At school, every time I wanted to write an article like my mother's in composition class, other students would use mother-specific descriptive words such as "gentle touch", "kind eyes" and "loving mother". It seems that I can only write "My mother is on a business trip again. I haven't seen her for almost a month." The consequence of this is to win the sympathy of the teacher and get an A, but this is also a fact. In my childhood, when most mothers were with their children every day, their mothers were often absent.
Before my sophomore year, except on the phone, I often thought of her at the train station. I didn't realize until I was sensible that I had such a long window of maternal love because she was more progressive, capable and successful than women of the same age at that time. Before, I just thought my mother was a little special compared with other companions' mothers. For example, she doesn't have much time to do housework, accompany her husband and children, knit sweaters and talk nonsense, but she often travels, negotiates and trains subordinates. Later, I learned that if a capable mother changed the normal family environment into a family with a strict mother and a loving father, it would have a great impact on a person, especially a girl.
In the 1980s and 1990s, when every parent was guarding the iron rice bowl, my mother was able to break the iron rice bowl and take advantage of the spring breeze of reform and opening up to do business in the sea. Because of her example, I think taking risks for change is the attitude that life should have. So I can accept that even if I haven't met the other parents and know the other family background, I only agree to propose by virtue of the character of the person in front of me; I can accept throwing these away at the age of 30 when my life and work are stable, and then throwing them abroad and returning to campus.
You may think this is a bit reckless and stupid, but I want to say that although I am also afraid of failure, it is with this adventurous spirit that you will feel that life may be any symbol, but it should never be an easy end.
Just after the college entrance examination, I went out for lunch one day and came back after dinner to find myself a job as a food stall attendant. I didn't think much about it at that time, but I didn't feel much about the phrase "If you don't study hard, you will have to be a very hard waiter in a restaurant to support yourself" since I was a child, so I didn't try to see how hard it was.
Every day from ten o'clock in the morning to eleven o'clock in the evening, the boss manages two fried rice with eggs. After the first day at work, my feet in sneakers were swollen. What's more cruel is that my parents often come out with the boss of the food stall and enjoy the cool while drinking tea, watching me run around waiting for customers. After work at eleven o'clock, they helped me home.
Actually, I've been waiting for my mother to give me an opening under the steps and tell me not to do it. Seeing that my feet are swollen like extra feet, she is actually very distressed, otherwise she would not help me soak my feet and take medicine and massage every night. However, my mother didn't spit out a word that made me give up. I have to bite the bullet and do it day after day. Later, the restaurant owner couldn't stand it anymore and asked me to go home. He thinks I just need to experience it. Anyway, I'm going to college soon, so why bother? His original words were: "When people go to college, their parents take them to travel. Your family is quite unique. You don't need to support your family. You come to work, and your parents appreciate your work every day. Your family education is unique enough. "
That was the first time I knew what hard work was and what was cheap. It was hard to earn money, and it was really polished by this experience. Therefore, whether you move in a southern city alone with three or four boxes in July, work all night in the field on New Year's Eve, or sleep in the children's area of KFC for 24 hours without a place to live, you will feel that this is nothing.
Because I know, compared with my mother who can't buy a ticket on the train, sleeps under a hard seat with a newspaper, runs to Xinjiang where the snow is over 40 degrees below zero, and has an accident in the field and goes to the hospital to finish sewing and continue negotiations, I am really dwarfed.
As a girl, when you are pampered and coquettish, you will find that you can walk more smoothly in this world.
Every time I read an article about whether raising children should be poor or rich, I feel very contradictory. I don't know which label suits me better.
If I had money, why did I go to soy sauce at the age of four and leave five cents to buy a bubble gum when I made up my mind to go home? My mother punished me for kneeling against the wall for an hour, blaming me for learning to spend money without saying hello at such a young age. Why when I was in college, my dormitory and classmates bought mobile phones when I was a freshman, but when I was going to practice in my junior year, I was forced to buy mobile phones in my life; Why did I accidentally leave a grain of rice in the bowl when I was eating? It will take a long time. It's not easy to do it in my house every year. Every grain must work hard, which is the eternal family rule and king.
