Deng Chao was searched by his wife Sun Li some time ago. This time it was because she helped her son with his math homework.
It turned out that Sun Li wanted Deng Chao to help him with his math homework. Unexpectedly, this tutoring directly became a ghostwriter. Ask for praise after writing. Sun Li had no choice but to erase it with an eraser and let him do it again.
The comment area exploded:
"Super Brother can actually do math problems"
"Ha ha ha ha, the math problem is so difficult."
"Is this the upper limit of Xueba?"
"Teacher Sun Li works hard to help raise three children."
This netizen hit the nail on the head.
On the way with the baby, this is not the first time that Deng Chao has tripped over Sun Li.
I still remember one time, because her daughter didn't eat well, Sun Li proposed not to watch TV at night and not to play with toys as a punishment, but before the words were finished, Deng Chao rushed out to protect her: OK, OK, she is already afraid of you. ...
Sun Li concluded: My father's home is a stumbling block to my education. This sentence is also said in the hearts of many mothers.
But Deng Chao's rebuttal is more interesting: You are a stumbling block to my doting on my little lover. It really undermines the strength of Taiwan Province.
There is a skeleton in the cupboard. There will be a lot of housework in the process of taking care of the baby, and many family members will be involved, such as Deng Chao's "pig teammate" father, "one-track-minded" grandmother, "strength pet" grandfather, "afraid of your cold" grandmother ... Because of the different concepts of taking care of the baby, many mothers will have many problems in the process of taking care of the baby.
He will take a sledgehammer to "dismantle" the baby when he sees that you are bored with it.
When the child cries, you comfort him. They say you can't coax him when he cries, it will spoil the bad boy.
When children do something wrong, you criticize them, and they stand up and point out that it is normal for children to be ignorant and make mistakes;
When preaching is about to take effect, it throws cold water on you and successfully "saves" the children, leading to the abandonment of education;
Where mothers educate their children, they will "tear down Taiwan", which really makes many mothers have a headache.
Parents dismantle desks in front of their children; Of course, it is undeniable that the original intention of this kind of "tearing down the desktop" education is for the good of children, but in the final analysis, the real victims are children.
The intervention of discipline has wasted the efforts of educators. Behind this "desktop dismantling" education, children may have the following effects:
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It will make children have an avoidant personality.
I have seen an example where my mother said that her 5-year-old son insisted on opening the balcony window. When the mother saw it, she said to the child, "You can't open the window on the balcony. It's dangerous."
Originally, my son had nodded in agreement, but the father on the side said, "Maybe he opened the window for something, just talk nonsense about him."
At this time, the son cried with a wow. Because of his father's "pleading", he suddenly felt that he was disciplined by his mother and was very wronged. Then I ignored my mother and ran to my father for comfort.
Everyone has the instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Although the child is small, he is very insightful. People tend to "protect their weaknesses". In a child's mind, it's like having a backer. If you don't want to wash your hands, you don't wash your hands. If you want to watch TV, you can watch TV. Anyway, someone protected me and began to become very arrogant, often opposing his education.
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It will make children habitually rebellious.
Emerson, an American writer, said: "What kind of person a child eventually becomes depends mainly on the quality of love, companionship and example he gets from the first educator."
"Father is father, mother is stepmother", because the appearance of saboteurs may also make children prefer people who talk to themselves and gradually dislike those who discipline themselves. In this way, children will not only alienate the educators who have worked hard at home, but also imitate their parents.
One side educates the children, and the other side refutes or even quarrels in front of the children, which is undoubtedly to let the children see, hear and keep in mind.
When they see you fighting and tearing each other, then when you educate him again in the future, he will imitate one of you to refute.
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Those who destroy Taiwan Province lose the "authority" to discipline children.
Often when disciplining children, you will "tear down the platform", and you may gradually lose the "authority" of discipline in front of children. You may not discipline your children, or you may often accept their help and requests. This kind of love is not necessarily suitable for the growth of children, but may be well-intentioned. Because you use the wrong method, it will only lead to the failure of education.
One person, not two.
There is a famous "watch law", which says that only one watch can know what time it is. Having two or more watches can not only make sure what time it is, but also make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time.
Similarly, children cannot accept two values given by their parents, nor can they accept more than two goals, otherwise, children will live in doubt and contradiction.
Children are the happy fruit of every family and the heart of every family member, but while loving children, we should also unify the education methods for children.
Educate children, you can't discipline them here, and you are busy dismantling them there. One side educates children, and the other side has opinions. Please hold back your inner "power of the wild". When the children are not present, two people will close the door, discuss privately, and establish a United front after communication.
For children, parents and relatives are the most important people in their lives; Only with parents' consent can children create a healthy growth environment and develop normally.
As the saying goes: "Husband and wife are United, and their profits are broken." The same applies to educating children. A happy family must not be separated, but two people have been together. Smart parents must be holding a group to raise their children.
Children paint the kingdom, so that children can meet and read good books at the beginning of their lives!