Guide him to treat the love reality in life correctly.
As adults, we certainly know the complexity of love. In reality, many joys and sorrows are caused by the word "love". However, children's understanding of society is limited, and they tend to go to extremes, or think that love is a peach blossom garden, which can melt all troubles. Either think that love is the source of evil and must be avoided, which is not conducive to his establishing a correct outlook on life and values. A mother read a news in the newspaper: a young female teacher committed suicide in despair after being abandoned by an ungrateful man. She discussed it with her daughter in high school. She said: "This female teacher is excellent at work, with thoughts and ideas, but she is very confused about love.
Love is a very important content in life, but it is not the only thing in life. There are many things worth cherishing in life, such as affection, dignity, personality and health. We advocate love, but we can't be slaves to it. She also took her daughter to the court to attend a domestic violence case in which her wife was abused by her husband. The daughter is very confused: "They are free to fall in love and get married, and they have an emotional foundation. How did they become like enemies later? " His mother told him, "The man said he hit her because he loved her too much and was afraid of losing her. He is pretending to love her, and his atrocities are followed by dark thoughts and bad character. True love should be based on equality, trust and dignity. A woman is always silent because she is moved by his so-called' too deep' love, misunderstood the meaning of love and lost in sweet words. " Mother wants her daughter to understand that love must be treated with a very mature and rational attitude, and it is by no means blind affection or impulse.
How to educate children about love?
Face it, not avoid it. It is normal for children to be interested in love issues. Film and television dramas, games, advertisements, mutual preaching among classmates, and various love concepts invade children's little heads in different ways. The information he received about love was beyond our imagination. If you still "talk about the color change of love", it is indifference to the facts and concealment. In the face of children's curiosity and confusion, we should treat them with a calm mind.
Respect his feelings and don't mock him.
If the child shows a strong interest in love, for example, as Lini's mother said above, the little girl secretly reads romance novels; Or suddenly have a crush on the opposite sex; Or some bold remarks, for example, when my son was 9 years old, he told me that "every boy in our class has a crush on a girl!" " I asked him who he secretly loved, and he disdained to say, "I don't have a fixed one. I'll change it in a few days." Faced with this situation, my parents try their best to keep quiet, and must not ridicule her: "At an early age, I don't study hard and just think about some messy things!" "You don't even understand what you are, and you want to fall in love!" "You are playing funny children's tricks!" This will make the child hurt and feel humiliated, because in his cognition and feelings, the feelings he experienced are real and valuable. If his cherished feelings are devalued by his parents, it is equivalent to being devalued for him. You can't mock him in front of relatives and friends. Teenagers love face most and hate their parents embarrassing him in public. If you embarrass him, he will try his best to embarrass you, such as deliberately hitting you or breaking a jar, and he will fight back at the expense of failed growth.
Tips:
1, respect his feelings, don't mock him. In the child's cognition and feelings, the feelings he experienced are real and valuable. If his cherished feelings are belittled by his parents, it is equivalent to being belittled by himself.
2. Face up, not avoid. It is normal for children to be interested in love, and the information he receives about love is beyond our imagination. In the face of children's curiosity and confusion, parents should treat them with a calm mind.
3. Guide him to treat the love reality in life correctly. Children's understanding of society is limited and they tend to go to extremes. Parents should guide him to correctly understand the joys and sorrows of true love and establish a correct outlook on life and values.
Love, or a look, a sigh, a smile, a pay. Love can make people warmer, help them share happiness, and leave a good mark on people. In the growing process of preschool education, children also hope to get more care, play with their favorite friends and share happiness and snacks besides the love of parents and teachers. As parents, how can we have the heart to destroy such a beautiful and simple emotion? Instead of all kinds of obstruction and criticism, it is better to be more tolerant and understanding and grow up happily with children. This is the practice of qualified parents.
A correct view of love-based on the current law, the mainstream moral orientation.
Love should be serious and single-minded.
Love is the love relationship between a man and a woman. This relationship contains its own unique feelings and obligations. It can only exist between two lovers, and no third party is allowed to intervene. Besides, love is no joke. Both sides should treat each other sincerely, treat themselves realistically and treat each other realistically. Countless facts have proved that you will not be happy if you cheat love by cheating. In addition, once the two sides have established a love relationship, they must be loyal and single-minded; You can't change your mind. It is immoral for anyone to engage in love triangle and multi-angle love.
Correctly handle the relationship between love and school and career.
Love is beautiful, it is an important part of life, but not the whole of life, it should be subordinate to the cause and promote the development of the cause. Only when a person succeeds in his studies and career will the flower of love bloom more brilliantly and fragrant. Therefore, put your studies and career first, put the relationship between love and study and career well, and don't spend all your precious time in love, thus relaxing your studies and career. Love without study and career is like sowing seeds in the desert. Without solid foundation and soil, it will wither sooner or later. Only by combining love with study and career can love have strong and lasting vitality.
Advocate like-minded love
In love, the first thing is to have the same thoughts and common beliefs and pursuits, and the first criteria for choosing a spouse should be beautiful mind, noble sentiment and psychological fit. Shakespeare once said: Love is not a sweet talk in the shade of a tree, a sweet talk in a peach blossom garden, a faint tear, or a stubborn compulsion, but a spiritual communication based on common ground. Therefore, the most important conditions in the choice of lovers should be like-minded, with roughly the same ideological and moral character, career ideal and life interest. The lofty love between Marx and Yan Ni is based on like-mindedness, and because of this, their love has withstood the test of hardships, and it has been passed down as a much-told story. The concept of love should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, obligation, career and sex.
Understand that love is a responsibility and dedication.
Love is not just getting, but more importantly, it is a kind of responsibility and giving. In social life, people have two responsibilities: one is personal responsibility to society; The second is the personal responsibility to family, parents, children, friends and lovers. The second aspect of responsibility belongs to the nature of private life, which is the weakest area of life with social intervention, and is mainly maintained by good moral cultivation and conscious sense of responsibility. Because of this, it embodies a person's personality charm. Once you enter the kingdom of love, you must have a strong sense of responsibility and dedication to work in order to get lofty love.
More understanding, trust and tolerance, mutual respect.
In the process of love, we should have more understanding, trust and tolerance, respect each other and make progress together. Love is the unity of mutual love. Both parties who love each other have their own independent personality and spiritual world, and they can neither completely rely on each other nor demand complete possession of each other. Love, like being a man, understanding, trust, honesty and tolerance are all very valuable qualities. Love often means giving. We should get to know each other, respect each other and give to each other. "There is no perfect person in the world", two people together is not a simple combination, we must accommodate each other; If you love, you should accept everything, including your shortcomings.