The story goes something like this: In front of the Van Diego Theater in Shanghai Disneyland amusement park, after the performance, a young woman was (probably) accidentally touched on the ass by an 8-year-old boy. The woman said something to the boy. As a result, he was pushed and abused by three parents of the boy.
As a mother, I am really surprised. First of all, how can a mother behave so barbaric and vulgar in front of her children! Secondly, I think that when most people encounter this kind of thing, their first reaction is to apologize and then ask their children what happened. Is it carelessness or deliberate mischief?
In my opinion, apologizing does not mean that a person has really made any mistake, but is a kind of cultivation or tolerance in the face of contradictions and conflicts.
As you can see from the video, at the beginning, the woman in white was shouting: I will meet you when I meet you. What are you yelling about? Then, without saying anything, the woman in black picked up the hat on the ground and threw it at Miss Sister's head. After being pulled, he cursed the companion of the woman who was beaten (the woman who called): I care about X!
Then, the woman in white impolitely pointed her finger at the face of the woman who called, and even directly pushed the woman who was beaten. Scold in speech: touch it. Your ass has never been touched? You grow this x and touch your ass!
Finally, Disney staff arrived and temporarily calmed the storm.
In the last animation, I saw the 8-year-old boy "touching" the woman's ass. He was held by a woman. I don't know what his mood was at that time. Perhaps, he has become accustomed to his mother's barbaric behavior of "protecting calves".
Now parents enroll their children in various cram schools to increase their knowledge reserves; Take them around to broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge; Visit museums, watch various art exhibitions, listen to concerts, watch plays, and cultivate your artistic accomplishment. But it often ignores the most basic moral cultivation.
Parents who lack principles and moral bottom lines in education should not cultivate so-called talents.
Quan Huixing, known as "Korea's chief mother" and a former professor at Yale University, once said when sharing her educational experience, "Many times, it is not a big setback or obstacle that has a major impact on children, but a small thing in daily life."
If the boy in this incident didn't get the correct education and guidance afterwards, then in his mind, he certainly had nothing to hide, and felt that since his parents didn't think I was wrong, there was no need to worry about similar things happening in the future. Even, he will feel that in the face of accusations from others, he can fight back with violence.
The mother in the video, do you think it is a sign of maternal love to make yourself like a mad dog? You have to understand that everything you say and do now will be deeply imprinted in your son's mind. Maybe one day, he will become someone like you.
If you really want to train your children to have both ability and political integrity, parents should first influence their children with their own behaviors and make themselves role models for their children. Because they are always observing their parents with sensitive eyes, looking for their favorite roles from them, imitating them, and then slowly turning this quality into their own.
I remember reading many reports about the school bullying incident. Teenagers, facing their peers, can make such cruel hands: slapping, punching, hurting people with sharp weapons ... how can their hearts be so cruel!
Don't blame everything on God's ethos or the influence of cyber violence. I think the key problem lies in the relatives of those children and the social system. Are parents negligent in disciplining their children? Did you let your bad habits infect your children? Does the social system have strict control measures for this phenomenon?
Don't say "children are too young to understand", and don't say "it's cruel to punish children by legal means, isn't it ruining them"? On the contrary, treating connivance as kindness is the culprit that ruined their lives.
In the United States, in response to the school bullying incident, they carried out it from school education, prevention and supervision, parents' active participation, social legislation punishment and other aspects. In China, there is not only a lack of mature management system, but also a lot of relative punishment. Children who cause harm to others are still stubborn and even eventually walk into the abyss of darkness. And those children who have been hurt will never get rid of their inner shadows. Social tolerance makes this phenomenon enter an infinite cycle. No matter which side of the child, it is impossible to have a good life.
So we spend so much time and energy to cultivate children's various skills. How far can children's happiness go without cultivating their correct three views?