Consumerism takes brand as its gimmick and fashion as its efficacy, which involves people in a vicious circle of endless purchase and elimination and fetish addiction;
Sexual freedom takes human nature as a gimmick and sex as a drug effect, constantly releasing smoke bombs of ambiguity and passion and indulging in sexual addiction;
Success science takes speed as a gimmick and fame and fortune as its efficacy, misleading young people who are eager to take shortcuts to become talents and indulging in speculation.
Among the three poisons, success is the most harmful-it poisons the social atmosphere, poisons people's hearts and destroys the reality of pluralistic values in the name of education.
In the logic of success, if you don't earn a luxury car with an annual salary of one million, if you don't become a successful person envied by others, it proves that you can't do it, and you have committed the crime of "unsuccessful"!
Help you "realize the value of life", "develop your personal potential", "earn 1 million in three months", "have a car and a house" and "retire before the age of 35" ... Success is rampant in the workplace and the Internet, and people with lofty ideals are lost in various promotion courses and short-term training courses. Successful learning and training has become an eye-catching industry.
When did we become so eager to succeed? Why has success become so simple and rude? What can those successful masters do except collect money for their speeches? Can we not succeed?
Personal struggle is commendable, self-realization is attractive, and fame and fortune are sweet. However, in a social structure, only 1% of people are successful, which is inseparable from long-term efforts and opportunities. If you learn once you succeed, there are winners and losers, and those who succeed are glorious and those who fail are shameful, then how can the majority of 99% in society survive? There are many beautiful things and values in life that are despised, can't be given, and can't be taught by successful courses.
When the success of the whole people becomes a craze and rises to the mainstream values that are absolutely true and desired by everyone, success is poison, and those who believe in success become victims. Success or "pseudo-success"
In fact, in the United States, where the values of "success or failure" have penetrated into every corner of society, people have begun to reflect. Alexandra Robbins, a famous former journalist in The New York Times, published the book Overachievers: the secret life of involuntary students, reminding people that students all over the world are now under greater pressure to succeed than before. She took the outstanding students of her alma mater as an example. They admit that they have worked hard to the limit and feel lonely, helpless, afraid, indescribable pain and fatigue. Some students even use drugs to refresh themselves in order to make up for their lack of energy, which has also been acquiesced by their parents. Robbins said: "If children pursue success excessively, then no matter how much they have achieved, they feel that it is far from enough."
People's general anxiety about success has made a successful industry, but at the same time, people are too anxious and anxious to turn a blind eye to the defects of success. First of all, in the popular discourse of success, there is only the binary opposition of success/failure. The higher you praise the winner, the harder you spit on the loser: you are 30 years old, the man has no house or car, and the woman has not caught a rich husband. You are completely finished! In this context, unsuccessful people will only feel more and more depressed; Secondly, the concept of "success" is replaced by "getting rich" and "getting ahead". "Successful people" are portrayed as living in a foreign house, keeping a dog, driving a famous car and wearing famous brands, which basically excludes other values. Indifferent to fame and fortune, traveling everywhere, content with the status quo and sentimental are all a waste of life. -isn't living an interesting life a success? Third, success advocates that there are shortcuts to success, which can be copied and accelerated. "Success" seems to be an industrial product on the assembly line, and everyone can reach it at your fingertips. -How many people succeeded by learning these so-called "success rules"? People who sell the "Law of Success" really make a lot of money. Fourth, the theory of success preaches that as long as the goals and plans are clear, the goals will be achieved. "If you want to succeed, go crazy first and keep your mind simple"; If I can't, I must. I will if I have to. -Isn't this the modern version of "How bold people are and how productive the land is"? Some people really believe that they can develop by reciting Quotations of Success every day, but this person later developed obsessive-compulsive disorder.
An unreliable and successful mentor.
Dad in Little Miss Sunshine, as a successful lecturer, preached "Nine Steps to Success" everywhere, but never experienced the taste of success.
Wang Wenyuan, a researcher at the Institute of Philosophy of the Beijing Academy of Social Sciences, wrote that in order to explore the mystery of success, he specially attended a lecture given by a master of success in Taiwan Province Province. This master is not as famous as Chen Anzhi, but he is also a heavyweight. He said that what the master of success said was nothing more than Zen or Taoism, such as "getting rid of self-attachment" and "returning to nature", and there were many mistakes and omissions. His impression is: "It is obvious that the lecturer is holding on to me, but he wants the listener to get rid of it." It is obvious that the lecturer is carrying out the "modernization" operation, but it makes the listener get rid of the copper smell and return to the truth; It is obvious that the lecturer himself is not really successful, but he has to talk endlessly about the way to success ... what a bully. After listening to it, I was shocked: that's it. This is not a successful study. It's obviously a war of words. It is completely imitating the old skills of Su Qin and Zhang Yi. Turn your hands into clouds and cover your hands for the rain with a lie that has become a chest. "
Some people commented that Chen Anzhi's speech was really inflammatory, "but it was because it was too strong that it was really fatal". His lectures and training fees cost thousands of dollars. As long as someone comes to listen to his speech, he will succeed because he earns a lot of money. As for whether the audience is successful or not, he doesn't have to be sure, because success can be explained as that his motivation is effective, and failure means that you are not serious and hard enough. That's how successful masters make money. They may be called "success", but this "success" is based on more people who are eager to "succeed".
What kind of success is success?
If a society only allows the existence of "success/failure" binary opposition context, it is problematic. In fact, we should not use this arbitrary binary opposition model to judge value. It is understandable that some people are willing to succeed and get ahead. But we should also allow some people to be in a daze, dream and live a small life without much pursuit. Everyone's personality and growth experience are different. It is not necessary for everyone to succeed or fail. Between these two roads, there are n paths to success that everyone knows.
For example, men and women will have different value judgments. According to a survey, 90% of professional women in Hong Kong believe that the definition of success is to have a happy family, followed by the ability to develop personal interests, economic independence and health. Most of the respondents did not regard their children's excellent grades and reaching a certain salary or level at work at a certain age as the main indicators of success. Bring happiness to people around you, but also get happiness for yourself; If the opportunity and luck are good, money is not bad, but this is not the only way to show success-this netizen's views are quite representative.
"He is a total loser. He has no job all his life, and he is still gay. It took him 20 years to write a novel that few people read. But looking back on his later life, he found that those difficult days were the best time of his life, because they made him. And happy days are a waste of time and nothing. " This is a line at the end of Little Miss Sunshine, which is about Proust. What is success and what is failure are not absolute.