First of all, education should start with understanding children, strengthen emotional communication with children and establish good family relations. Understanding is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what he is thinking, what he usually does and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. Children have something to express their opinions in the family, and don't say "what do children know". We should listen to their opinions in major family affairs and build a democratic family, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family are respected. Respecting children's rights and status at home is not just pampering children and putting them in the position of "little emperor". Obedience to children is not respect, but doting.
Secondly, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. In the family, children grow up under the influence and education of their parents and know the world around them. Parents' attitudes towards life, career and life have an important influence on their children. Therefore, parents should constantly improve their own quality.
On the basis of the above knowledge and understanding of children, while attaching importance to setting an example, we should pay attention to the educational method of "opening a lock with one key", which can receive good results. Below, the performance and main education methods of several common types of children are listed:
The first category: children with excess energy.
These children are mainly fond of playing and fighting, and difficult to discipline, but they are smart, active, quick-witted and receptive.
The main methods of education: first, we should establish good interpersonal relationships with children and let them know that they are not "disobedient children", so that they can easily receive psychological education and guidance. Secondly, we should let go and discipline appropriately. If the discipline is too strict, it will be counterproductive if it is not in line with their personality. Give him some freedom, some time and space for activities. Thirdly, patient teaching: patient education and persuasion, through reasoning, let children understand that some of their "opinions" are not so good and do not conform to social morality and norms, so as to give up their "opinions" on their own initiative, overcome their own problems and gradually move towards the road of growth.
The second category: children who are not attentive in class.
Such children are mainly active, fun and talkative in class, and even absent-minded when studying at home. Regarding the education of such children, some parents said, "That's a school matter, and I shouldn't be in charge, and I can't sit next to the children." In fact, to cultivate children to concentrate on listening, we should start from daily life, because living habits and study habits are closely related.
The main methods of education: first, parents should train their children to listen and do it at once; Secondly, in life, parents can consciously train their children's obedient ability, such as arranging three or four things, what to do first, what to do later, and what to do finally. Parents can observe whether their children are like this; Thirdly, parents should consciously cultivate their children's attention and talk to them. Children must look at your face and listen. Fourth, parents can also tell their children some tips for attending classes; Fifth, parents should try their best to let their children retell the contents of the class, or talk about the most impressive problems in the class.
The third category: children who pursue money and material enjoyment.
This kind of children are mainly characterized by "wearing famous brands and eating fine products", paying attention to food and clothing, and some have to go to school by motorcycle and tricycle.
The main methods of education: first, parents should set an example, be hard and simple, and tell their childhood life experiences and stories; Secondly, parents should tell their children about their family income and expenditure plans and seek their opinions appropriately; Thirdly, effectively educate children to spend money in a planned way and educate children with typical examples.
The fourth category is children who have no attitude towards the education of their elders.
Such children turn a deaf ear to the education of their parents and teachers.
The main educational methods: first, let children understand the painstaking efforts of their parents and understand that any educational methods of parents and teachers are for the healthy growth of children; Secondly, education should be carried out in a harmonious atmosphere to eliminate their "hostility" and make them willing to listen; Third, give the child the right to speak and let him tell the reason, even if it is incorrect or untrue; Fourth, be more tolerant. After education, we will do something wrong, give us a chance to correct it and wait patiently. Fifth, the tone of educating children should be firm, and parents of both sides should speak in the same way. Some parents are joking, some are careless, some are understated, and some are boastful, which is not conducive to education.
The fifth category, children with serious inertia.
This kind of children are mainly manifested in passive learning, incomplete or plagiarized homework, which leads to blank test papers or cheating in exams and lax life.
The main methods of education: first of all, we should start training from the usual housework, and don't let children open their mouths to ask for food and reach for clothes; The second is to help children make plans and strengthen supervision and inspection; Third, parents should lead by example and lead by example in everything; Fourth, we should cultivate the habit of hard work from the small things that children can do, persevere and insist on training.
In short, as long as parents adhere to the educational principle of "moving with emotion, understanding with reason, guiding with action and perseverance" and pay attention to family education methods on the basis of understanding children, they will certainly cultivate qualified next generation.
Why do parents like to spoil their children now, but they don't understand the harm of doting on their children? First of all, make clear what doting is.
It is not doting for adults to adapt to anything that conforms to children's psychological development and behavioral development.
Any behavior aimed at coaxing children into adulthood, or letting them go knowing that it is not good, is doting.
I found that many parents around me are always against each other.
Babies are not allowed to suck their fingers, completely ignoring that before the age of two, it is the child's mouth desire period. And sucking your fingers is normal behavior. Afraid of unsanitary, parents try to give him a clean environment and wash his hands frequently, which is not doting.
In order to let the baby eat a meal safely, it is coquetry to show him TV.
