Differences in the purpose of family education: The purpose of American family education is to cultivate children into "social people" with the ability to adapt to various environments and survive independently. This expectation is not high. "Social man" is not a vague ideal, but a simple, easy-to-operate and broad requirement. Therefore, American parents can treat their children's education more easily, explore the positive factors in their children's personality to the maximum extent, and let their children realize their self-worth. Even if they achieve their goals, they will not pursue some utilitarian goals, such as higher education and a good career.
In addition, under the guidance of this goal, it can really cultivate children's independent consciousness and ability to survive independently. Look at all stages of American children: sleeping independently from an early age. When you can walk, you will play by yourself, and few parents will play with you; When you grow up, you will have your own space. Children are responsible for the furniture, layout and cleaning in the room; They have been engaged in paid services within their power since childhood, such as cleaning, helping people with children and delivering newspapers. After graduating from high school or college, they work and study in exchange for living expenses.
The purpose of family education in China is to train children into "talents". They are full of hope for the future, have a good career and can spend their lives in prosperity. First of all, this expectation is very high and utilitarian, because "promising", "successful career" and "thriving" are not general purposes and are difficult to achieve.
To this end, China parents are particularly concerned about their children's academic performance. Their only requirement for children is to sit down and study art quietly, but they ignore their talent and limit their creativity. Therefore, in order to cultivate so-called "talents" and stifle talents, they have many effects of "deliberately planting flowers". In addition, because children's personality, social adaptability, civic awareness and other issues are rarely considered, even if their academic performance is good, they may not be able to successfully establish themselves in society in the future. Sometimes, they will completely live up to their parents' expectations.
As far as the content and accessibility of American children's cognitive and emotional quality education are concerned, it is called "the content and accessibility of family sports". In promoting physical strength, we should pay attention to children's outdoor activities and physical exercise, such as courtyard swings and outdoor hiking. In terms of cognitive development, we should pay attention to cultivating children's various senses, and cultivate children's cultural aesthetic vision and interest in learning. For example, when parents borrow books or study in the library, they like to take their children with them, so that they can be influenced by the surrounding environment and stimulate their desire for learning.
In social training, we should educate children to serve themselves and do things by themselves, and ask them to learn to cooperate, share and help with their peers; In terms of emotional cultivation, we should guide children to appreciate the beauty of music, art, dance and literary works, such as taking children to art galleries and museums to watch various exhibits, encouraging children to participate in artistic creation activities, and letting them personally contact and experience the mysteries of nature.