If I am poor, when I was three years old and didn't know the word "menu", I was trained by my mother to say to the waiter in the restaurant, "Auntie, I want to eat dishes with books, and I want to fry cashews"; In my hometown, a city that doesn't produce seafood in the north, I was taken to a five-star hotel to eat lobster when I was in primary school. Although I was worthless, I was scared to cry and dared not take a bite. As long as it is a holiday, I will wear new clothes and shoes from head to toe. Every year and every season, the price is similar to my current installation fee. At the age when you can still accept the annual income, the red envelope should be no less than four digits. (Of course, the ownership and final destination of the lucky money are the same as everyone else ~)
My family is not a rich family, but my parents don't want to lose me or spoil me. In fact, this kind of relaxation is also quite good, which can not only let me know that it is not easy to make money, but also give me the best at the consumption level, so that I don't feel insecure. I don't know if the child is well-off or well-off I only know that your salary and family background will rank very low when considering getting married. I don't care whose name is written on the real estate license; You will not be asked to pay your salary first and then calculate how much pocket money to give you every month; Of course, I will not pursue famous brands, and the comfort of clothes will always be the first; I don't care if I have to go to Europe and foreign islands for my holiday; As for food, we should pay attention to it. Mala Tang and hot pot are our favorite in life.
It is said that you can't travel around the world until you study science in China. When I was a sophomore, I saw the gap between myself and those students who were really smart and good at science, and immediately decided to transfer to liberal arts. When the arts and sciences were divided into classes, I went directly to the dean. With his consent, I moved my desk from the science class to the liberal arts class. When I came home from school at night, I just said to my parents at the dinner table, "I switched to liberal arts."
When I was a sophomore, I traveled with my friends and met a boy from a school outside the city. A few days later, I got along well with him. After I go back, I spend two hours every weekend drawing diagonal trajectories to tease me. After eating twice, I found that he really wasn't my type, although I had just been lovelorn and needed to be cured as soon as possible, although he was really in good shape. When we met for the third time, I invited him to dinner at his school and said to him, "I have no feelings for you." If you want to be friends, we can continue our friendship. If you don't want to be friends today, consider it a farewell dinner. "
After graduating from college, my friends and I went to Shenzhen to look for a job. One weekend, I helped another classmate who had established himself in Shenzhen to do an exhibition. His company is going to hold a salon related to financial investment that day, and invited some companies with good quality in the circle to participate. Maybe I was diligent and smart that day. A company executive who came to attend the salon gave me his business card, hoping that I could go to their company for an interview. After several rounds of interviews, I went and got an offer, but when I wrote a thank-you letter to the executives, I refused their invitation, even though I didn't have another job offer at that time. I said in my letter, "Thank you for giving me this opportunity to exercise. Although I am quite confused about my future work, I know very well that I definitely don't want to do finance. "
Compared with many people who don't know how to make a choice and how to refuse, sometimes my decision may be a little hasty and not well thought out, but if you are used to how my mother-in-law makes a decision immediately, how to face difficulties when the time is not ripe, how to weigh the pros and cons between giving up and getting, and make a quick choice, then you will understand better that being bold is not difficult, as long as you are willing to bear the corresponding price.
I have seen too many strong women in TV dramas. They are extremely wonderful in their work, but they are particularly lonely in their personal lives-either they are always lonely or their families are unhappy and separated. It seems that women in this society will be particularly miserable in love, marriage or family as long as their careers are a little top-notch. Fortunately, such a distorted view of the world was killed by my mother in time.
After 32 years of marriage, the old couple usually go out hand in hand; At home, the two of them teased each other about the baby and brother's barking, which made me immune to goose bumps. As for kissing anytime and anywhere, I have seen it since it was never suitable for children. They also had many contradictions and quarrels when they were young, but in retrospect, it seems that they are all small checkpoints and obstacles set for their present happiness.
There is a popular saying on the Internet that the best education for children is that parents love each other. If measured and judged by this, I must have graduated from Harvard.
Isn't there any disadvantage in growing up in such an atypical China family? Of course, the biggest problem is that the existence of such a mother-in-law will make you feel a little inferior. How to surpass her is a difficult problem. For example, how to look like a young woman in her thirties and forties when she is a grandmother; How to keep yourself from losing the ability to make money; How to control your weight in double digits forever; How to face others with exquisite makeup and decent clothes without slacking off; How to make up your mind, make a decision and have the courage to take on everything when there is a crisis. It's great just to think about it, but it's hard
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