To do this, we need to inspire and induce them to understand what they should do and why. Only when children's understanding is improved and they feel it is necessary to do it will they consciously do it as required. Enlightenment also conforms to the psychological characteristics of minors. Limited by the level of mental development, they have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong and think independently. If they just adopt a simple and rude spoon-feeding method regardless of whether they understand the problem or not, their initiative and enthusiasm will be dampened, the process of family education will be blocked, and the purpose of family education will be frustrated.

Specifically, there are several ways to apply heuristics in family education: 1. Heart-to-heart parents consciously talk with their children, exchange thoughts and feelings, understand their children's situation, improve their understanding and educate their children; Or encourage children to ask questions, or ask questions to make children think, in the process of joint discussion, enlighten children's wisdom and broaden their horizons; Or explain the truth to children through conversation, let them understand social morality and improve the consciousness of main activities.

2. Minors who tell stories generally like listening to stories and jokes, and they are very attentive when listening to stories and jokes. Infect and educate children with vivid, concrete and vivid stories and jokes, so that they can be inspired in the atmosphere of laughter and joy, improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong, good from evil, and develop their thinking, imagination, attention, aesthetic ability and language expression ability.

3. Discussion When children have some views on some social or moral issues, but they are not clear and comprehensive, especially when they have some extreme views and opinions, don't simply take a rude way to solve them. At this time, through discussion and debate, they can distinguish authenticity, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, improve their understanding and form a correct view.

4. Suggest that parents want their children to do or not to do it, or in order to prevent children from making mistakes or making mistakes, use indirect and implicit language, expressions or gestures to convey some kind of educational "information" to children, so that children can quickly perceive and understand their parents' educational intentions. There are four kinds of hints: direct hints, indirect hints, counter hints and self hints. Family education is to form children's ability of positive self-suggestion, thus enhancing confidence and making progress.

5. Praise parents for giving positive comments on children's thoughts and behaviors according to their actual performance. Children have strong self-esteem, and the use of praise can greatly mobilize their positive emotions, consolidate their achievements and move on. Praise should be realistic, timely and accurate; It is necessary to give priority to praise, supplemented by criticism, not only to affirm achievements, but also to point out problems, so that children can make clear the direction of future efforts and the problems that should be paid attention to.

6. Criticism can stimulate minors to a certain extent, deepen their understanding of problems and make them correct their shortcomings and mistakes more quickly. However, when criticizing children, we should adopt a gentle and drizzly way of putting facts and reasoning, analyze the reasons and help children correct their shortcomings and mistakes. It is best not to use corporal punishment, intimidation, abuse, etc. , so as not to hurt their self-esteem, dampen their enthusiasm and make them feel negative confrontation.

In a word, the use of the heuristic method should have a clear purpose, the method should be informative and interesting, the opportunity should be grasped, and the children should be treated sincerely with sincere love.