Grandma accompanies her children to participate in kindergarten parent-child activities. Grandma came back to vomit: "The child is motionless in kindergarten and looks like a family. What is this? "

In fact, this is a typical "out of the house"-talking naughty at home, never stopping, being a good boy outside, quiet and introverted to the little sheep.

Why? Because of the blind compromise of the family to the children.

The child is ill and wants to eat ice cream. He held his mother's thigh for more than 20 minutes. Finally, his mother relented: "Okay, okay, let you lick it."

The child didn't want to go to kindergarten and was inked for a long time at the door. Mother compromised: "All right, come back this afternoon."

If the child doesn't want to eat, he gets angry and hides in the house. Grandma said, "Good boy, stop eating, eat snacks and make up everything."

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It is because family members unconditionally compromise with children that children know that they are "taking advantage" of their family's love and tolerance. After going out, the child also knows that outsiders will not tolerate him. His tricks are not easy to use outside, but he can't do other tricks. He can only be a "little coward"-don't talk, don't laugh, don't move.

Therefore, in normal education, parents must do:

First, unify the concept of education and don't disagree in front of children.

When the child went out to play trampoline, his mother disagreed: "You are too young to play." Grandpa comforted him: "It doesn't matter, Grandpa will go in and play with you."

Children destroy public facilities, mothers criticize education, and grandmothers come forward: "If you destroy, you will be destroyed, and grandmothers will pay for it."

The mother asked the child to brush his teeth and turned his head to help him brush his teeth. After being caught by her mother, grandma also blamed the child: "I told you to move quickly." Now that mother is here, grandma can't help it. "

When children understand the minds of adults, they know that they use different methods for different family members when interacting with others, resulting in children not having a correct code of conduct.

What is even more frightening is that the family's "two-faced" style has a very bad influence on children.

Second, stick to principles.

It is agreed that snacks can only be eaten after meals, so you have to abide by this rule, whether you cry or cheat.

It is agreed that you can only eat in the kitchen and confiscate it when you leave the kitchen. Begging and grievances are useless.

Only by giving children clear rules can they have a sense of boundaries and know what to do when going out to treat people.

If the child keeps crying, what parents can do is to give the child a calm buffer period to appease the child, but they must let the child know that "rules are rules, and crying is useless."

Third, give children free social space.

When the child came home, he said, "I made good friends in kindergarten, and I invited her to play at home." Or the child says, "I want to go to someone else's house to play."

Please take your children with you at any time. Children also need his friends and social space, so that children can know how to interact with peers, learn how to be a "little host" and "little guest", and learn how to socialize.

I hope all children can grow up healthily and happily and become qualified "diplomats".

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