In Singapore, China children need to be proficient in English and math, but it doesn't matter if China literature is not good. But if you don't learn Chinese well, it will still affect your children's future development in China.
There are two parents. Although the ways they educate their children are quite different, the results are not good. A pair of business parents spend most of their time running their own businesses, and their relationship with their two children is rarely close, which leads to their sister's rebellion and confusion with bad elements, just because their mother always keeps her word. My younger brother Terry has become an obedient child, with no opinion and no resistance. This pair of parents can meet their children's material needs, but they can't meet their spiritual needs. This family doesn't handle family relations well.
Terry has been obedient and weak in initiative since he was a child. He will only listen to other people's opinions. Obviously, his power motive is very weak. Everyone has the need to get care, support and friendship from others, which urges people to make friends, seek support from others, participate in group activities, and then form communication motivation. Judging from the film, Terry's communication motivation is quite strong.
Another pair of parents, whose father is a designer and whose mother is a Chinese teacher, educate their children in different ways (Guo Bin). The father never puts pressure on his children's homework and lets them play freely. Mothers, on the other hand, are very anxious when their children can't make progress in their studies, and there is always a feeling of "hating iron and not turning it into steel". So she showed her anxiety by beating and cursing. And in doing so, she constantly stimulates the child's young mind. The child is also very helpless and angry with himself. The serious consequence is that the child can't let go, has the idea of suicide, and almost did something stupid. Seeing this, the characters in the film cried, and so did our audience, unable to speak.
In the film, Teacher Li teaches children not to run away from difficulties, but to understand and understand them, find out the details of them, and then overcome them. She gave the children a lot of encouragement and confidence. After Guo Bin cheated in the exam, she helped persuade the director of moral education not to tell his parents because she knew about Guo Bin. Guo Bin gave his paintings to Mr. Li, who donated money for him and took part in the competition. That painting is a child's face, wearing a bachelor's hat, but his left eye is full of tears and his eyes are dim. After reading this painting, I was very sad, because I knew that this child named Guo Bin was in pain.
At the end of the film, everyone we were watching cried, including our teacher. Terry was timid, but when he grew up, he bravely saved Guo Bin's mother with his own bone marrow. The two families gradually played down the previous misunderstanding, helped each other, cared for each other and shared joy.
Many times, many parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance and ignore their interests and specialties.
When people are frustrated in their development, they will subconsciously look down on themselves and produce an inferiority complex that belittles themselves. Guo Bin in the film, although his grades are always failing, has a strong painting ability. He can draw a person's head vividly, which is a gift. But because of his poor study, he was often laughed at and bullied by his classmates in advanced classes, which indirectly led to his inferiority complex.
We should put aside the feeling of inferiority, regard it as a kind of motivation when being looked down upon by others, catch up with others, and then reshape our image. When we are despised, we should look up to ourselves and find something special from ourselves to develop ourselves. If we firmly believe that we can make progress and always remain confident, then the feeling of inferiority will not bother us deeply.
Both parents and children should believe in themselves and their families. Parents should not blindly persecute their children, cast a shadow over their childhood, treat their children with self-righteousness, ignore their interests and specialties disapprovingly, and accompany them to form a "dead book". As children, we should be considerate of our parents and try our best to do things. All of us should deal with family relations, parent-child relations, career problems and academic problems.
Last week, I watched the educational film Children Are Not Stupid with my parents. The story in the film touched me deeply and I couldn't calm down for a long time.
Children Are Not Stupid describes the relationship between parents and children in two families, from "not communicating because they are busy" to "the child's mind gradually degenerates", to "accidentally building a bridge of communication", and finally finding "the once empty and lost heart"! In the play, Xue Qian and Jerry constantly strive for praise from their parents, but what they get is ridicule from their parents. We have experienced this sense of loss. I don't know when our parents stopped encouraging and appreciating us, but kept disciplining us, always thinking that we didn't do well enough and that they were right. I don't know when it started. My parents were so busy that they didn't come home until late at night that they didn't even have time to communicate with us. Of course, we also know that parents are very busy for this family, but no matter how busy they are, they should take some time to spend with us. Even for half an hour, we need your concern and look forward to your appreciation. What's the point of making money if we are like Xue Qian in the movie because of lack of education?
"There are no children who can't teach, only parents who can't teach." Dad didn't realize this until he died. It's not that he doesn't like success. All he knows is that he was brought up as a child. He doesn't want success to follow his old path. He didn't know how to love someone and express his love, which led to today's tragedy. He traded his life for the growth and reward of his children.
It is understandable for parents to spank their children, but it is cruel for schools to whip their children in front of all teachers and students to educate their students. I don't agree with this. Doing so may help children learn a lesson, but you know what? This practice also does great harm to children's minds. It has also been said in the play that rotten apples are peeled off and the rest are good to eat. If you throw them away, there won't be any more.
