First of all, American parents encourage their children more than they protect them, while China parents overprotect their children more than they encourage them.

American parents encourage their children to make various attempts, which not only cultivates their abilities and interests, but also pays attention to building self-confidence.

China's overprotective parents lead to children's dependence on their parents, which makes them doubt or lose their correct understanding and evaluation of self-worth and self-ability, and rely on their parents for everything. Parents. For fear that children will be injured and bullied, parents think that many things are too dangerous or activities are very dangerous, so they will not let their children participate.

Second, American parents guide their children more than indoctrination, while China parents preach more than guidance.

American parents pay attention to guiding their children to gain experience and lessons and draw conclusions through practice or even after hitting a wall. Often say to children: "decide for yourself." "You go and have a try." "I think ... it might be better?" "My suggestion is …" and so on.

China's parents like to tell their children their experiences and lessons directly, so that they can avoid detours. Often say to children: "You are still young, you should listen to adults." "You don't understand, just do as I say." "I told you ... why didn't you listen?" "Wrong, if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer." "Listen to me, I eat more salt than you do" and so on.

Third, American parents demand their children's all-round development, while parents in China often substitute learning well for everything.

American parents encourage their children to participate in public welfare activities in schools and communities. They are also participants, organizers and service providers, and require their children to volunteer twice a week. However, American parents don't ask their children to learn piano, painting and dancing, but they do it voluntarily.

China's parents only pay attention to their children's study, and they do all the housework, let alone let their children do volunteer work. If there is no extra points for evaluation, even the class cadres are reluctant to let their children go to work. However, children never relax or even force themselves to learn piano, painting and dancing, and even accompany them all the time on weekends.

Fourth, American parents establish their children's self-confidence, while China parents discourage their children's self-confidence.

American parents say to their children, "You are the best. But I know you can do better. I know you. " "When I was your age, I was far behind you." "It doesn't matter if you didn't do well in this exam. I believe you can do it next time. "

China's parents said, "You are too stupid to know such a simple topic." "You see that other children are better than you." "How many times have I told you? I just can't remember." These words, which are often mentioned intentionally or unintentionally, have greatly hit and destroyed children's self-confidence.