Suddenly thought of the story of the old monk and the young monk at the beginning of the movie "Another Spring in Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter";
The education of the old monk to the young monk is intriguing and worth chewing.
The first is the opportunity of education. The young monk made three mistakes in succession for fun: tying fish, tying frogs and tying snakes. It is an art to choose which node to educate the young monk. The old monk witnessed the young monk's three mistakes. According to the principle of immediacy in education, the old monk can completely prevent the young monk from making his first mistake. "Buddha mercy, don't kill people. Stop it. " This is what our teachers and parents may take to control children's mistakes in the bud. However, the education of the old monk is different. He always pays attention to the behavior of the young monk and "lets" the young monk continue to make mistakes. It was not until the evening that he was punished, and the young monk was educated the next day.
Of course, immediate education can effectively prevent further mistakes, but it does not necessarily cause psychological impact. This child may continue to make mistakes of the same nature. For example, he may stop tying fish, or he may tie frogs, snakes and dragonflies ... He won't realize in his heart that animals are also life, and we should reverently respect and cherish life.
The second is the problem of educational attitude. In terms of educational attitude, the old monk has always swallowed his words and remained calm. The old monk saw that the young monk had made a mistake and was "killing his life". He didn't reprimand him with rude words or add sticks together. He just watched calmly. The next day, education was calm and convincing. This reminds me of the story of the south wind and the north wind:
The old monk is this "south wind", which makes the young monk consciously realize his mistakes.
The third is the problem of educational methods. In the way of educating the young monk, the old monk obviously took disciplinary measures. Some educators have said that education without punishment is incomplete education. The punishment of the old monk is very different. He adopted the young monk's method, tied a heavy stone to him when he slept, and made the young monk feel the pain of fish, frogs and snakes. If so, it may not cause the inner shock and remorse of the young monk. The old monk asked the young monk to find the tied fish, frog and snake. When he saw the dead fish, the young monk learned to think deeply. The young monk began to cry when he saw the dead snake. I think there is nothing more to say about the education of the young monk. The education of young monks should go deep into the soul and bone marrow. And this kind of education that goes deep into the soul should be what we lack.
In fact, we often use disciplinary measures, but many times we don't educate our children's hearts. For this young monk, we may just punish him for confinement, copying scriptures and cleaning the courtyard ... many punishments have nothing to do with realizing his mistakes.
The fourth is the problem of moderate education. When will educating children stop? Did the child stop as soon as he realized his mistake? That's not what the old monk did. In fact, under the inspiration and education of the old monk, the young monk had already admitted his mistake. However, the old monk insisted that the young monk untie the stones for fish, frogs and snakes. Only in this way can the old monk untie the stone with him and the punishment will stop. From the effect point of view, if the young monk admits his mistake and terminates his education, the effect will be greatly reduced.
In fact, when we educate our children, we don't think so deeply. Often fast, so it is difficult to get into the heart.
Of course, the old monk's education method still has many remarkable places. For example, he always has an inclusive heart in the process of education; For example, he has been paying attention to the process of punishment. ...
If children make mistakes in the future, I hope we can all learn from the old monk.