Such a dangerous thing, the parents of the children responded: "I didn't hit anyone again. Let the child go quickly and don't scare my baby. "
Although the child's behavior is hateful, what makes people even more angry is the attitude of parents.
Behind every "Xiong Haizi", there are "parents bears"!
Family education affects a child's life, and parents are duty-bound.
Family education emphasizes results and processes.
In the "Bear Parents" Behavior Checklist published by People's Daily Online in Weibo, we summarized 10 behaviors that are easy to spoil children and 17 behaviors that are "Bear Parents" of unqualified parents. Parents should check themselves!
1 These 10 behaviors are easy to spoil children!
1, give children special treatment
Children are superior at home and receive special care everywhere, such as eating alone. In the long run, children will become selfish and unsympathetic.
2, children make mistakes and protect them face to face.
Many parents protect their children's mistakes on the grounds of "don't be too strict, he is still young", which will make their children have no concept of right and wrong and cause personality distortion.
3. Pay too much attention to children's families
Don't always care about children, which will make TA feel that he is the center and his family will revolve around him.
4. It is easy to meet unreasonable requirements.
Parents give their children whatever they want, so that TA will develop a character that does not know how to cherish, pays attention to material enjoyment and does not care about others.
5. Allow children to live a lazy life
Allow children to be picky eaters, stay up late, and play without restraint. It makes TA easy to lack self-motivation and perseverance, and muddle along.
6. Begging children
If you coax your child to eat at the same time, promise TA to tell three stories and then finish the meal. The more you beg, the more shy your child will be. Not only will you not know right from wrong, but you will also exhaust your parents' prestige.
Step 7 arrange substitution
Some parents never let their children work, they have to feed at the age of three or four, and they don't do any housework at the age of five or six. In this way, children will inevitably not become hardworking, kind and capable.
8. Make a fuss
When a child is ill, parents panic and indulge blindly, which will eventually lead to the child not letting his parents leave one step and becoming timid.
9. Deprivation of independence
If you put it in your mouth, you are afraid of melting, but if you spit it out, you are afraid of flying away. Such children will have dependence psychology, often become "gatekeepers", bully the weak at home, be timid outside, and form personality defects.
10, afraid of crying
Parents who are afraid of their children crying are incompetent parents. If they let their children beat and scold their parents, they will sow the seeds of selfishness, ruthlessness and willfulness in TA's character.
2 these 9 kinds of mothers are unqualified!
1, faithless mother
You must do what you promised, otherwise your mother's prestige will disappear and your children will become more difficult to educate.
Mother's dishonesty will set a negative example for children, so that children may break their promises at any time.
2. A mother who speaks ill of her father
The child is half from the father and half from the mother. Denying one of the parents is tantamount to invisibly denying half the children.
3. Mother who loves to compare with others
Always compare the shortcomings of children with the advantages of other children and blame them.
It will make children unconvinced or even disgusted, which is not good for cultivating their character and self-confidence, and it will also make children feel that their mother doesn't love me at all.
4. The mother who always says "I am good for you".
Some mothers always seem to have endless thoughts, but some just plan their children's lives without authorization under the banner of "for your own good".
Some roads are just for children. This is TA's life. Don't live for TA.
5. Mothers who don't respect their children's privacy
Some mothers like to disclose their children's privacy when chatting with friends and neighbors.
Every child needs to have his own private sphere, and even parents can't interfere at will.
6. A grumpy mother
Some mothers treat their children as punching bags regardless of right or wrong, which will make them feel guilty. The child mistakenly thought that his mother was unhappy.
In the long run, children will feel inferior when they grow up.
7. Poor crying mother
"Do you know how difficult it is to raise you?" This sentence hurts children very much.
You can tell your child what you can buy, what you can't buy and why you can't buy it, but don't always say "no money" and "can't afford it".
8, too "humble" mother
When children show their best strengths, sometimes mothers always say that their children are not doing well in front of others to show their humility.
In fact, proper encouragement is more conducive to the growth of children.
9. Mom who always plays with her mobile phone
When the mother neglects the child because of playing the mobile phone, the child will feel that the mother is perfunctory and naturally unwilling to communicate with him.
If parent-child communication is blocked, children will become withdrawn and autistic.
3 these 8 kinds of dads are unqualified!
1, grumpy dad
If the father has a bad temper, he will always hit people and swear, and the child may be even deeper.
Dad's bad temper and irritability may also lead children to form a humble and cowardly character in fear.
2. I don't understand my mother's father.
Some fathers are accustomed to their wives' efforts, and even push the responsibility of educating their children to their mothers, which will make their children feel insecure.
Children's greatest sense of security comes from their parents' love.
3. The father whose children are absent from education
From dad, boys will learn masculinity, while girls will learn how to get along with the opposite sex.
As a father, no matter how busy and tired he is, he should bear the responsibility of raising children, and he is a veritable "father".
4. An dishonest father
A father who keeps his word is not only an example in children's minds, but also the best education for children.
Writing empty checks often will not only lose prestige, but also be detrimental to cultivating children's sense of responsibility.
5. A controlling father
If children always act according to their parents' ideas and have no choice for a long time, they will be eager to leave the family independently and become more and more rebellious.
6. A nagging father
Some fathers don't like reading books themselves, but they educate their children all day, "Stop watching TV and read books."
In fact, the father is a "manuscript" and the child is a "copy".
What a father wants his children to do, he must first start from himself.
7. Dad with bad habits
Some men don't pay much attention to personal hygiene, don't like taking a bath and don't like brushing their teeth. Children can't tell right from wrong, just follow suit.
Fathers who like smoking and drinking will have a subtle influence on their children.
8. An overly strict father
If a father always treats his children severely, it will be easy to alienate him after a long time.
When a child has any problems, he will not ask his father for help or discuss with him, and it is easy to make a wrong decision.
Dear parents and friends, what do you think after reading it?