My mother is an educated youth in Shanghai. At the age of eighteen, she went to the countryside in northern Jiangsu and met my father. Under difficult living conditions, my sister was entrusted to my grandmother's house in Shanghai as soon as she was born, and I was fortunate to be a child who grew up with my parents. As a result, I was deeply influenced by my mother's words and deeds since childhood.

The first lesson in life says:

Family style is not a textbook, not a classroom, not a constant admonition from parents, not to mention waving a big stick, but it has a strong and lasting penetration like air, and its influence is often better than other tangible educational means.

0 1 "Wear a hat as big as your head"

About money, my mother said, "Only by controlling your own expenses can you control your life."

Our attitude towards money determines how much money we can get.

My cousin works as a clerk in a company with a monthly salary of 18 thousand. She weighs 160 kg. What she likes most at ordinary times are all kinds of so-called limited edition cosmetics, but she seldom uses them herself. There is also spending money to lose weight in beauty and body clubs intermittently, and the amount of recharge is more than 10,000 yuan each time.

Of course, I have never seen her lose weight. My mother said that my cousin is a standard post-90s "moonlight clan", so light that you can't imagine. At one time, even the bus card could not be recharged.

My mother said to me, "Remember how big your head is and wear a big hat." . No matter how much money you earn, you must be able to keep it, got it. "

In contrast, my monthly income is not as good as my cousin's, but I have felt very rich since I was a child in a family that is not rich. As far as I can remember, my parents never squandered money, but they were not very short of money. Today, I am the same.

Spend as much as you earn, and the money you earn is like an hourglass. Between the desire to buy and the actual ability, my cousin probably never weighed it.

In fact, there are many such people around us.

My colleague c is also such a person, with a monthly salary of 3500. Just dig out a lipstick in your bag, which is Dior's; Take out a hand cream, which is Chanel's; Close the schoolbag. It's Lu's. The monthly salary is just right, and then continue to overdraw.

The consumption black hole makes many people unable to see how big their "heads" are.

If you earn 8 thousand a month, it will bring you satisfaction; On the contrary, if you earn 8 thousand a month but spend 9 thousand, there is no doubt that your life will go downhill. When the expenditure exceeds the income, it is a signal that there is something wrong with your life.

Millionaire's fast lane tells us: on the road to wealth, you are the means of transportation, you are the mechanism of progress, you are responsible for the whole journey, and this is your own journey.

In this process, you need to overcome difficulties, including fear, laziness and conceit. Although money has no attributes, it should be favored by people who know how to plan and make good use of it.

Choice determines your life. In fact, it is extremely difficult to make a correct choice or change a previous wrong choice.

02 "I have done my best today, and there will be tomorrow."

Regarding efforts, my mother said, "Dream less and do more. The lazier, the poorer. "

Every desperate moment you have now may become a lifeline in your hands in the future.

Xiao Yan runs a real estate agency. After her mother retires, she will go to Xiao Yan's company to help her every day. When the business reaches the peak season, her mother will also help Xiao Yan show her house to her clients.

Mom said that it is a good choice to stay in Xiao Yan's company for a while. One day I went out to get the express delivery, and I accidentally found my mother going in and out on the first floor of a building next door.

I took a closer look, and she was cleaning someone else's house in an apron and gloves.

My mother saw me and said, "People's houses are waiting for rent. I can't find my aunt cleaning at the moment. I'll help clean them."

Later, my aunt told me that my mother often helped others do this kind of work. At first, my aunt disagreed and said that there was no shortage of money, but my mother said, "I have exhausted my strength today, and I will have it tomorrow." Laziness is unacceptable. Don't tell the child, lest you worry. "

Remember what my mother looked like when she was young? Working in three shifts is hard. After work, she often learns knitting from a group of aunts, saying that foreigners especially like handmade sweaters, and her mother earns some change by this handwork. In my memory, I often wake up at night, and my mother is still pulling wool quickly under the lamp, with skillful movements and focused expression.

At that time, my mother made a little reserve for this small family by paying more labor than others, so that I enjoyed the spiritual richness brought by the sense of security from an early age.

