Zhihu replied: Which parents have you seen "amazing" your education methods?

On the Zhihu, someone once asked a topic: Which parents have you seen "amazing" your education methods?

The topic has been very hot. Up to now, this topic has been answered by 5000+ netizens, who recorded amazing educational stories that they saw or experienced with their own eyes. So how do parents in these stories educate their children?

Encouragement: I saw your efforts.

@ Zhihu User Anonymous:

My mother's education method is amazing.

I have poor learning ability, I am slow to learn everything, and my understanding is not very good. The things in primary school are very simple, most people can get full marks, and I almost never get full marks.

However, when I came home from the exam, my mother never scolded me once. She even said, nothing, I did well in the exam. Just don't make mistakes next time. Several times, I asked her sadly if I was really stupid.

She said, "You know what? The bigger the pot, the slower the boiling water. Their pot is very small, so it cooks quickly. But your pot is big. Cook it slowly. You may not be as good as others now, but you will do better than others in the future! "

This is simply textbook education! She encouraged me like this, always encouraging me. Then finally, finally, I was admitted to the National People's Congress.

Be an outstanding person

@ Zhihu User @ Yan Yidan:

When I was a child, I was very introverted, I didn't like to talk, I didn't dare to show off, and sometimes I was afraid to show my skills.

I remember it was when I was in primary school. Once, I came home angrily and told my mother that I hated XXX in my class. There was a program to be held at that time, but I didn't sign up for it because I was afraid it might not work. As a result, XXX went, not as good as me. I feel ashamed and angry. Why didn't the teacher ask me to go?

My mother didn't answer me directly at that time, but pointed to a big bag of oranges just bought on the table and said to me, "Pick an orange."

I remember staring at the red net full of oranges and looking at every orange carefully. Every orange in winter is yellow and thick-skinned, all the same. After thinking for a long time, I still don't know how to choose.

"These oranges are all the same. Let me choose which one. "

"Yes. In the eyes of the teacher, you are just like these oranges. How to choose them? If you want to be selected, you must first let people see your own characteristics. "

At that moment, at a young age, I realized what "enlightenment" was for the first time. From then on, I have a consciousness, not only to learn something, but also to find ways to let others know that you know this thing, so that resources will come to you.

The relationship between poverty and laziness

@ Zhihu User: Miss:

My mother took me to eat steak in primary school. It's really embarrassing to think of this name now. Mary Su Improved Western Restaurant, but I loved it when I was a child. We sat in the soft seats in the restaurant on the second floor, listening to light music, drinking lemonade and waiting for the steak.

At this time, a pair of travel-stained mother and son appeared downstairs. Mother took bread out of her bag, and her son ate the eggs he had just bought. My mother said it must be hard for you to look after your aunt downstairs. I said yes, don't say that our teacher said that if you don't study hard, you will do manual work, suffer hardships and want to buy things without money.

My mother said that many times poverty is not caused by laziness. Maybe others don't have as good educational conditions as you, and they may not have good opportunities, so don't criticize others' lives easily. But your teacher says it is meaningful to study hard. In the future, you can not only eat steak by yourself, but also make the world a better place and let more people eat steak.

There is a saying: "Children's future is a replica of their parents' three views". What kind of three views you pass on to your child, what kind of person your child will become.

Kong Rong, do you want pears?

@ Zhihu User: Wang Hao:

Once, in the middle of a dinner party, classmate A came from other places in a hurry and gave her daughter (4 years old) and classmate B's daughter (2 years old) a Barbie doll each. The children started fighting while playing. It turns out that these two dolls are exactly the same at first sight. Look carefully at the one wearing pink high heels, a barefoot one, and children want to wear shoes. The doll with shoes is in the hand of a 4-year-old child.

Two mothers began to comfort their children. The mother of a 4-year-old child said, "My sister is still young. You should give her the doll. " The child didn't listen and cried.

A 2-year-old mother told her daughter that the doll with shoes is really beautiful, but this doll without shoes is a gift from Uncle A.. My uncle is on a business trip. I still miss you and want to buy you a beautiful doll. This is what others think of you. How can we find fault with others? Hearing this, my daughter stopped crying at once. She said to the 4-year-old child, don't cry, this doll is for you.

I really admired my 2-year-old mother at that time. I think her education is particularly remarkable. I don't think this reason is appropriate. I just think she gradually understands "gratitude" and "not picky about other people's gifts", which my parents never told me when I was a child. When children are only 2 years old, I feel very moved to tell them this truth as the most basic common sense.

