Solve conflicts between children and deskmates.

Listen to children and accept emotions. When children have conflicts with their peers and are wronged, what children need most at this moment is the listening of their parents. Parents should first give their children a chance to release pressure. After the child stabilizes his emotions, he can talk to the child about what happened. Parents should learn to control their emotions and listen carefully.

In fact, most of the contradictions between children are not contradictions that fight to the end. Listening to children's descriptions and objectively understanding the whole process of things are the basis for effectively handling contradictions among children.

While listening, parents can empathize with their children's emotions, but don't rush to give advice, let alone reprimand their children with reproachful language. This will not only overlap minor contradictions, block the bridge of communication with children, but also increase the psychological burden of children.

Put yourself in the other's shoes and find out what the problem is. There are two links in empathy here. First of all, I want to empathize with the child and imagine how I would handle the situation described by the child. Is there a better way? If parents are at a loss, it is difficult to propose a better solution for their children.

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We should also pay attention to a misunderstanding here, that is, parents have completed the whole "process" according to their own understanding and started to "give advice" to their children. It is this last step that will greatly reduce the effect of teaching children to deal with contradictions. Children have their own natural wisdom.

When emotions are fully understood, parents can ask their children their own thoughts, and children can open their hearts and propose various solutions to problems. Therefore, parents should not make decisions for their children. The identity of parents is only to help children screen the best plan, not to "teach" the treatment. Only in this way, next time, children can really learn how to deal with classmates' conflicts.

Mutual respect and politeness are the basic principles of interpersonal communication. In kindergartens and classes in the lower grades of primary schools, there are always some children who are rude and can't express themselves. For example, they are rude in words and deeds, like to make fun of others, yell at others at every turn, and even hit people.