Fools come in many shapes, forms and kinds, but those who never think they are mentally ill hit me the hardest. These people all think that emotional chaos is lovely, and fresh stories are carefully created by people who like to indulge, think repeatedly and cry. . . It's a group of imaginative people who can't think of anything good except some illusory myths, just like some neurons wandering aimlessly in the limbic system of the brain, just like Moses' myth.
We must adjust these fools to keep them sane or sober. But what should we do? Here are four methods that I think are effective.
1 Don't expect anything.
If you expect your cousins to understand that you are bipolar, you will be disappointed. They are not confused at all. But if she expects you to control 90% of the conversation when you sit down after lunch, then you won't be upset because she didn't ask about your manic cycle. Or know that this has nothing to do with the washing machine. I think sylvia plath said, "If you don't expect anything from anyone, then you will never be disappointed." She is talking about a fool. This sentence is the same for parents, relatives, brothers and sisters, pets, spouses, children and servants.
2 Don't provide information.
I didn't do this very well. I often confide in my neighbor on the plane-that's why I have such friends on the plane in Maryland and Ohio. However, these conversations are not all good, especially when I talk to a stubborn person who resists drug treatment. He will think that all psychiatrists are agents of the devil, taking part in pharmaceutical activities and touching innocent people's pockets everywhere, and injecting poison into children's blood at the same time. Obviously, such people will not agree that I can't live without medicine, and frown in opposition.
At this time, many people will change the subject or say the weather and the typhoon some time ago. However, on a bad day, I will continue to listen, accept this guy's advice and think it over in my mind. Before the flight is over, I will be as miserable as a loser, addicted to antidepressants and controlled by the devil.
When this is a conversation with a fool around me, I will be very headstrong and start to dislike myself. If a person has nothing to discuss and tell, then he will never oppose you or dislike you. So, if you stop arguing about stupid things, then he will find something else to talk about-probably a person, a place or something that has nothing to do with you or your life.
Try some visualization.
This method helped me to deal with some fools I often meet. Visualization basically gives you more boundaries to protect yourself from other family roles. You must try to find the right image for yourself. For example, you can imagine yourself as a closed bubble, and nothing can hurt you at all. It's like a mother's womb-a place we all hope to visit again. Or you can think of fools as bubbles. No matter what she tries to do to you, she can't penetrate this protective force.
I have recently fantasized that those fools are all made of stone. Why? Because I am always depressed to find that she has no sympathy. Seeing her as an ivory stone can remind me to look at my expectations at any time. Her indifferent way can't damage my self-esteem and value.
Don't treat it personally.
I really hate being told that. However, I read the third chapter of Don Miguel Ruiz's classic. Not long ago, after reading four agreements, I was confused for a moment. His words helped me build a layer of protection, so I won't feel sad and depressed when I come out of her house again. Ruiz explained that we can stop being hurt and abandoned. He solemnly wrote:
When you can look at things objectively, you will gain more freedom. You will be immune to dark magic, no matter how powerful it is, no magic can affect it. The world may gossip about you. If it can be treated objectively, it will not be affected. Some people deliberately emit emotional poison. If you can look at it objectively, you won't take it. And since you didn't accept the poison, the troublemaker will bear the consequences, not you. . . If you are not in the habit of talking about personal situation, then you don't have to believe what others say. What you need to do is to believe in yourself and make a responsible choice. You are never responsible for other people's actions; You are only responsible for yourself. When you really understand this and refuse to take things personally, you will hardly be hurt by other people's unintentional comments and actions.