, cultivate people's sociality and sense of responsibility in the experience of giving. People's lives are not independent, which has been proved by their incompetence and helplessness in their early years. Let the children who have been paying in their early years know how to pay. People who only accept and don't pay must be selfish, and selfish people are not complete people. How can we make children know how to pay? That is, parents should learn to show weakness and let children share some responsibilities and tasks in the family. Any parent who arranges his life must get a selfish and ungrateful child. Students at school also have to pay. While accepting knowledge, we should also voluntarily participate in social service activities, so that they can understand that this society can only survive by helping each other! Knowing the word "person" in mutual assistance is the truth of mutual assistance.
Third, cultivate people's sense of value in the experience of success and happiness. The biggest drawback of modern education is top-notch education, which puts pressure on those unintelligent children and makes them feel frustrated. In fact, "since God has given talents, let them find jobs!" . Everyone should be valuable in a certain position in society. Therefore, the primary task of education is not to instill knowledge, but to discover the talents of each student. Help children discover their unique talents, let them show and constantly surpass themselves, and let them feel their value and pride in the process of receiving education! Thus, life has meaning and life is created!
I want to say that it is not difficult to know the value and meaning of life, but the most difficult thing is to experience the hardships of life! Many people envy others for being so lucky and successful, but feel that their experience is unfortunate and it is difficult to succeed. It's like watching people raise their children, so fast and so easy. In fact, women are as painful as giving birth to children, and life is as hard!
I also want to say that if you see wonders, you must climb the peak through hard work; If you don't want to work hard and enjoy the scenery in front of the door, why not? Do what you can, and you will get something! Circumstances are created by the heart, and things are artificial. Life is more colorful than non-life, and life and nature are the same!
Interview speech
Teacher Li Meijin is an expert in criminal psychology. After more than 20 years of research, she has contacted a large number of prisoners and mastered a lot of first-hand information. From a lot of first-hand materials, she summed up a common problem, that is, these people lack good early education.
Good early education is not to teach children how many books they have read and how many words they have recognized, but to build deep feelings with children and lay a deep spiritual foundation. Parent-child affection is deep, parents love their children day after day, pay attention to their progress and witness their growth process. Under the sunshine and rain of parents, children are full of emotions, full of sunshine in their hearts and extensive social contacts. They have love and friends everywhere they go. Will they take risks to commit crimes? !
Children embark on the road of crime. First, because of the lack of love, parents are indifferent, and adventure is their natural choice. Second, because of excessive love, they have developed their arrogant, overbearing and arbitrary character. They don't treat people as people, and they don't treat rules as rules. If their personality expands to the limit, they will certainly embark on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes.
Of course, crime prevention is only the minimum requirement of parents for their children. Parents generally have higher requirements for their children, hoping that their children can get ahead and honor their ancestors. In order to let children achieve this goal, parents let their children study, study, study, read, read and read again from an early age. The child turned a deaf ear to what was going on outside the window, read the sage book with all his heart and read the master's and doctor's degree in one breath. Finally, the family's dream of "turning dragons into phoenixes" came true. However, if parents' early education lacks life education, experience education, gratitude education and happiness education, children's hearts lack the main line of affection and love, and they can't feel happiness, happiness and satisfaction in their study, work and life, their life mansion is also fragile: a small setback and setback may make them see through the world of mortals and forget all about it, so that all the glory and glory in the past can be instantly zero.
Although only a few people commit crimes and commit suicide, this does not mean that it has little to do with more parents and children. Ordinary parents don't pay attention to their children's early education, or they don't pay enough attention to it, or the education is illegal and not in place, or they ignore or omit some educational contents. Even if the child does not embark on the road of crime and suicide, there will be problems such as rebellion, weariness of learning, indifference, loneliness, internet addiction, fighting and running away from home.
Teacher Li Meijin's analysis and explanation of parents' early education is very detailed, thorough and incisive. After reading these analyses and discussions, ordinary parents will unconsciously find out what debts we owe and what classes we are missing. In the future, we will have a certain understanding of what we should do and how to do it. I hope this interview with Mr. Li Can can awaken parents' misty hearts, and make them feel suddenly enlightened when educating their children, so that both parents and children can walk out of the predicament and move towards the bright future.