It is precisely because parents did not praise their children in time when they made progress, and did not educate them well when their children had problems. They just keep blaming their children, which makes them make mistakes again and again. There used to be a saying in the play: resources misplaced are garbage, and garbage misplaced is resources.
Reflections on the inspirational film "Children are not stupid" Chapter 8 "Children are not stupid" is recommended for both the film version and the TV version. For busy friends, you can choose to watch only the movie version. If you have time, it's good to watch the TV version. The play mainly tells the story of three families: Terry, a little fat man who only listened to his mother at first and had no opinion. A national who has a talent for painting but can't get any support; A little man, Wen Fu, has been loyal since childhood, taking care of his mother and brother (there is also a girl in the TV series who is great at reading, indomitable and has strong self-esteem).
At school, students are graded. This is just a primary school. In the child's weak heart, he has been assigned to a poor class because of his poor grades, and he feels that he has failed more than half of his life. Not only that, most teachers in the school wear dark colored glasses, and students with good grades can beat and scold at will and insult students with poor grades without any punishment; Those with poor grades, even if they do nothing, are always invited to the principal's office and scolded by invited parents and teachers. They have no chance to defend themselves, or even if they tell the truth, they are always regarded as lies to mitigate punishment. What's wrong with children's poor study? Are grades and diplomas really that important to adults and the whole society? In order to make children get high marks, adults pay a lot of money, and what's more, they pay time and energy. Have they ever thought that their so-called "rown for you" is really good for children? Is it really what children really need? Whose fault is it that children lose their innocent childhood and happy time? "It's not our fault, it's the fault of this society." Yes, as a member of society, we are always helplessly led by the public opinion and vision of this society. Parents talk about children, grades, schools and extracurricular study, which are their main comparative topics. In order not to let others look down on themselves, they have to transfer this pressure to their children. Adults themselves are aware of this, however, almost no one dares to go upstream. This is the helplessness of life!
In the teacher's eyes, the mud that can't support the wall is also allowed to drift. Experienced teachers have their own reasons, and new teachers also have her own methods to help the mud wall. I wonder if the new teacher will change her mind when she becomes an experienced teacher in a few years. Education is to educate people or fools? Educators, have you thought about it? Especially primary school teachers, their words can make a child who has not made progress become a great man, and can also make a smart and aura child become schizophrenic. Do they know how much influence they will have on their children? Seeing that peers are bullied, some children stand up and face it together, and some children become "none of my business in ess" because of family pressure. In the common experience, they constantly realize what is right and what is wrong; What to do and what not to do; When to listen to adults and when to make their own decisions through their own thinking ... adults also need to think hard, and even they often do contradictory things. Why not let the children feel "confused" before they establish the correct judgment ability? There are many places in the play that move us and make us think. Although it is a relaxed and inspirational drama, it has made me shed countless complicated tears.
"I'm not stupid" has nothing to do with the first series, so it can be said that it is a relaxed and funny comedy. There are also some tear-jerking ideas in the play, which are much less than those in the first season. Maybe the child has grown up and wants to bring out another meaning. Friends watching the drama, just feel it with your heart! No matter adults or children, as long as you believe that the world is created by yourself, there must be something useful for you. Don't stop just because there is a stone in front. Go up bravely, move the stone and keep walking!
A year ago, a friend recommended me to watch the movie Children Are Not Stupid. When I watched this movie for the sixth time, I was still moved by every line, every shot and every emotional sublimation point in the movie ... "When was the last time you praised others? When was the last time you were praised? For a long time? " These three questions appeared at the beginning of the film, asking everyone's voice. This also reminds me of the key to the inner world of a lovely child that I originally wanted to find. ...
Every story in Children Are Not Stupid is so ordinary, but it often touches my heart more. I am very moved that Xue Qian spent all the money in the card to buy a razor for his father to repair the computer. Crying for Jerry's efforts to let his parents see his performance; Xue Qian's mother resigned for her son, and I was very moved. The father was moved to kneel for his son in order to learn humility; I was moved by the love of this talented father, who was illiterate and disabled, and paid the price of his life for it ... In fact, in the whole story, no matter the talented father, Xue Qian, Jerry's parents, or the Chinese teacher, every role is full of love, and it is precisely because of this deep love that the talented father punched and kicked the talented father, thinking that this is the best way to discipline him; Let Xue Qian and Jerry's parents work hard to make money every day, and at the same time place higher expectations on the two brothers; Let the dedicated Chinese teacher always scold the students anxiously. Maybe children are not good enough because we don't give them enough stage to express themselves, so that the happiness of education is getting farther and farther. ...
All this is obviously beautiful, but it has made one tragedy after another that makes people cry. Everything is doomed to conflict just because of lack of communication and no communication; Without communication, we will lose the opportunity to understand each other; Without communication, we cannot treat each other's love correctly; Without communication, we don't know when the other party needs what most; Without communication, we don't even know what we have lost or missed. As a result, the expression of love deviated from the right track, and then lost the key to the child's inner world-a kind of communication with appreciation.
