It's still the old saying that "children are the shadow of their parents". As psychologists say, a parent who can't effectively stop his children from talking back often has poor self-control. Dealing with children's back talk rudely and impatiently is a sign of lack of responsibility; If you want to take the initiative in the "contest" with your children and solve the problem well, parents should not be impulsive first.

At the same time, parents should try not to affect their children's emotions because of their "emotionalization", not to bring other grievances into their children's world, or to vent them on their children because they are in a bad mood, so that their children feel wronged and hurt internally, thus becoming excited and talking back. Therefore, parents should learn to control their emotions and set a good character example for their children.

Tell your child that you don't like the way he talks.

To some extent, "talking back" is also a sign of children's psychological growth. It is gratifying that children gradually understand what they like, don't like, want to do and don't want to do, and begin to have their own wishes and opinions. Because at this time, children's self-awareness is still quite incomplete, and they don't know or master how to express their ideas properly, and talking back is just a simple conditioned reflex in children's expression.

At this time, many parents think that their children are still young and angry with themselves, so they often inadvertently indulge their children in talking back, either coaxing or obeying their wishes-this is undoubtedly telling their children that talking back is an effective way to express their feelings. A success will make children use this weapon frequently in the future. If you can't beat it every time, then children will be more proud and even contradict kindergartens and schools. Moreover, it will also make children's temperament more and more impatient. As long as you are slightly dissatisfied, you will vent it by talking back. Therefore, parents should tell their children that talking back is a wrong expression before their children start talking back, or before their children master it.

However, in terms of expression, parents should pay attention to speaking skills and don't rush to give their children a qualitative "back talk". It's best to tell their children, "son, I understand how you feel, but can you change your tone?" Or "son, mom doesn't like you talking like that. I'll give you time to express what he wants to say more clearly, okay? " In addition, parents can also use body language-put the index finger of one hand against the palm of the other hand and make a "stop" gesture when the child intends to talk back, so as to remind the child not to talk back.

Looking at the problem from another angle, the sky is vast.

What makes children so sensitive that they step on the "I" who talks back when they are slightly unhappy? If you want to get rid of the "detonator" buried behind the problem, you have to understand the reasons why they talk back from the perspective of children. Usually, the emotions expressed by children are simple and simple, or wronged, or puzzled, or eager to understand ... If you stand with them and speculate on their psychology, you will feel that those rejections and even noises are excusable. "Caring for your heart" is the best medicine. Provide children with harmonious family relations, understand and respect their children, and they will be conquered by you and become partners. Therefore, to talk back to children, parents should start with understanding their children's real thoughts.