There is a crazy saying on the internet, "If you don't force your child, life will force him in the future!" It is said that Dong Qing said it. In fact, Dong Qing's exact words are not like this. The original words are: "When educating children, you choose to earn money, regardless of teaching. When the child grows up, you will earn money all your life, but you can't compete with him for a year. " The reason why it is misunderstood by many netizens is that more and more parents believe that forcing children to study can promote him to become a talent, while blind indulgence will only make him suffer in his later life. Therefore, parents are more willing to force their children to study hard when they are young, and do not want their children to suffer from life in the future.

In fact, children's schoolwork is really heavy nowadays. They not only have to finish all kinds of homework assigned by the school, but also have various interest classes and remedial classes waiting for them. Their small shoulders bear a huge burden. But we still need to understand a few truths to see if it is useful for parents to push like this:

First, whether persecution can promote children's success; Second, can we reduce persecution, improve children's interest and ability, and promote their success? The third is whether the harder the road to learning is, the greater the future achievements will be; The fourth is whether forcing children will be counterproductive, leading to children's distorted personality and weariness of learning. All these problems need attention. If you master it well, even if you don't force it, your child can become a talent. Poor mastery is harmful to children's growth.

1. Can a child become a success with parental coercion?

Whether a child can succeed depends on many factors, such as children's interests and specialties, parents' guidance, teachers' teaching and the influence of social environment ... Throughout ancient and modern times, any successful person is not simply persecuted by his parents, but a combination of many factors. Let's talk about the word persecution. Persecution is naturally to make others do things against their will by some coercive means. When parents force their children, they should first consider their own ideas, rather than standing from the child's point of view, which will cause their children's rebellious psychology.

2. Interest is more helpful to children's success than compulsion.

In this regard, we can find that people who love painting will become designers, people who love writing will become writers, and girls who love beauty will become makeup artists ... but people who can achieve something in their careers are nothing more than two things, one is interest and the other is ability. In fact, interest is the best teacher and the best ability. As long as you are interested in anything, you will be motivated, and you will be able to persevere and achieve something in the future.

3. Is it true that the harder you study, the greater your grades?

When many adults force their children to learn, they just feel more at ease when they force them to learn, because the more they pay, the more they get. Actually, adults don't have to do this. As long as you find the right method and teach students in accordance with their aptitude, even if you don't force it, it will give you a surprise return. If you persecute blindly, regardless of the objective reality, it will only be futile, or even counterproductive, which will not only help children to become talents, but also harm them.

Forcing children for a long time is counterproductive.

Parents persecute their children for a long time, which will lead to children's weariness of learning; Second, it will lead to weak family ties and affect the feelings of parents and children; The third is to make the child's character weak, inferior and irritable, ignoring self-emotion and interest. If parents want their children to become talents, they should help them find their own interests and specialties and encourage them to stick to them for a long time. Only when they have tasted the sweetness can they become more conscious and naturally more successful!