"In fact, this key has always been on everyone. I remember when I was a child, we often fell down and stood up with encouragement and praise. At that time, we didn't know how happy we were and when to praise and encourage us. When we grow up, we slowly change and the door slowly closes. "
This reminds me of the article "The Third Door of the Heart" that I happened to see: My heart has three doors. The first door is open, my parents can enter at will, the second door is closed, my parents always enter without knocking, and the third door is locked. The key is hidden in my heart. If you want to get in, you must first ask the key and come with your heart. Therefore, it is necessary to communicate with a grateful heart in order to open the locks and doors in their hearts. As a teacher, I know how to cherish this key-learn to encourage, praise and appreciate the advantages of children with a magnifying glass. Often students only need a warm word from the teacher and an approving look, which can make them move from weak to strong, from laziness to diligence, and from failure to success. "Good words are warm in three winters." Teachers' praise and encouragement, like sunshine, air and water, are indispensable nutrients for students' growth. Teachers' praise is like a bridge, which can communicate the heart between teachers and students and enhance students' self-esteem, self-confidence and self-improvement.
I remember in the first class of my first year of work, there was a girl named Li Xiaoying (a pseudonym). She may not be smart or even slow-witted, but from the beginning, I paid close attention to her and encouraged her to communicate with me if she had any concerns about her study and life. I also felt her efforts in the dense lines of each unit test paper later. Appreciation is a powerful driving force, and this driving force happens because your simple words, words, maybe your actions and expressions have changed a lot, and you may not even know it. Yes, every child's potential is immeasurable. As long as we give them more appreciation, their potential can be better stimulated.
So I like to draw a smiling face in students' homework comments, and sometimes I write "Come on"! I think such comments can encourage students. As Jerry said at the end of the film, "in every child, there is a good boy and a bad boy." As long as their good children are awakened, they will bring out the best. There is a good saying: misplaced resources are garbage, and garbage placed in the right place is resources. "
In fact, it is not just children who need encouragement. Everyone pursues others' respect for themselves and hopes to get others' affirmation, praise and appreciation. The phrase "I like politics because of you" written in children's notebooks is not a sincere appreciation for me, but a blessing call from a boy with relatively weak intelligence named Zhao Xiaokang (a pseudonym) in Class 07 (I am curious about how he got my number, and his casual sentence conveyed his intention "Teacher, I wrote it down quietly in the guard room earlier").
Psychologist William Jeames once said: The deepest need of human nature is to long for others' appreciation. It turns out that people are looking for him for thousands of Baidu, and suddenly looking back, the key to the child's inner world has always been-the key to appreciation.
Reflections on the inspirational film "Children Are Not Stupid" 10 The title of the film "Children Are Not Stupid" aroused my strong curiosity. When I first came into contact with this film, I thought: This must be about a child's school experience. Just thinking about what happened, the film slowly began.
I watched this movie, both funny and touching, and sometimes I couldn't help laughing when my eyes lit up; Sometimes the eyes fly, and there are a few shiny things spinning in their eyes. I can't forget one scene: because my parents are too strict, they always yell at my son and don't care about his growth, so my son hangs out with gangsters all day and learns to smoke, drink and steal ... but his parents don't know anything. So the son slowly developed to grab things! He robbed men, women and children! Once I robbed something, my son knew it was wrong and went back to return it. But the people around you can't stand it. Call the police immediately. The son's parents rushed over and tried to hit him, but the police were coming towards him. In order to let his son go home safely and give him a chance to repent, the father grabbed the gold necklace and begged the victim to lie that he was his father. The victim refused, saying that he wanted to teach the child a lesson. When the father saw it, he held the victim's hand tightly and knelt down heavily in front of everyone. At this time,
The hopeless son was already in tears. He only shouted one word: "Dad, Dad! ..... "Ah, what a pity to inherit the wind! In fact, the more your parents beat you and scold you, the more you are in their hearts. I remember an old saying: "Beating is kissing, scolding is love." If one day your parents don't care about you, it means they don't have you as a child in their hearts. One day, you will be more painful, uncomfortable and want to vent than being scolded by your parents! So, if your parents love you very much, you must thank them for their warmth and help! At the same time, I can see from the scene of "Father Kneeling" that parents really love you. Every time I beat and scold you, I may feel sad silently. Because it hurts your parents when it hits you and scolds you! Therefore, we should cherish this parental affection more and often say "I love you, dear mom and dad!" " "This may make them very happy, let them discover our own bright spots, let them feel our existence, and thus love us and care about us more! At the same time, I remembered a short story: the child sprained his foot, and his father just asked coldly, "How are you?" "Then he said cruelly," If it's all right, stand up and go by yourself! Quick! " The child watched his father leave in surprise and sadness. Just when he was desperate, his father suddenly turned around and took a kindly look at the children in the corner ... It seems that parents' sternness and ruthlessness are only superficial phenomena, so that we can have a pair of discerning eyes and a grateful heart to understand their parents' true good intentions!