What do parents need to do about their children's sex education? At this time, parents need patient guidance. The emergence of every problem shows that the lack of children's growth has a great impact on their future development. The children's world is pure. Below I share some methods that parents use to educate their children about sex.

What do parents need to do about their children's sex education? Have you ever given your children 1 sex education?

Recently, I saw in a program that Sun told an interesting story about his childhood:

Sun was chased by a girl when he was a child. Holding hands with each other, she was scared for a few days after returning home. Because at that time, many people said: Holding hands with girls will make you pregnant. ...

Many people find it funny, but how much do the children around them know?

I once saw a scene in an autobiographical novel by Taiwan Province beauty writer Lin, who committed suicide due to depression. The little girl asked her mother, "our family education seems to have everything except sex education." My mother replied in surprise: "What sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex ... "The mother's attitude of taking it for granted brought tragedy to her daughter-the mentor extended a magical hand to her.

Why do many parents delay sex education for their children?

Now many parents know the necessity of sex education for their children, but they are very embarrassed. "It doesn't seem appropriate to tell children this", "Children will naturally understand when they are older" and "I don't know how to speak, which is quite embarrassing" ... which hinders their start.

If you ask them to teach children to read and draw, they may do as they say, but when it comes to sex education, there is always an invisible wall in front of them.

Parents don't know that behind this invisible wall, children may have been approached by "wolves and beasts" step by step. The embarrassment and embarrassment of parents can put children in deep danger.

In the CCTV 20 18 program "Caring for Tomorrow", these data made our parents uneasy:

In China, an average of seven children are sexually assaulted every day, 88% of whom are committed by acquaintances. However, experts in criminal psychology remind that the "hidden case rate" of these child sexual assault incidents is 7: 1, that is, only 1 out of every 7 sexual assault incidents is exposed.

It means that the average number of children who are sexually injured every day in China is far more than that!

In the face of these worrying data, in fact, as parents, if we work harder, our children will be less hurt.

In their infancy, learning a little sexual knowledge and self-protection can help them stay away from potential harm.

To educate children about sex, parents are advised to do five things, from the point of view of emphasis and necessity:

1, tell children: Don't trust people you don't know easily, and you can't leave with them.

1994, Megan, a 7-year-old American girl, was playing happily in front of her house. A neighbor named Jesse told her that he had a lovely puppy at home. Dogs are children's favorite. Megan followed them excitedly and curiously, and Megan disappeared from there. Later, Jesse was caught. He lured wheat roots into the house, then sexually assaulted them and brutally killed them. When everyone was surprised to find that Jesse had become a recidivist, Xiaomei's sad mother called for those recidivists to be made public to make people wary.

Because of the lack of life experience, children are simple-minded and blank, and they are unprepared for everyone. We often say that lessons come from life experiences, but some experiences are shadows.

No parents want their children to go through this.

Educate children from an early age, don't trust people you don't know easily, and you can't follow them. Especially when people you don't know seduce you with toys, candy or small pets, you can't believe and accept it.

Telling children stories about other children's accidental injuries can improve their vigilance.

2. Help children know: red light, yellow light, green light and other body parts.

What is the green light? Body parts that can be touched by small playmates, classmates, teachers, relatives, new acquaintances, etc. , including the hand touched when shaking hands;

What is the yellow light part? Close friends, frequent playmates, familiar teachers, frequent relatives and other body parts that can be touched, including the shoulders touched when comforting, the arms touched when talking, and the shoulders touched when excited;

What's the red light? The parts that only you can touch, as well as the parts that your close family can touch when you are a child to help you take a bath or apply medicine, are collectively called "swimsuit covers", which are sensitive areas of your child's body.

Of these three parts, parents should first focus on the red light part, because children may not receive so much information at once, and then introduce them to the yellow light and green light part after they know and remember the red light part. When parents help their children understand these different body parts, they can combine pictures to make them more intuitive and easier to understand.

3. Help children understand: What is the harm of "sex"?

A few years ago, some parents found that several little girls were tricked into their homes by an old man after school every day and sexually assaulted for one year on the grounds of watching TV. One of them is an old man's neighbor. When her parents asked her if the old man did it, the little girl was very calm: "Yes, Grandpa Zhang said it was exercise and good for her health ..." Her parents were very guilty and blamed themselves.

Many children don't know what "sexual" harm is. Even when they go through it, although they feel uncomfortable, they don't know that those behaviors are harmful to them, so they don't know how to ask for help.

When parents teach their children what "sexual" harm is, it can be divided into three characteristics:

Injury feature 1: Someone deliberately exposed the "red light part"

You can tell your child that when you meet a stranger, he suddenly exposes his "red light part" to you. This is an abnormal behavior and should be kept away.

