As the saying goes, if you want a child to become a dragon, you want a woman to become a phoenix. Parents have great expectations for their children, hoping that their children can become "dragons and phoenixes among people" in the eyes of others. In order to meet their expectations, many parents will become all kinds of "monster parents". This "monster" is not another "monster". In recent years, the "tiger mother" and "wolf father" who catch people's eyes are dizzying, and they are famous for cultivating their children into talents in various strict education methods. Various educational experts took turns to appear, Experiences of various parenting experts are shared on social media. With this in mind, ..........................................................................................................................................................'s parents have gradually become "tiger mother and wolf father". However, we must not blindly imitate other people's educational methods, and it may not be feasible to apply them directly to our own children.

Second, teach children three points that cannot be ignored 1. Don't forget to be friends with the children.

It is parents' nature to love children, but in the process of educating children, it is easy for us to lose our original appearance. Because of social pressure, peer comparison and high expectations, children lost the opportunity to be friends with their parents. When we become "tiger mother and wolf father", when we become high-ranking supervisors and leaders, our children become humble courtiers. Therefore, in the process of educating children, don't forget the identity of friends as well as parents.

2. Don't ignore the power of praise.

Whether a 3-year-old child or a 30-year-old adult, they all need the recognition and confidence of others. It is not a simple matter to let children build up their self-confidence. When children are not confident, it is not because they hear "Be bold! Don't be afraid! " And gain confidence. Self-confidence is accumulated bit by bit in life. Self-confidence is not gained by comparison. How good other children are has nothing to do with your children. Therefore, encouragement and praise are things that parents must do every day, and they are as natural as breathing.

Don't neglect the importance of companionship.

Children need a good family environment, so what affects the quality of the family environment? Is it a matter of substance? Is it the level of education? Is it the satisfaction of love life? I think material satisfaction is far less important than spiritual satisfaction. When we can give our child a childhood with the love of mom and dad, then he must be a happy and healthy child.

Third, how to better educate children? 1. Protect children's curiosity

Every child is curious about everything in the world, but not every parent can see their curiosity and protect them. When children keep asking questions, do we really listen carefully or solve the problem? When the children grow up, will you throw the answer directly to them? Are they encouraged to follow their curiosity to learn and explore? Curiosity is one of the natural driving forces of learning. Protect children's curiosity!

2. Children have individual differences, and educational methods should find their own way.

Every child has his own characteristics, and it is not necessarily suitable for parents to blindly copy other people's educational methods. Instead of trying blindly, it is better to carefully observe the shortcomings and deficiencies of children. Different people, according to local conditions, choose the right one better than the famous one. Secondly, don't change the education method that suits you because of others' example. Such education will make children feel confused.

3. Be good at using the power of habit

Instead of staring at children to complete all kinds of homework and tasks every day, it is better to let children form their own habits. The power of habit is that people can finish tasks relatively easily without pressure. When we make learning a habit, it is as natural as eating and sleeping, and the pressure will be reduced. What can I do to make learning a habit? First of all, we should proceed step by step, and we should not set our goals very high at once. Secondly, we need to find that our rhythm is too relaxed and free, which is not conducive to children's learning, and too depressed is not conducive to children's learning. Arranging a complete course for children may not be fully absorbed. Only by combining work and rest can Zhang Can go further and be more stable.

Educating children is actually a process of parents' self-education and self-growth. In this process, children and parents can reflect on themselves, know themselves, express themselves and fulfill themselves.