A few days ago, a video of a little boy crying became popular on the Internet.

It happened on February 28th, 65438. The little boy had his hair cut in a barber shop in Langfang, Hebei. Because the salesman's hairstyle was different from what he wanted, the little boy cried in grievance.

She cried and said excitedly, "What I want is lightning. This is a 2! " "

For this lightning hairstyle, the boy deliberately left his hair for a year, which shows that he attaches importance to this hairstyle.

After many explanations, he even tried to draw his own hairstyle.

Can draw a piece of paper, he didn't draw his ideal hairstyle, and the little boy became more and more worried:

"I can't draw, I will draw until I am old!"

"I will sort it out until I die!"

Many netizens were amused by this "stubborn" little boy, but my first reaction was:

Children are going through a very important stage in their growth process-the aesthetic sensitive period.

At this stage, children's aesthetic consciousness begins to sprout, they are very concerned about their self-image and have strong opinions.

Parenting expert Sun Ruixue pointed out:

"The temperament of adults is caused by the aesthetics of childhood, which has laid a foundation for people's aesthetic tendency and quality of life throughout their lives."

In the aesthetic sensitive period, if children who love beauty cannot be well guided, it will have a negative impact on their physical and mental development.

It is human nature to love beauty, and it is also a necessary growth experience for every child.

However, many parents habitually restrain and suppress their children's budding pursuit of beauty, which is actually not conducive to the healthy development of their children's body and mind.

CCTV host Dong Qing grew up under the severe pressure of his father.

When I was very young, my father made many trivial and specific demands on Dong Qing. He doesn't allow Dong Qing, who just learned to love beauty, to look in the mirror, nor does he allow his wife to make new clothes for Dong Qing.

Dong Qing's father has a famous saying: "Potatoes are potatoes." In his view, it is "doing nothing" for girls to put too much thought on dressing up. You might as well spend time reading in the mirror.

Dong Qing learned to persist because of her father's strict requirements, which laid the foundation for her to grow into a CCTV host, but at the same time it became an unavoidable shadow for Dong Qing.

She became insecure and once suspected that she was not her father's own;

Become extremely inferior, "I become unconfident and wonder if I am not doing well or not as good as others."

Years later, when she talked about this childhood experience again, tears filled her eyes several times.

It was not until one day that her father raised his glass to apologize to her that she was able to let go.

Deliberately suppressing children's pursuit of beauty will not only make children lose their judgment and grasp of beauty, affect their future image and temperament, but also bring psychological trauma, bury the shadow of childhood, and then affect their lifelong development.

Children who don't understand beauty are doomed to miss more excitement and happiness.

Pursuing beauty can not only make children feel happy, but also enable them to build strong self-confidence from an early age.

I have seen a very popular public service advertisement.

A 6-year-old girl wore different clothes and went to the same place to test people's attitude towards her.

When she dressed cleanly and elegantly and stood alone in the street, passers-by were attracted by her and asked her with concern if she needed help.

But when she stood in the same place in dirty clothes, no one came forward to take care of her.

Subsequently, the test site was changed to a restaurant.

The little girl dressed neatly sat at someone else's table, and everyone cared about her very gently and even touched her.

When she puts on dirty clothes and walks into the restaurant again, as long as she is near other people's tables, their eyes will be full of disgust and even drive her away.

Although this is an experiment to test the reaction of passers-by, the little girl's reaction is also intriguing.

When she was wearing dirty clothes, she was depressed and her eyes were dim.

When she put on beautiful clothes and combed her beautiful hair, it was like a different person, with bright and confident eyes.

Being close to and having beauty is an important way for children to establish contact with the surrounding society.

Parents who allow their children to love beauty can raise confident and beautiful children.

Educator Suhomlinski once said:

"The perception and understanding of beauty is the core of aesthetic education and the key point of aesthetic cultivation. Without this cultivation, people's feelings will be indifferent to all the beautiful and noble things in life. "

When children begin to have their own cognition of "beauty", how should parents guide their children to form a positive aesthetic?

(1) Respect children's aesthetics.

There is a "cutest designer" chaos in America. When I was 4 years old, I burst into the fashion circle and sucked 500 thousand powder.

At a young age, she has been able to independently complete product design, including design sketches, material selection, cutting, splicing, sewing and so on.

Behind the achievements stands a mother who knows how to respect and appreciate her own aesthetics.

Mayhem often wraps scarves and scraps of paper as skirts at home.

Instead of stopping her, her mother encouraged her to "make a skirt out of paper".

They tried all kinds of paper together, such as posters, wrapping paper, toilet paper and silk scarves, and made beautiful clothes.

Mom also put photos of clothes designed by Mayhem on the Internet, which won the favor of the famous brand J.Crew, and Mayhem was also invited to become a children's wear designer.

No one is born with everything, and the aesthetic ability is the same. We need to sum up our experience in constant exploration and improve it bit by bit.

For a child in an aesthetic sensitive period, the attitude of parents is particularly important.

If parents know how to respect their children's feelings, don't laugh at and suppress their aesthetics, and give them respect and care, it will lay a good foundation for the cultivation of their aesthetic power.

(2) Help children to establish a comprehensive and diverse aesthetic view.

Huang Lei once said:

"Real acceptance is not blind connivance. When we discover children's needs, we should help them establish a comprehensive and diverse aesthetic, provide them with a beautiful stage and let them be better themselves. "

This is how he raised his daughter.

Duoduo has been searched for hair dyeing, makeup, ear piercing and other things, and even caused many netizens to question, but Huang Lei still supports her daughter.

For the cultivation of her daughter's aesthetics, Huang Lei is not limited to these superficial things. He also encouraged him to take part in more plays, translate picture books by himself, participate in international piano competitions and win prizes. ...

In these activities, I learned a lot about all kinds of beauty. I am no longer limited to people's external beauty, but pay more attention to inner beauty.

In order to establish a pluralistic and comprehensive aesthetic view, we need to create conditions for children to be exposed to different beauty.

You can take your children into nature, enjoy the scenery and flowers, and feel the beauty of nature;

You can take your children to art galleries, art galleries and museums, and enlighten them to discover, feel and appreciate beauty with knowledge.

Only by establishing a diversified and all-round aesthetic view can children not indulge in vanity brought by external beauty, but pursue deeper beauty.

(3) Being a beautiful mother is the best aesthetic education for children.

It is said that parents are the best role models for children, and their image and attitude towards life will have a far-reaching impact on children's aesthetics.

Being a positive mother who loves beauty is the best aesthetic education for our children.

Li Mingjue is a "master of contemporary stage design in the world" and "master of stage design in the United States", and has won the Tony Award, the highest award in American stage art.

The growth of this master artist is deeply influenced by his mother.

Li Mingjue's childhood was deeply moved by his mother's sense of ritual when she wore cheongsam and made up seriously.

He felt: "It is a kind of self-discipline behind beauty, and it is awe and love for life."

The woman who deeply influenced and urged Li Mingjue to embark on the artistic path was Tang Ying, who was known as the "first celebrity" in the Republic of China.

Parents are children's first teachers, and they are also children's first teachers who know and perceive beauty.

Parents who love beauty can not only enrich their children's aesthetic cognition, but also convey their attitude of loving life to their children.

What you are now is what your children will be in the future.

Kung fu mommy said:

It is natural to love beauty, and aesthetic education is the most important and basic education of outlook on life.

I hope that every child can have parents who respect their own aesthetics, guide and accompany them to discover beauty, and establish a correct aesthetic view to nourish and enrich their lives.