Zeng Guofan said: "All diseases are born of laziness. Laziness is relaxation, relaxation is lax to people, and fun is insensitive. "

Yes, you can't eat the bitterness of life, and you can only be tired of life in the future.

03 "It will pass"

Regarding setbacks, my mother said, "Nothing will make the sky fall. Just face it bravely. "

The more we experience, the more we can discover the truth of life.

That year, my father found some abnormalities in his physical examination at work. Without a moment's delay, my mother decisively took my father to the best hospital in Shanghai.

Later, my father had a major operation and almost spent all his savings at home.

Before the operation, my mother signed it, patted my father on the hospital bed and said, "What's the big deal? The operation is not big, and I didn't hide it from you. Don't be afraid, the child and I are here. "

In fact, I know that this is the biggest thing in my mother's life.

Bai said: "When we see a higher mountain, we will feel that we have climbed it with our teeth before. Only by experiencing a more tortuous and difficult road can we experience ourselves in silence. "

Sure enough, the operation was successful and dad was safe. Yes, the hardest things will pass.

A good attitude, positive efforts and determination not to give up easily will really open a door to a better world for us.

Some people say that this is fate; Some people say it's luck.

Bi Shumin said in Hold Your Right Hand: I don't believe in fate, I only believe in my hand. I don't believe in the lines of the palm, but I believe in the power of the palm plus the fingers.

My mother told me with her attitude towards life that the so-called bad things, difficult things and troubles will eventually become the past. The so-called fate, but a "will pass."

"There is sunshine around the corner." Now, whenever I encounter difficulties, I will say this to myself.

04 "You decide this matter"

Regarding the choice, my mother said, "No one can make a decision for you, but my mother believes you can."

Let children make their own decisions, which is actually simple to say and not easy to do.

16 years old, graduated from junior high school and always dreamed of becoming a kindergarten teacher. More than 20 years ago, adults still attached great importance to rural hukou and urban hukou, and many schools also set thresholds. For example, children can transfer from rural areas to rural areas by applying for directional enrollment in normal schools, but the tuition is quite expensive.

At that time, I was originally an urban hukou, so almost everyone in a big family thought that I should continue to attend high school, so that I would have a personal future, and I would not have to borrow money to pay tuition fees or spend this wronged "huge sum".

As a young man, I always stubbornly decided to study in an ordinary middle school. Among all the objections, only my mother said, "No matter what difficulties there are, my parents will find a way, which is related to your future path." So, in the end, you must decide this matter. "

The mother of the famous star Jordan once said in an interview: "In the process of letting go of children, the most difficult problem is to let children pursue their dreams, make their own decisions and choose a different development path from what I designed for them."

I realized my dream as I wished, and this love continues to this day. Every time I think about it, my mother will still say, "Children's affairs should be decided by children."

Faye Wong, an acting star, never asked his two children what they were going to do, and never restricted their free development. Therefore, what we see is talented Leah Dou and confident Li Yan.

"You decide this matter." It seems that adults have let go, but in fact, they have cultivated children's self-discipline ability, gradually established a sense of accomplishment and responsibility, and more importantly, a sense of existence and self-worth.

That's what my mother does. On the road of my growth, she has always given me the freedom to make decisions, so that my inner voice can be heard, my actions can be understood, and I can break the shackles at any stage of my life without fear of wind and rain.

In the cold winter, walking on the road, I hooked my mother's arm and remembered my childhood. I also dragged her skirt through my childhood.

We grow up, grow up and get married, but we will always be the naughty and immature children in the eyes of our parents.

Now, under my mother's philosophy of life, my children and I are maturing and growing. For my child, I haven't figured out how to shape her future.

But there is no doubt that she is optimistic, kind, positive and sunny, and will definitely grow into me today in the future. Therefore, this is also the biggest reason why as a mother, I need to keep working hard.

There is an unknown thing that is passed down silently, that is the wisdom passed down by the family, that is the mother's character;

There is a family influence, which is spreading quietly. Maybe that's the mark of our growth.