Once, Lao Zhao took his child Xiao Zhao to a friend's house to play. Xiao Zhao is usually a child with no sense of rules at home. When he came to his father's friend's house, he was quiet for a while and began to turn Gan Kun around.
Lao Zhao's friends didn't care too much about the children, just chatted with Lao Zhao. As a result, I didn't speak for a while, but suddenly I heard a "thud" from the living room. Lao Zhao hurried over and found that the child had broken a flowerpot in his friend's house.
At that time, Lao Zhao immediately became nervous, quickly apologized to his friends that the child was naughty, and then directly criticized the child. Lao Zhao's friend felt embarrassed and quickly stopped Lao Zhao. But Lao Zhao felt guilty, so he told his friend that he had to pay for the flowerpot.
This is probably what most parents do when their children break other people's things. However, parents who only know how to lose money and beat and scold when their children break things are often parents who don't know how to deal with them.
So what do smart parents do?
1. Listen to the children's thoughts and see their views on this matter.
Parents should not rush to criticize their children for breaking other people's things. But listen to the children's thoughts first. In the book "You are the best toy for children", parents should learn to listen and observe when children encounter something. Listen to the child's views on this matter, observe the child's emotions and see if he is afraid, nervous or lying.
2. Communicate with children and put forward your own ideas.
Smart parents will put forward their own ideas at this time after understanding their children's thoughts and views on this matter. Tell the child what he thinks about breaking other people's things.
For example, children play in the park, run around and accidentally get other people's food on the ground. At this time, parents should stop their children from running around, and then ask them if they know what they have done. See if the child has the ability to solve problems on his own initiative. If the child is at a loss, parents can put forward their own ideas.
3. Encourage children to solve problems by themselves.
Parents should encourage their children to solve their own problems, not help them solve them.
For example, some parents can't wait to help their children solve their problems when they see that they have done something wrong. Just like some children break other people's things, parents immediately help their children compensate. In the long run, children will not realize their mistakes. It doesn't matter if you think it's wrong. Anyway, your parents will help you out.
Therefore, parents should let their children know that it is his business if they break other people's things. Parents should encourage their children to solve problems, not help them solve them, or simply leave them alone and let them be criticized by others.