I went to the hospital that day because I didn't feel well. While I was waiting in line for a blood test, a little boy was taking blood. The little boy was probably afraid and kept crying and shrank back. The mother on the side could not make the little boy compromise. It is useless for her to ask my husband for help.

Not only do you have no patience to coax your child, but you keep slapping his body and saying, You always do this, even at school. The child is even more uncooperative and desperately resists his mother to let him draw blood. At this time, the nurse who helped draw blood saw a lot of people lined up behind her and began to scream: How can I smoke like this? I still have a lot of things!

The mother pulled the child aside, but she kept slapping the child and pushing the child forward step by step. The child cried, which really made people feel distressed. Seeing the child being pushed to the ground, the mother jumped up and kicked the child: always like this, always like this.

Just because the child is afraid of drawing blood, the mother is so angry that she can't control her emotions completely, which makes the child more afraid of drawing blood.

There is a saying: how can human feelings be ruthless? Everyone has a secular desire, and adults are still learning how to control their emotions, let alone a five-or six-year-old child.

The mother couldn't accept the child's fear, and she became a slave to emotion. It seems that she has been teaching children not to do this. In fact, she didn't know that her actions hurt her children and missed a good opportunity for emotional intelligence education.

Children have the right to be afraid, and parents should not prevent them from experiencing fear in an inappropriate way. A beating is to make children compromise, but next time, what about next time? This is just adding fuel to the fire, which is not good for children except aggravating their fears.

We are parents, because we help our children overcome difficulties and fears. Accepting children, identifying with them and teaching them how to overcome their fears correctly are the only ways to help them.

Think about the reasons behind everything children do.

When educating children, we are always eager to draw conclusions about their behavior. However, not everything a child does is wrong.

When I came home from work at the weekend, I just got a dress, and I heard my son running out of the living room crying and telling me: Grandma hit the baby.

It turned out that my son saw two barrels of oil in the living room, wanted to open the lid and asked what it was. At first, grandma said, come on, this is not for you to play with. My son was even more curious and kept trying to shake two barrels of oil. Grandma came forward to save him and patted his hand.

When my son spoke in front of me, he didn't comment on grandma's practice. I know grandma is worried that the child will slip and get hurt after spilling oil, but the child doesn't know.

When a child does something, we can't say that the child is making a mistake so decisively. First of all, ask the child why he did this.

Before going to bed afterwards, I recalled my three-year-old son and asked him if he was curious about the oil in that bucket. He answered yes, but then I asked what happened. My son said in tears that grandma had hit the baby.

Are you going to be beaten just because you are curious about dangerous things? Just like a child who is curious about the plug and touches it, he is afraid that an adult will slap him in the face; It's like a child twisting the washing machine curiously, afraid of being slapped by an adult.

In life, such things abound, but I don't know that the impact on children may be lifelong. Adults stop children's curiosity again and again, which will weaken their spirit of exploring new things in the future.

When a child is curious to explore something around him, we can give him the knowledge of this thing and let him know its use. If he is afraid that the child is in danger, tell him clearly, which not only increases his knowledge, but also satisfies his curiosity and carries out safety education.

Allow children to learn from their mistakes.

One day after work, I went to my husband's big brother's house to pick up the children. I just had a good time with the children. My sister-in-law did some arithmetic problems and asked my little niece to do them.

I saw my little niece with drooping head slowly coming to the small blackboard, and her sister-in-law continued to comment: the last class on weekends is early, so hurry up and review and get a good grade.

Sadly, my little niece picked up the chalk and began to do arithmetic. The fingers of her left hand waved and counted the questions like a fortune teller, and the right hand wrote the answers behind the corresponding questions. After a pass, eldest brother went to check and found that there was an careless calculation error.

I began to severely question my little niece: I have done such a simple topic many times, how can it be wrong? Sister-in-law also looked at the question on the small blackboard, pointed to the wrong question and raised her voice by one point: look at this question, you will know at ordinary times, how is this answer calculated, and where are the numbers added later?

After a severe reprimand, my little niece just leaned against the little blackboard and stared somewhere. At this point, tears have been spinning in her eyes.

Grandma saw that her granddaughter was distressed by the training, so she came and picked up her little niece and sat on her lap. She said kindly, honey, show this topic to grandma. The little niece corrected the wrong question and wrote the correct answer.

At this time, the eldest brother came out of the bedroom and saw the little niece sitting on her lap, still doing the problem. He reminded her: Mom, after our severe lesson, if you coax her like this, she will think that we have taught her a wrong lesson. When grandma heard this, she quickly pulled away.

My little niece is sitting on the sofa watching TV with a gun in her mouth. At this time, the son next to him wanted to play with his cousin, so he kicked his sister, and finally she cried. At this time, other adults pointed their heads at their son and accused him of hitting his sister. In fact, his son just saw that his sister had just been scolded and wanted to invite her to play, but he just used the wrong invitation method.

When a child is scolded for doing something wrong, it often happens when we are young, but the child already knows the mistake. Why not ask her how she worked out the process just now? Whether the method needs to be improved.

Allow your child to learn from the wrong questions so that they won't be repeated next time, instead of letting her know that the answer is wrong.

In the last weekend exam, my niece still got a score that made adults dissatisfied. My eldest brother sent us a video, and the test score was the lowest in the class. After the big brother laughed, the little niece cried in shame.

As adults, when we were young, we made mistakes, but we didn't feel the same way. We didn't expect that it was still a child who made a mistake. She needs our encouragement to stimulate her interest in learning. However, it is precisely the parents who do the opposite, laughing, scolding and disrespecting their children for fun.

I have seen a saying that every mistake is a good opportunity to educate children, but how to educate them is a test of parents' wisdom.

Parents should guide their children from their point of view, sum up methods from mistakes, cultivate their interest in learning and build their self-confidence.

Author: Yang Xiaomo, regardless of success or failure, does not give up easily, regards the sunshine every day as all his confidence, and takes words as his companion to bloom brilliantly.