Case Ms. Wang's son Doudou is three and a half years old this year. He is often naughty and has a stubborn temper. He likes to lose his temper easily Recently, he also learned to swear. Ms. Wang tried to reason with the child gently, but he didn't listen at all, so in order to make the child remember for a long time, she often hit the child in anger. However, after beating and cursing, the child seems to be getting worse and worse, which makes Ms. Wang feel helpless and irritable.

I believe many parents have encountered this situation. In fact, children lose their temper for a reason. In most cases, parents always order and ask their children to do things with the attitude of adults, and rarely look at problems from the perspective of children. The two are opposite, and contradictions naturally arise. To this end, only by understanding the emotional roots of children can we help children better control their bad temper.

Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a great educator, once said that we must be children before we are worthy to be children's teachers. This means that parents can only put themselves in the same position as their children, put themselves in their shoes, use the "symbiotic effect" to understand their children's bad emotions and sources, and then help them to channel and digest their bad emotions, thus controlling their emotions.

What is the "symbiotic effect"? Symbiosis means that a single plant grows short, but when it grows with many plants, it will take root and sprout. This is a phenomenon of mutual influence and common progress, which is also applicable to children's education. As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black with excellent people".

Psychoanalysts believe that children's aggressive behavior is a part of self-development and a normal phenomenon. What parents should do is not to restrain, but to guide. Rational use of symbiotic effect can produce positive psychological suggestion and emotional control. First of all, parents need to set an example, otherwise it will achieve the opposite effect and avoid the negative "symbiotic effect".

How to use symbiotic effect to educate children? 1, guide children to vent their emotions

When the child's mood fluctuates greatly, parents should let the child tell the reason and the reason of starting temper, so that the child can sort out his experience and exercise his thinking ability.

2. Help them ease their emotions

After the child finds out the reasons for his temper, parents should tell the child the possible adverse effects of bad emotions, and then tell the child how to deal with the problem. If his heart is really hard, he can take a deep breath to control his emotions.

3. Cultivate empathy

Empathy ability is to let children exchange roles, think about problems, let children feel what it is like to receive bad emotions, and let children realize what harm emotions have caused to others, so that they will not make it again.

When a child loses his temper, parents should never shout, cheat or fight. These methods will only make children fall into the trap of bad temper.