Family education experience, about 500 words. Parents are the first teachers of the children. Good family education is very important for children's growth. Here are some experiences told by a parent.
From my parents' initial enlightenment education to my daughter's education at the moment, my life experience has warned me that family education is no less important to children than school education, and even determines their development direction and affects their life. Now I will talk about my experience on the issue of family education.
Adults are the target. Learning to be a man is the foundation of children, and children will benefit for life. Educate children to have a healthy psychology and a sound personality, and never let them become knowledgeable, eccentric, indifferent to their parents and indifferent to others and society. We should treat children as independent people, fully respect and understand them, and reason with them no matter how big their mistakes are. I have always adhered to this educational principle for children, so that they can get all-round development in all aspects of morality, intelligence, physique and art under the education of schools, society and families, and at least become qualified citizens who are beneficial to society and adapt to modern society.
Parents are mirrors. "Genius" cannot be created, but as long as parents seize the opportunity to discover, cultivate and develop their children's talents and follow their own life path with self-diligence, children may succeed. Parents are not only natural teachers, but also guardians, partners, friends and role models. Children's words and deeds reflect their parents' ideology. It is not easy to be a parent, and it is even harder to be a good parent. That's true. How to be a good parent, I think, first of all, we should strive to "learn to care". Parents should set an example, care about the society, the country, others, friends and colleagues. Make them respect the old and love the young, be humble and help each other, be tolerant and generous, and be kind to others. Secondly, we should strengthen our self-cultivation. Parents should adhere to moral education, abide by the law, and consciously demonstrate to their children practical activities to improve their own moral quality in line with socialist moral principles and norms. Thirdly, we should create a harmonious environment. The educational environment is a thermometer for children's growth. To build a harmonious family and society, the subtle influence of family life atmosphere can not be ignored, and the moral spirit of family elders can not be underestimated. If children live with proper praise and encouragement, they will learn self-esteem and self-confidence. Living in humiliation, he will learn to feel inferior; Living in equality, he will learn justice; Living with quarrels, complaints, preferences and lack of warmth, he will learn sophistry, blame, jealousy and indifference ... This reality is "teaching without words". Not alarmist.
Family education experience, about 500 words. Two children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, with poor ability to distinguish right from wrong, strong curiosity, strong understanding and strong imitation ability. Therefore, parents should never use simple and rude methods when educating their children. We should be good at guiding, try our best to stimulate their interest and change passive learning into active learning. They should mainly do the following work:
First, cultivate children's good study habits.
Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the formation of habits." "All good attitudes and good methods should become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit, a good attitude can be expressed anytime and anywhere, and a good method can be applied anytime and anywhere, as if by instinct, it will never be used up in a lifetime. " Children's concentration time is short, so they must improve their learning efficiency in peacetime. For example, when writing homework, you should finish the homework assigned by the teacher within the specified time, and you can't play while doing it; Homework self-examination, self-responsibility, parents are not allowed to be teachers; Parents must pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for the wrong questions, not just staring at the scores. This makes children feel that learning is their own business, and good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort.
Second, pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with children.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use "we" more than "you should", even if it is criticism, let your child feel your love for him. Because children's hearts are very fragile, if parents often give their children classes, they will inevitably have a sense of fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology. Not only do they not like what you say, but they are afraid to go to school.
Third, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
As parents, we should pay special attention to our self-image. In front of children, parents should be polite and behave appropriately. Because parents are role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Of course, we must have great endurance and be patient with children. Don't use your child as a vent bucket when you encounter troubles at work. As parents, you can't lose your temper. You can only take pains to persuade education. At most, you can only euphemistically say "I'm really angry if you do this again", and then patiently guide and persuade.
In short, for children's family education, we should learn to communicate with them attentively, help them develop good study habits, stimulate their interest in learning, and let them study happily and grow up healthily.
How to educate and cultivate children is the focus of today's society. Children from kindergarten to primary school, from primary school to junior high school, high school and finally to college are the central topics people talk about. It is not surprising that parents and grandparents often arrange the life of the whole family around a child.
