Do you know how parents cultivate their children's integrity? As the old saying goes, people stand without faith, things do without faith, and countries are uneasy without faith. Honesty is a very important quality of a person, and it is very important for parents to cultivate his sincerity. So how do parents cultivate their children's integrity? The following are some qualities that I have collected to cultivate children's integrity, hoping to help everyone.
How do parents cultivate their children's integrity? 1 1. First of all, parents should set a good example for their children, tell the truth to their children and others, do their best to accomplish what they promised others, and can't make excuses for their dishonesty. Otherwise, children can easily learn from their parents.
2. Help children develop good habits of honesty. Parents should praise their children's honesty in time. Parents should promptly point out their children's dishonesty and educate them to understand the importance of honesty in communication and the importance of fulfilling their promises.
3. Parents should try their best to meet their children's reasonable demands, and don't fool them with unreasonable demands. In order not to let the children make trouble, they make promises on the surface, but actually shirk their responsibilities and fail to fulfill their promises. Parents should explain their unreasonable demands to their children or ask them to change their demands.
4. Create a democratic and harmonious family relationship, and let children dare to express their ideas. Don't be too strict with children, so that children dare not admit their mistakes and have to lie to deal with them. Over time, they have developed a bad habit of lying.
5. At the same time, we should also create an honest family atmosphere. In addition to parents' practices, we can also decorate the room with the motto of honesty, buy more books about honesty, and cultivate children with rich cultural atmosphere.
6. Lying is the first step for a child to be dishonest. Educating children to be honest must begin with correcting their lies. When children lie, parents should first reflect on themselves, whether they are too strict with their children, so that they dare not express their demands and take responsibility.
7. Secondly, parents should not blindly criticize their children for lying. They should sit down with their children and have a serious talk to find out why they lie. At the same time, we should educate them what to do in this situation next time, know what to do and know the consequences of doing so. I won't lie again after I feel that there is no need to lie.
How do parents cultivate their children's integrity? Honesty comes from respect.
Comenius pointed out that children should be respected like God. Children are people with independent personality and the subject of self-development. From Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, we can also know that if children's self-esteem is challenged to a certain extent and they are not respected as expected, they may show dishonest words and deeds. Russell also said that a child who has never been intimidated since childhood must be honest, not because of moral constraints, but because he can't think of other ways. Numerous family examples have also proved that arbitrary parents will only use orders, threats, intimidation, irony and even violence to subdue their children, which will easily hurt their self-esteem, make them rebellious, and lead to their words and deeds being different. Democratic, harmonious and equal family atmosphere and pleasant surrounding environment are extremely important objective conditions for effectively educating children's integrity. Parents can respect and understand their children, provide them with an emotional and emotional security foundation, and let them explore the unfamiliar environment with confidence.
(B) sense of responsibility is the inherent requirement of the quality of integrity.
Sense of responsibility refers to the individual's understanding and emotional experience of his social role and obligations in social communication. Responsibility is to cherish one's own life; It depends on the fate of others; It is dignified for social development. It can be seen that the sense of responsibility is a remarkable sign of a sincere person. Be responsible for yourself, don't deceive yourself; Being responsible for others, not deceiving others, keeping promises, matching words with deeds and appearance are the basic conditions for a person to gain respect and trust from others, and are also the driving force for social health and stability. Therefore, paying attention to the cultivation of children's sense of responsibility, starting from the small things that can be done around them, and taking responsibility for the wrong things will help cultivate the quality of honesty.
(C) example is the prerequisite for the implementation of integrity education
David Elkind, a famous American psychologist, believes that parents must be noble people first if they want their children to be educated and moral. If you are an honest, upright, trustworthy, decent and caring person, then your children will also have these qualities. This shows that parents have a subtle influence on their children's words and deeds. Mr. Zhu Qinglan regards the example of parents as family education. If the fundamental principles, methods and laws are wrong, any teaching method is invalid. Parents must take the lead in educating their children to be honest and trustworthy. Don't think that children will learn to be honest and trustworthy by instilling some honest truth in front of them; Don't think that by saying one thing and doing another in front of children, children will show honest behavior without being seen through by him. Children's eyes are real, and they often choose reality. Therefore, our parents should always check themselves, start with small things in daily life and set a positive example of honesty and trustworthiness for their children. Only in this way can honesty education for children be effective.
(D) Practice is the key to the formation of good faith.
To cultivate children into moral people, we must first start from cultivating children's integrity. From the ontological point of view, honesty is the basis of belief, and it is an internal moral belief, which requires that what you think in your heart is consistent with what you say and do outside, be loyal to yourself and be honest with others. Faith is the external expression of honesty, and it is the basis and standard of honesty. Maintaining the relationship between people and between people and society is a multilateral requirement. The logical relationship of honesty should pay attention to the cultivation of honesty on the moral level, so as to achieve the purpose of promoting honesty and changing from low to high, and realize the continuous construction of honesty experience through the interaction between children and the external environment.
Family is the cell of society and the first environment for children to live. Children's initial experience of honest behavior is formed in the process of communicating with adults. Every child has a need to communicate. The need of communication is an important social need of human beings, and human beings are the source to meet children's social needs. This requires that the content of communication should be of educational value and the way of communication should be equal and sincere. Therefore, in the process of two-way circular education between adults and children, it is necessary to further improve the understanding level of adults, deepen the understanding of the requirements, forms and functions of honesty, and be strict with self-discipline, so as to play a subtle role in children's thoughts and promote the cultivation of their honesty. At the same time, family education has its own unique advantages compared with school education and social education. Because families are relatively easy to build. A small atmosphere of honesty. In the family, adults set an honest example. By telling honest and credible stories, children can have correct moral understanding and judgment, and then children can have good moral feelings and behaviors. Finally, through repeated practice, they can slowly start from the little things around their children, such as punctuality, not lying, keeping promises, sublimating knowledge into faith, and turning accidental honest behavior into honest behavior habits.
(E) Timely criticism and praise is the guarantee for the effective implementation of honesty education.
Criticizing children is a necessary means in family integrity education, but in order to be effective, we must learn the art of criticism. First of all, don't hurt the child's self-esteem. Parents should first find out the deep-seated reasons why children don't talk about honesty, and don't criticize blindly. On this basis, only by criticizing him alone in time can we curb the continued occurrence of dishonest behavior. Secondly, let the children be convinced. Don't treat children rudely (even cynically), which is tantamount to pushing them into the abyss of dishonesty, and will make up bigger lies to cheat you next time. Give timely and appropriate praise to children when they show honest behavior. Psychological research shows that proper praise plays an important role in shaping children's behavior and cultivating good moral character. Criticism and praise have their own advantages and disadvantages, so parents should use them with caution.