Shuoyang's educational model has caused controversy, because many people think that parents should educate their children in a gentle way, instead of preaching or even cursing their children. In fact, there are certain ideological differences between people, and so is educating children.

The ideal way to educate children should be to combine gentleness with violence, that is, to let children feel the atmosphere of love and relaxation in the family, and at the same time to let children have a certain reverence for the family, so as to sow better. At least one person in the family must play a particularly powerful role, and one person must be afraid of children. This is not to scare the child, but to say that when the child is particularly stranded and stubborn, someone can change his mind.

There should be a loving and tolerant parent in the family, but there should be only one who doesn't want his parents. Both sides like the child very much, so that the child feels that no one in the family can restrain him and he is absolutely free. In that case, there is no way to educate him. Therefore, letting children feel this atmosphere of love is to let them find an emotional outlet and have someone to talk to in their life and study to solve problems.

The most important thing in educating children is to let them have awe of their parents. If the relationship between parents and children is too close, and the children feel that they are like friends and have no fear at all, then no one can change his mind when the child is particularly fatal, which is unfavorable to educating the child. Therefore, let children have the most basic fears.