Injury feature 2: Someone touches your "red light"

You can tell your child that when a stranger, or a familiar playmate, teacher or relative touches the "red light part" of your body with his hand or body, it is already a sexual injury. Stay away from it for the first time and tell your parents.

Injury feature 3: Someone touches you with a "red light".

You can tell your child that when strangers, familiar playmates, teachers and relatives, and even close family members touch your body with "red light parts" such as genitals, no matter which part you touch, it is already a sexual injury. Stay away from it for the first time and tell your trusted parents or family.

Always remind children that if they feel confused or "uncomfortable", they should tell their parents.

In addition to developing the habit of frequent communication with children, parents need to remind their children in their daily lives to tell their parents when they encounter confused, unhappy or "uncomfortable" things. Generally speaking, the following practices of parents will hurt children's willingness to communicate:

Parents habitually criticize their children;

Ignore the child's words;

Indifferently face the child's words;

I often feel that children make a mountain out of a molehill;

Think it is a waste of time to communicate with children. ...

The correct principles of communication between parents and children are: patience, interest, less criticism, more recognition, and encouraging children to communicate with their parents.

When parents and children form this conversation habit, children will tell their parents as soon as they encounter something.

Parents should remember that boys will also be victims.

Yao, a mime who is famous for playing a clown, calmly told others about his childhood experience of being hurt by an old man.

At that time, he went home by bus alone after school, because he fell asleep in the car and missed the next stop. He had no choice but to get off the bus, get caught in a rain and get wet all over. At this time, an "enthusiastic" old man came up to him and said, "You are all wet, and you will be scolded by your parents when you go home." Then the old man said that he could drink a bowl of hot water in his house, and he was drugged in his house. ...

From then on, every time someone stood behind him on the bus, he would tremble all over.

In 20 12 years, the data of end child sexual abuse foundation showed that the proportion of boys who suffered sexual injuries was higher than that of girls 17%. Parents think that boys are relatively safe, but this mentality gives the bad guys an opportunity.

Children are small buds, and growth needs sunshine and rain, not harm.

Parents, please push open the "wall" that stands in front of you and is ashamed of sex education!

What do parents need to do about children's sex education? 2. At what age should sex education start? Domestic experts tend to think that when adolescence is too late, the earlier sex education begins, the better. Experts pointed out that sex education can be divided into three stages: early childhood (0-6 years old), childhood (7- 10 years old) and adolescence (1-14 years old). /kloc-before the age of 0/0, parents are naturally the best teachers of sex education. Driven by curiosity, children often feel puzzled about the differences between boys and girls and ask their parents all kinds of questions. At this time, parents should answer their questions simply and clearly according to natural phenomena, and can't talk about sex, reproduction and other plots in detail. If they don't explain thoroughly, their curiosity will not be satisfied and they will feel more mysterious.

Children's sexual problems are generally divided into four stages.

1, body cognition stage 0-4 years old, mostly asking about the names and differences of body organs.

2, the origin of life stage 4-8 years old, ask more about the origin of life and fertility.

3. The stage of sexual knowledge is 8- 12 years old, and most of them ask some questions related to sex.

4. The education stage of love is 12- 16 years old, and most of them ask five questions related to love, marriage and sex.

Children's sex education should be as early as possible, just pay attention to the characteristics and methods of each stage, so that children can accept it without causing mental harm to them.

Sex education begins with gender identity.

1, identification of gender roles. Sex education should tell children from the beginning that there are differences between men and women. Generally speaking, boys are more proud of recognizing and accepting their gender roles, while girls are more passive. Now, under the care of grandmothers, grandmothers and female teachers, some boys are "feminine", quiet, hygienic, gentle and obedient, and some girls are selfish and overbearing like boys because they are spoiled. These are all bad tendencies (YIqiG. cN).

2. Recognition of parents' family roles. Parents are more important in early sex education. A father should have a sense of responsibility, take care of his family, love his wife and children, do not smoke or drink, have a civilized language, and be punctual and trustworthy. A mother should be enthusiastic, intelligent, thrifty and know how to be beautiful. Parents should set an example for their children and let them get the recognition of family roles from their parents.

3. Have good hygiene habits. For example, girls should cultivate the order of wiping their bottoms from an early age, and boys should also wash their private parts frequently and know how to protect their penises.

4. Answer the question about the origin of life. When children ask such questions as "where do I come from" or "how do I come from", it is also a good opportunity to educate children correctly, which can cultivate children's concept of cherishing life and honoring their parents. Parents don't have to be so detailed when answering, but they must let their children know rather than hide it.