First of all, influenced by traditional ideas.
If you don't fight, you can't be an adult. You can't be a talent without fighting. 、? A dutiful son is born under the stick? And other traditional parenting concepts are still imperceptibly influencing many parents.
These parents, even if they are highly educated, usually look very open-minded, but what is always thinking in their bones? Parents at home, children at home? Children must obey their parents, and there is no concept of respecting children and getting along equally. So once a child makes a mistake or challenges his authority, he will educate the child by beating and cursing.
Second, influenced by parents.
Some parents were often beaten and scolded by their parents when they were young. Now that I have grown up, I feel physically and mentally healthy, and I think it is correct to use beating and scolding education, so it is natural to beat and scold children.
Third, I think beating and scolding children is the most effective.
Some parents are too busy at work or for other reasons to educate their children slowly, so once their children make mistakes, they will educate them directly in the most convenient and effective way.
Fourth, being a child? A punching bag?
Some parents regard controlling their children as an escape and satisfaction because of the great pressure of life, and even regard them as? A punching bag? Vent social pressure on children.
Bad consequences of parents beating and scolding children Parents beating and scolding children are often impulsive, but this will cause many bad consequences, such as damaging children's self-esteem, making children form inferiority, timidity and loneliness. Therefore, beating and scolding children is definitely not a good way to educate children, which not only fails to achieve the expected effect of parents, but may also have the opposite effect, such as:
First, it creates a gap between parents and children
Children who are beaten and scolded by their parents are definitely unhappy, and may also have resentment and rebellious psychology. The consequence of this is often that the feelings between children and parents are getting more and more indifferent, the parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse, and the gap is getting bigger and bigger.
Every child has self-esteem and hopes to gain the respect and trust of others, especially parents. These respects and trusts are the driving force for children's progress. Parents beating and scolding their children will not only make them lose motivation, but also make them feel inferior and embark on the road of self-abandonment.
Second, it causes children to lie.
If the child does something wrong and the parents beat and scold the child without asking the reason, then the child will naturally find countermeasures to deal with the parents' scolding. For example, he may learn to lie to avoid being beaten.
Third, let children become withdrawn.
Some parents will educate their children, regardless of time and place, such as beating and scolding them in public. This practice of parents will hurt the child's self-esteem, make him doubt himself, feel that he is inferior to others in everything, and think that others look down on him.
This practice of parents will make the child's personality become withdrawn and dislike communicating with others.
Fourth, let children solve problems with violence.
Abusing parents will make children think that violence can solve problems, and the weak need to obey the strong. The child is very good at imitation. He may learn from his parents? Infected with violence in the way of dealing with violence.
For example, if his parents beat him at home, he would go outside and beat other children, especially those younger than him. In this way, when children grow up, they will like to solve conflicts by force.
Five, affect the child's life
If parents are rude and like to beat and scold their children, it may cause their children's personality to be abnormal, thus affecting their lives.
For example, a stubborn child will have opposing feelings about the way his parents beat and scold, become grumpy and rude, and may also form an aggressive personality. If something goes wrong, he will use violence to solve it. It is difficult for such children to establish good interpersonal relationships.
Children who are more timid tend to become weak, have serious fears and form a timid character.
Summary: Parents all want their children to be successful. However, no child is successful in the beating and cursing of parents. Although beating and cursing will work temporarily for children, this effect will not last.
Therefore, parents should not educate their children by beating and cursing at ordinary times, but treat their children as friends, convince others by reasoning, and create a good environment for their children to grow up healthily and happily.
The above is my answer, I hope I can help you.