Times have changed, the living environment is superior, and family planning makes a family have only one child. Who doesn't care who doesn't love? This also invisibly gives children a sense of self-superiority. Even if some parents don't spoil their children, this phenomenon in society will affect their children, and children are very aware of their "status" at home. According to the analysis of these phenomena, children nowadays generally have the following problems: (1) There are too many entertainment items and they are not interested in learning; Good living conditions, do not want to suffer more; Too many people love you, but you don't listen to the opposite opinion, and so on. Therefore, educating and cultivating children is quite a headache. Here, I will briefly talk about my experience and lessons brought by my success and failure in this respect, and also give other parents a reference.
The problems of education and raising children cannot be explained quickly. It needs a rather difficult, complicated and long stage, and then after this stage, we can constantly sum up experiences and lessons and take measures, which may or may not be successful. But as long as you keep working hard, keep paying pain and cost, and treat everything correctly, you will have good results.
I didn't deliberately raise my children, but the necessary care and education were not omitted. The first is to learn how to communicate with each other, how to cultivate the feelings between father and son, and how to talk to him. There is no need to talk about the truth. At this point, some parents mistakenly think that telling the truth to their children will have a good result, but they don't! Children are born naive and like to listen to happy things. Unhappy things can cause disgust, even alienate you, and you can't communicate. This is very important. I think if my children like me, get close to me and even worship me, this is the first step to success. Next, it is not impossible for him to listen to some truth occasionally. Of course, don't push your luck, otherwise it will be completely abandoned. The reason should be easy to understand, as long as he understands, he will stop immediately, otherwise he will give up the important reason. In addition, after children get along with their parents, they will naturally ask many questions for their parents to answer. Parents must seriously answer questions within their power. If they let their children down, they will ask fewer questions. At this point, obstacles will begin to appear and crises will begin to lurk.
Family education is about 500 words. Family education is an important part of the whole education system. We often say, "Family is a school where children are always attached and never stop classes, and parents are the first teachers who never leave their posts." It is through family education that parents subtly pass on their lofty moral character, profound knowledge and rich life experience to the next generation, and will accompany their children through the whole life journey.
First, create a good family environment.
Family harmony is very important for children's growth. Love between family members will help children learn tolerance, understanding, love, love others and love themselves. Without the care of family, children will become more and more indifferent and selfish. I have seen many cases, such as children's depravity and numbness, all because of the lack of love in the family. Imagine a child who doesn't even love his parents and family, will he still care about strangers? Therefore, we must create a warm and harmonious family life for our children and let them live a happy and worry-free life.
Second, let children learn to do things by themselves as soon as possible and cultivate their labor habits.
When Mo Mo just knew how to sit, we had put her on a stool to have dinner with her family. Although she couldn't eat by herself at that time, we insisted that she should see how adults eat, so Momo slowly learned to eat by herself and learned to eat with chopsticks very early. As long as he can do things at home, he insists on doing them himself, such as sweeping the floor, washing vegetables, taking chopsticks, moving stools and so on. Many parents think that children can do something at such a young age, and the more they help, the more busy they are. In fact, it is certain that he can't do well, but as long as he participates, if you always stop him from working, he will feel that his mother doesn't need me, and over time he will no longer be willing to do it. The cultivation of work habits will make him cherish the fruits of other people's labor more, such as not putting his own toys, not littering and so on.
Third, encourage and praise children.
The child's self-esteem is also very strong, and sometimes an insult can make him feel bad for a long time. On the contrary, encouraging him more will make children full of vitality. For example, children help parents clean the table, and parents will praise their children hard and say, you are great! How diligent! No one is more sensible than XXX. In this way, the children will be very happy and may help mop the floor after going.
Fourth, find some good children as role models for children.
Children are very competitive. When other children do what they want to do, they often do what they want to do. Therefore, when educating children, try to find some diligent and sensible children to be role models. For example, children often stay in bed, and parents can say: I will get up and recite poems before dawn tomorrow. Man is so amazing that no one can catch up with him. In this way, the children will be inspired and refreshed, and they will compete with Xiao Ming to see who gets up early.