Experiential education has a better effect. We often say that parents are role models for children. If parents do it silently, children may imitate it imperceptibly without too many languages.
Children are very sensitive. Sometimes they can feel that their parents' words and deeds are different. They clearly say one thing, but they do it differently.
It is a traditional method to teach children according to the script. Parents learn the concept of education from words or videos, and then apply it to their children, and the application method may often be to tell their children what they have learned first.
It is the school's job to teach children the knowledge of writing, but family education can't be so rigid and rigid. Family is the place where children grow up at first, which needs more flexibility, and the most important thing is practice and experience.
The so-called experience is the experience and lessons summed up after personal experience, and you will make progress next time. What parents should do is to create a suitable scene for their children, so that they can move from it and gain experience and learning.
In fact, think about it, many adults understand the truth of life, but also from the experience of life. The so-called chicken soup sentences can't impress others because they are all one-sided words. Without experience, there will naturally be no experience.
No matter how to understand what changes an identity will bring to people, it is not as profound as becoming the human body of that identity. So are children. No matter how much truth is said, although they understand it, they can't do it on paper.
Both children and adults like to hear praise, especially for children, the best encouragement is not material, but verbal praise and appreciation from parents, because this spiritual sense of accomplishment lasts much longer and has a deeper impact than a toy.
If parents can give timely feedback and give praise and recognition to their children's behavior when they experience practice, they can stimulate their children to continue their efforts, which is far more useful and practical than telling the truth directly to let their children understand and then let their children develop themselves.
True knowledge comes from practice, the experience gained in practice is more impressive, and the praise gained in practice can stimulate better motivation. Only through experience can we understand the true meaning of life and life, and experiential education is the most practical and useful for children.
Children grow up in activities, and preaching can only be used as an auxiliary, not as a main means. If parents always like to preach, children may produce "antibodies" after a long time and turn a deaf ear to their parents' words.
Today's children receive more education and information than our generation. They may not understand many things, and even some children know more than their parents. Although parents are still the most important people in their hearts, they are not necessarily worthy of worship, because there are a large number of teachers on the Internet who know more than their parents and have more knowledge and experience for their children to learn.
This is also the reason why today's children are more disobedient, because they can accept a lot of information in the process of growing up, have a wider range of knowledge and have their own thinking and consciousness. Will not be at the mercy of parents
Very young children will talk to their parents about fairness and respect. If parents always say that the church makes their children impatient, for example, parents say to their children, "You should play less mobile phones and study more." But the child will say, "Then why can you keep looking at your mobile phone after dinner and let me study?" They think it's unfair. If my parents move out when we were young, "I'm your father/mother, and there's no reason, I have the final say." In this case, it will only make children more rebellious, not more obedient.
Only when parents set an example and can accompany their children to study after meals, or put down their mobile phones and take out a book to read quietly, can children realize these truths from their parents' actions and take the initiative to learn. This is the meaning of experiential education.
Educate children with behavior, let actions influence children, and do your own thing well. Only from practice can we understand the real truth. Only when parents practice, can children realize the true meaning of truth through imitation.
Today's children dare to rebel against their parents, which is very different from the children in traditional family education in the past. The reason is that the environment is changing, the society is progressing and the efficiency of information dissemination is getting higher and higher. The education that children naturally receive also needs to be changed accordingly.
Children and adults are equal. Parents respect their children, and children can respect their parents. Everyone knows the truth. If you want to do it well, you need to practice. Parents and children have to experience it to truly understand the meaning of truth.
Although children are still young, they need to be treated equally with their parents in personality. Nowadays, children grow up under the network culture, and unreasonable authority is useless to them. Children's thinking has become more diverse, and their world is not only parents, families and teachers, but also a broader online world.
Originally, for young children, too complicated truth and some preaching itself are of little use. They need practice and experience to know what they should do.
Children need to grow up in activities. Even if a lot of truth is said well, if there is no action, it will only be a mirage. For them, experience is the best education, and parents' example is the best demonstration.