Hello, teachers and classmates For a long time, we have been used to using IQ to predict people's success. We often say, "Wow, this man with such a high IQ will make a difference." But there are also some phenomena that cause people to think.
Why are some people top students in school, but they are "indifferent" and do nothing after entering the society?
Why are some people relaxed and happy when facing difficulties and troubles? Some people are depressed and listless?
Why do some people adapt well in any environment, while others are at a loss because of the slight adjustment of the environment?
Therefore, in 1995, Daniel Gorman, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, put forward a new concept of emotional intelligence, which is what we usually call emotional intelligence. Dr. Gorman believes that predicting a person's success mainly depends on EQ rather than IQ. EQ includes emotion, perception, evaluation, expression, analysis, acquisition, transformation and adjustment. In the final analysis, it is a tentative grasp and description of the inner strength of life. We can sum it up in five aspects.
To know your own ability, you can often reflect on yourself, know yourself from different angles and express yourself, because only by knowing yourself can you build your self-confidence.
Controlling one's ability, controlling one's emotions and resolving some bad emotions is a key point of EQ. If a person can keep a cool head, he can restrain his excitement, make him happy and always keep an optimistic attitude.
The ability to work hard for one's own goals, doing things without external promotion, learning and doing things are spontaneous and automatic.
Those who can resist short-term temptations can achieve lofty goals and have strong social adaptability only by looking far and not indulging in short-term interests.
Ability to deal with interpersonal relationships. Maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships, understand other people's mentality, respect other people's ideas, and learn to build interpersonal networks.
If IQ is mainly determined by human innate genes, then EQ is the main factor.
If people are cultivated in the acquired interpersonal communication and social life practice. It mainly begins in preschool, gradually forms in childhood and adolescence, and ends in adulthood. Emotional intelligence is not limited by innate genes like IQ, but grows with the enrichment of life experience and the growth of learning knowledge.
Emotional intelligence is a kind of spiritual strength, a kind of accomplishment and a kind of character quality. People with high emotional intelligence have great vision, active life and good interpersonal relationships. In contrast, these people are more likely to succeed than those with high IQ and low EQ.
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Emotional intelligence is an important and necessary factor for a person's success, and it is more important than IQ. A survey by Harvard University shows that 85% of the reasons for success, achievement and promotion are due to our correct emotions, and only 15% is due to our expertise. This means that we spend 90% of our education time and money to study our 15% chance of success; And only spend 10% time and money to learn 85% chances of success. Cherman believes that people's psychological control and adjustment ability is an important guarantee for their adaptation to social survival and success. Someone once did an experiment: let some 4-and 5-year-old children get a marshmallow each, and tell them to wait for a head before eating, and then they can get another marshmallow. But the result of the experiment is that there are not many children who can wait for an hour, but children who are patient can adapt to the environment, become more confident and reliable when they grow up, and their achievements in all aspects are higher than those who can't restrain themselves. It can be seen that for modern people, it is more important to successfully adjust their own psychology and emotions than IQ. Including President Clinton and his wife, have clearly expressed their support for the development of EQ research and EQ education. Emotional intelligence is more concerned than IQ. Let's give another example. There is a young man who works in an oil company in America. He doesn't have a high degree and no special skills. His work can even be done by a child, that is, patrolling hundreds of times a day to confirm whether the fuel tank is automatically welded. After a few days, he was bored, but in order to make a breakthrough in his work, he paid more attention to the welding work. When he found that every time he operated, the solder dropped 39 drops, he conducted many experiments and finally invented the "38 drops" welding machine. His invention brings the company 500 million dollars in new profits every year. This young man is john rockefeller, an oil tycoon who later mastered 95% of the real power of the American oil industry. A person with high emotional intelligence does not need external motivation to do things. He studies and does things spontaneously, so that even if his IQ is not higher than others, his grades can be better than others. Kerman also believes that emotional intelligence is one of the most important survival abilities of individuals. Among the students here, the IQ is definitely higher than that of the debater, but why is it the other debater sitting in the debater chair today, not other students? The answer is simple, because the other debater's EQ is higher than theirs. So we say that people's emotional intelligence is more important than IQ.
2 1 century is an era of knowledge economy in which human high technology and high emotion are combined. It not only requires everyone in society to have a high IQ level, but also requires human nature with a high EQ. To sum up, we think eq is more important than IQ.
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Everything must be traced back to the source. With the development of history, EQ and IQ have developed to a complementary period. But hundreds of thousands of years ago, when people just knew how to use tools, everything was backward, and people's knowledge and experience were accumulated in single digits. Was there IQ at that time? But after all, human beings survived and ruled the earth. If human beings, like chickens and ducks, only need to conform to nature, then the hardships paid will be much less, but human beings have survived and reached such a developed level today. Why? Just because you have emotional intelligence, you have the emotional intelligence to know yourself and strive for survival.
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Hello, teachers and classmates As the antithesis of the four arguments, let me sum up our consistent view that emotional intelligence is more important than IQ. As we all know, mankind is still in the wild age. Although the so-called knowledge is still very poor, human beings have the ability to explore and understand themselves and the spirit of continuous progress. It is precisely because of this that they constantly develop and enrich their knowledge, from a group of primitive people who eat hair and drink blood to a new knowledgeable human being. Just imagine, if primitive people didn't even explore themselves and understand their own spirit at all, they just didn't strive for progress and waited for animals with gifts, then why did they seek to expand their knowledge? If so, today's debate is not about us, but about two groups of screaming monkeys. The other debater is not a monkey, is he? Isn't this the important role played by your ancestors' emotional intelligence? Do you still deny that EQ is more important than IQ? )
Everyone here, don't you feel the charm of emotional intelligence? Cui Qi, one of the winners of this year's Nobel Prize in Physics, relies not only on knowledge, but also on self-confidence and a cheerful heart, just like his kindness. However, there is a student whose IQ is above 160 in the juvenile class of a famous university. He is a genius, but he is pretentious, withdrawn and mean-spoken. Later, he fell in love with Buddhism and got lost in the mountains. Pathetic! Let me ask you again, don't you see the consequences of not paying attention to emotional intelligence?
We will face the society, and no one will ask you who Sima Qian is or the peace of arithmetic progression when you apply. Robert Jeffrey Sternberg, a psychologist, pointed out that the traditional intelligence test pays too much attention to the results of the subjects' internal cognitive activities, and only pays attention to the importance of language and mathematical logic ability. When students leave school, can IQ predict who will have a successful career and a satisfactory social life? In fact, many people who fail in life are not technical failures, but interpersonal and emotional failures.
If success is the top of the pyramid, IQ is only the material to fill the pyramid, while EQ is an extremely important framework. If there is no framework, what will IQ be based on?
So we insist that EQ is more important than IQ. Let all those who insist on this view shout: "IQ is valuable, EQ is more expensive"!
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