At this moment, Mrs Yin rushed out, hugged Nezha tightly and held him in her arms. Nezha, from fierce resistance-even biting Mrs. Yin severely, to feeling her mother's love and protection, calmed down and showed a pure smile.
When a child comes into this world, with the protection of parents and unconditional love, it will be easier to feel safe and more willing to release goodwill.
Mencius' theory of good nature and Xunzi's theory of evil nature are eternal arguments. No matter who is right or wrong, we can also see from the above short film that the environment, parents' care and attitude are the most important factors affecting a child's later life.
There is no doubt that parents love their children, but with the growth of children's age, this "love" will gradually "deteriorate"!
Of course, the "deterioration" mentioned here is not really deterioration, nor is it not love, but will add many conditions and requirements. For example, if you are obedient, mothers like obedient children! You should study hard and listen to the teacher carefully. Mom likes children who love to learn! If you get 100 in this exam, mom will buy you your favorite toys! ……
Seeing this, many parents will think this is a problem. This is also to love the child, for his own good. I hope his future life will be smooth sailing. Yes, we do this for the good of our children, but can we feel such love for our children? No, they can only feel the conditions and needs. This is not unconditional love.
Mrs. Yin did a good job. Whether you are a spirit bead or a magic pill, whether you are obedient or naughty, no matter how many people dislike you or don't like you, I love you the most and don't mention the conditions. I will accompany you to do what you like as soon as I have time, and I am happy to see you happy. This is unconditional love.
"But you can't do whatever you want with his temper!" We will still have such doubts, of course, whether there are rules or not! But all rules should be based on "love", not just cold rules. On the basis of fully expressing love, ask for it, but don't give more in return for fulfilling it; And I don't love it because I don't meet the requirements. Parents love their children, no strings attached!
For example, "You should study hard and listen to the teacher carefully. Mom likes children who love to learn! " "This sentence is obviously a threat. The subtext is that if you don't listen carefully and study hard, your mother will not love you! If we say, "Listen carefully in class at school and ask the teacher in time if you don't understand anything, will it be easier to do your homework?" "If you encounter difficulties and don't solve them, come back and tell your mother at night and solve them with you."
Unconditional love is doting! Love without rules is hurt!