There are many factors that cause the baby to eat badly, such as the collocation of food, whether he has just eaten snacks, whether he is uncomfortable and has no appetite, deliberately opposing you to see your reaction, because he wants to try to eat by himself and is rejected, etc., which may show that he does not eat. Parents should not be afraid of trouble. As long as they observe carefully and try to communicate, they will always find the reason and solve the problem. Of course, I sometimes lose patience for my own reasons and have to watch TV for dinner. . And it really works. . .
But this is not a permanent solution. Children's desire to explore should be satisfied, and adults should pay more attention to guidance and protection. This is not doting. Because I want to be the most loved one among my closest relatives, I lost the principle of satisfying him and gave him a lot of sugar to beat others. This is doting. Children will have some bad behaviors. He doesn't know right or wrong. Only when he implements them and gets feedback can he know whether they are right or wrong. When he hits someone and you say it's okay, then the message he receives is that it's okay to hit someone, and it's harder to overturn after it's formed than the first time. This is the disadvantage of doting.
Now the exam-oriented education is too strong, and children are not allowed to be beaten. How to deal with spoiled pupils? Go to the countryside to exercise and participate in group activities such as summer camps.
You should get used to it and manage it. How do you educate your children in the environment of doting on them? Free-range, don't deliberately preach, encourage more, be a good parent, honor your parents, manage your family diligently, don't make noise and swear, and set an example with your own actions.
Does the mother spoil the child blindly, which will lead to the child being spoiled? It will definitely cause children to be spoiled.
And it will have a negative impact on the formation of children's personality.
Teach children to relax.
Nowadays, it is not urban children who spoil children the most, but rural children? Not necessarily, but most rural children are not strict with their children because their parents have not received a good education.
What happens when a nanny pampers her children? It will be difficult for children to be independent and more difficult to serve when they grow up. Advise the nanny not to put the child in a bad place.
Can spoiled children adapt to the days when their parents are not around? If it is "adaptation", it is ok, but it is more difficult, but you have to learn a lot in this process. In short, I support letting go, or I will be spoiled in the future.
What are the famous aphorisms that stand for "Don't spoil children"? When you encounter something that can't be solved, ask your child. Your child's blurted out opinions are often the most accurate and practical answers. -San Mao pampered children can't succeed.
A clever and sensitive child is often too persistent to get an answer in the exploration of life and its value. Therefore, a kind of sadness that cannot be underestimated may occupy the future for many years, or even never be detached. -San Mao "The rainy season is no longer coming"
A child who can't defend himself can only become a coward when he grows up. -The Kite Runner by Khaled Husseini.
A bed of radish and a bed of vegetables, their children love to eat. Weasel's children are fragrant, hedgehog's children are light.
Girl, you have to be thick-skinned, or how to face the big waves in the future; Girls, don't be spoiled for boys all day, and expect others. You can't live without others in the future. Girl, don't be complacent all the time, feel lucky, and know that the wind and water turn around; Girl, don't think you are smart and don't work hard. You should learn to learn this difficult lesson. Girl, don't always spend a lot of money on your parents' hard work and then show off. Only when you can support yourself and have spare money for your parents can you be proud. Girl, don't be sad when you are wronged, and then habitually find someone to talk to or even lose your temper. You know, no one has the obligation to be your emotional vent bucket; Girl, don't wear too much makeup and don't wear too much perfume. Looks good and smells good, but it's not you. You know, makeup can only change your skin color, but not your temperament. Girl, stop dawdling, you have nothing and no one will like you; Girl, don't daydream all day, down-to-earth is the truth.
Son, for the first time, I told you not in the name of the Lord, but in the name of your uncle that you can count on others when you encounter small things; Don't tie your destiny to others when something big happens. -Liu Zhenyun's "One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences"
Strict father gave birth to a dutiful son, but a loving mother lost more.
All boys really feel that they won't break their word if they swear, and they really feel that they can't do it if they go back on their word. ? Therefore, this kind of oath can't measure whether it is true or not, and it can't judge right or wrong. It can only prove that at the moment when we say it, we are sincere to each other. -Jiu Yehui's "In a hurry that year"
Socrates smiled and said seriously, "Children, this is life-life is an unrepeatable choice." ? Facing the irreversible life, we can only do three things: make a solemn choice and try not to leave regrets; If you regret it, face it rationally and then strive for change; If you can't change it, accept it bravely, don't regret it and move on. -Socrates
Reality is such a cruel thing. It always destroys your faith and the promise you think you can give when you are unaware of it. ? What is growth? When a child knows that diamonds are more precious than beautiful glass balls, he grows up. -Wu Xinyi's "To Youth We Will Die"
To spoil a child without a stick.
Strictness is love, and femininity is harm.
A spoiled child is like killing a child.
Spoiled children are unfilial, and fertile fields reap withered rice.
The child's name is "spoiled" What are his parents' names? Mother Gillian's father Jiao gave birth to Guan.