You can go surfing, but you should also learn to protect yourself.

@ Zhihu User Anonymous:

Let's talk about my mother's educational methods. I am a girl. More naughty than boys since childhood, palms are calluses. When I was a child, I had several impressive dangerous experiences: first, I fell into the Yangtze River at the age of 2 and was rescued by kind passers-by (rescuers); Second, primary schools like to turn parallel bars, and their faces are swollen when they fall.

Then my mother did two things: first, let me learn to swim; The second is to teach me to play all kinds of sports equipment at school. In the evening, she took me to the school playground and told me how to hold hands and bind feet when turning the parallel bars to climb the pole.

My mother said that safety awareness is necessary, and you can't engage in dangerous sports without parents and teachers, but parents and teachers can't always be around you, and you can't guarantee that curiosity and fun will suddenly pop up and try it yourself. Therefore, we must learn relevant skills and increase our safety factor.

Son, I won't hinder your playful heart and curiosity about the world, but safety comes first. Before that, you must learn to protect yourself.

Those who want to line up, this is the rule.

@ Zhihu User: Listen to the rain:

Once my friends and I went to the mall to go to the bathroom. The seats are full, so I need to wait in line. There are two people in front of us. Then came a very young mother with a little girl of about four or five years old. That mother is beautiful and that little girl is lovely.

Mother said to the little girl, "There are many people here. You must wait in line. Please hold on. " The little girl said, "All right." But after a few seconds, the little girl said, "Mom, I can't hold on ..." Mom said, "Then everyone is waiting in line. Let me discuss it with my sister in front! "

Then a few people in front heard it and said to let the little girl go first! Mom says thank you or something, so let the little girl say thank you. Mother put the little girl to bed and came out. The little girl asked her mother, "Mom, don't you sleep?"

Mother said, "We had to wait in line because you are a child. You can't wait, your sisters let you go first. But mom is an adult, and adults have to line up. "

When others heard the mother say this, they all said to let her go first. But mother refused. She said, "We have to wait in line. It was embarrassing to jump the queue just now. The most important thing is to let the children have a sense of rules ... "

So I took my children back to the line and queued again. Parents lead by example, and the effect of education is more than 10,000 times better than repeating the rules to their children orally.

Nothing is easy.

@ Zhihu User: Elf:

There is a 5-year-old Thai child who doesn't want to go to school. It is useless to persuade him. So his mother took a day off and took him to the street to pick up garbage and sell it.

Finally, I found a 2 kg plastic bottle. The boy sold the bottle he picked up to his mother at the market price of scrap purchase. Sold 2 baht, about 0.4 yuan RMB.

When the child wanted to take the bus, the mother said that there was not enough money. When the child wants to eat snacks, the mother says there is not enough money. Finally, my mother asked, "Do you want to work or go to school like this?" The tired boy shouted, "I'm going to school!" " "

The root of education extends from home, and the key to housekeeping lies in parents. If we can regard parenting as a "profession" and treat children's education with awe and responsibility, it will give children a bright future.

Trust: When the whole world doesn't believe you, I believe you.

@ Zhihu User: Persimmon:

Ma Yili once said that when she was a freshman, the teacher decided that she was "in puppy love with many boys". So, her father asked the teacher to write the name of "boy" and said, "I know my daughter best. I'd better tell the principal." Break up with the teacher.

After learning this, Ma Yili cried on the spot. She said, "I want to remind myself to be more conscious and let my parents trust me more."

Children who are trusted by their parents will become more and more confident.

The way you educate your children is really beautiful.

@ Zhihu User: Tuoyuan Fish:

A 4-year-old baby started eating as soon as he got on the subway, but his parents didn't find it when they called. By the end of the call, debris had fallen all over the subway.

Mother took the child by the arm and asked him, "Wenwen, I have a question for you."

Child (innocent face): "What?"

Mom: "Once upon a time, a wolf got on the subway and found three lambs. Why don't wolves eat lambs? "

Children: "Uh-huh, the wolf is not hungry, right?"

Mother: "No, it's because you are not allowed to eat on the subway."

Child (shy face): "Oh."

Then, with the help of his mother, the child bent down and cleaned all the crumbs with paper towels.

Some people are not beautiful, but their brilliance is really dazzling.

Many parents often complain,

How to educate children?

How difficult it is to educate children!

In fact, there is no model for educating children.