One day, as usual, the child rummaged around at home playfully. Who would have thought that when he rummaged, he knocked over a piece of jade that his father had just bought recently and got a scar. Although jade itself is not very expensive, it is his favorite thing, and his father directly beats and scolds the children. Faced with such a scene, Xiao Zhi experienced many times, so he habitually scolded the child, but the child's performance was beyond Xiao Zhi's control.
In the past, when children were naughty and did something wrong, whether they were beating or scolding, they would talk back. Not this time. The children stood in the same place with great grievances, without crying or making noise, but kept silent. Xiao Zhi saw the child's performance and felt that the child knew it was wrong, which stopped his father's high slap.
In fact, many families in life will encounter such a situation. As children grow up, they will encounter more and more problems. Many parents will scold or lecture their children after they have done something wrong. For parents' education, some children will be more resistant, but some children will choose silence. Why?
1, the child knows it's his own fault, thinks there are many mistakes, and simply keeps silent.
In fact, when children make mistakes, they know in their hearts how their parents will treat them. At this time, children will use silence to show their attitude, silently listen to their parents' education or accept their parents' accusations. When children have realized their mistakes, they will be willing to accept punishment, and naturally they will not make actions such as resistance and talk back.
2. Children belong to vulnerable groups at home, and this group has no right to speak.
Some families are so strict with their children that they have problems with their self-cognition. Children feel that their parents are the rulers of a family, and what they say in a weak position is useless. Children will let their parents accuse and abuse themselves in order to avoid more troubles caused by quarrels.
When children can't resist, they can only protest by not talking.
Some parents like endless preaching when their children make mistakes, but they don't know that their parents' nagging will make their children more disgusted. These parents always suppress their children under the banner of being older than their children and living longer, and the children only listen. When children don't want to defend or argue, they will be indifferent and resist their parents' behavior in their hearts.
Family education should play a role in promoting children's growth, but if parents can't figure out their children's inner thoughts, then family members can't get a consensus, and family education can't make children better.
Many parenting experts have pointed out that parents have a great influence on children's growth, and a move, a quarrel and a cruel word may cause harm to children's body and mind.
As parents, we should pay more attention to the changes in children's lives, such as their actions and reactions when they are reprimanded. If parents can't communicate with their children afterwards, understand their inner thoughts and give them some guidance, it will hinder their growth and even hurt them.
Everyone grew up and sometimes made mistakes. Parents should not forget tolerance and understanding while educating and reprimanding, so as to help their children grow up better.