Actually, this is not good. Once coaxed, there will be a second time. The next time a child wants toys or wants his parents to listen to his ideas, he will choose to lie on the ground and cry to suppress his parents and form bad habits.
First, understand and accept children's emotions.
Montessori said: "When children can act independently, the conflict between children and adults begins. Even if an adult loves his children again, he still has a strong defensive instinct inside, and those behaviors that are incompatible with the adult environment are inevitably stopped. This is a conflict of love. "
At the age of two, the baby's self-awareness will gradually increase, and he will focus on his own world, not only seeking the attention of people around him, but also seeking independence. However, because their language can't express their wishes well, they will use extreme behaviors such as splashing water, making trouble without reason, crying and so on to express their dissatisfaction and vent their emotions.
Therefore, it is normal for children in this period to express their emotions in this way. Parents must understand and accept their children's emotions and take the right approach to their crying.
Second, control your emotions.
Parents must be calm when facing their children crying, control their emotions, don't yell at their children and lose their temper, or force them not to cry in a very serious tone. This extreme emotion will frighten children, make them cry more and more, and have a fear of their parents, which is not conducive to their mental health.
Third, don't be soft-hearted and explicitly refuse children.
Why don't you buy the children the toys or snacks they want, and they will lose their temper and cry? This is because the child knows that as long as he cries, his parents will meet his needs in the end.
In the face of the meaningless crying of children, parents must not be soft-hearted. They must explicitly reject their children. Even if the children are crying and pestering, parents need to persist, but they must never be satisfied because their children are crying pitifully. Blindly accommodating and satisfying will only strengthen children's behavior and encourage their arrogance.
Fourthly, choose cold treatment.
Cold treatment is the best way to solve the spanking of children. When children understand that this method is useless, they will naturally not cry to solve the problem next time.
If a child deliberately "threatens" his parents to meet his needs in public, parents should not feel embarrassed at this time. They can take their children to a clean place with few people first and let him vent his emotions. Parents just need to keep an eye on him so that nothing happens to him. There is no need to say too much in the middle, and then communicate with the child when he calms down.
When parents and children calm down to communicate, they need to tell their children which behaviors are reasonable and which behaviors are wrong, and draw clear boundaries for their children so that they can understand what to do next time they encounter similar things.
Fifth, divert children's attention
Curiosity about new things is a child's nature. Once parents see the child crying, or the child has begun to perform fake crying, they can take out what he is interested in to attract his attention. What do you mean, "Come on, let's go out and play!" "Ah, there is a lovely kitten", "Wow, this toy looks so funny" and so on, and the child's attention will be attracted immediately.
Parents can continue this topic and take their children to do other things, so that they can forget the reason why they started crying and continue to play happily.
Sixth, after the child is quiet, accompany and comfort the child and take care of the child's emotions.
Just because the parents' cold treatment is over doesn't mean it's over. We must take care of and appease the children's emotions. No matter what the reason is, the child must be full of grievances after crying. At this time, parents need to hold the child's hand, kneel down to see him, or hug him, ask why the child is crying, and explain to the child why it doesn't meet his requirements.
Parents need to let their children know that their parents love him, but some things can't be done. This is the basic rule and truth that parents should abide by, and so should children.
First, teach children how to express their emotions correctly.
There are no good or bad emotions, but there are good or bad behaviors to express them.
Parents need to teach their children how to express their emotions correctly. Once a child throws toys, hits people and can't afford to cry while lying down, he must stop it and let him know that these behaviors are wrong and that a good boy should not do them. Parents need to educate their children to develop good behavior and morality from an early age, and don't indulge their children's bad habits, which will affect their lives.
Second, give children a sense of rules.
When the child is almost 2 years old, he can establish a sense of rules. Let children know which behaviors are bad, which behaviors will make parents angry and which behaviors are good. Parents will praise him after doing it. We must set good rules for children, resolutely correct what we can't and shouldn't do, and let children be polite and good children.
Through reasonable guidance and education, parents can let their children grow up healthily under the guidance of rules, which is beneficial to children and saves parents a lot of care for their children.
I hope that after reading the above contents, parents can master the correct way to treat their children crying and losing their temper, and cultivate an obedient and polite excellent child.