If I hadn't seen the children burning the midnight oil to prepare for the exam, I wouldn't even know the children's exam. If the children hadn't said that the school assigned reading and writing tasks to parents, I wouldn't have read Professor Yang Dongping's article What is an Ideal Education.

If my wife hadn't left me homework for my parents to write about their learning experience, I might not have reflected on my lack of role in family education until now. People always think that schools are the main front of education. As parents, as long as they send their children to school, the task of children's education is handed over to the teacher, and they are willing to be the shopkeeper of cutting.

On second thought, when parents grow up, all the missing companionship will eventually need to be repaid. When children study in kindergarten in the lower grades of primary school, because of their age, they also need their parents to do it themselves, tell stories tirelessly, sit patiently and do their homework, and never leave their eyes when they go out to play.

However, after children enter the fourth grade of primary school, I take it for granted that when adults grow up, they can arrange their own studies reasonably and take care of their own safety. Don't they often hear voices like "parents should learn to let go"? Therefore, I naturally learned to let go and no longer care about children's study, life and growth in details.

He would still buy a lot of books and let him read them himself, but he basically never asked him what he read, how much he read and how effective he was. Gradually, my concern about children's learning is limited to the inquiry of exam results every semester. Her mother is responsible for the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation and psychological changes. Father looks relaxed and basically cares nothing.

It was not until the sixth grade, in a conversation with the teacher, that I realized that children actually have many bad habits, such as being lazy, not doing homework seriously, not correcting wrong questions on their own initiative and so on. The obedient child in my eyes has actually started to rebel in the process of growing up, but I was blinded by my son's clever appearance and didn't see the truth in time.

The fact gave me a blow, and I realized that this would only push the child further and further. But I missed the best opportunity of family education, and no matter how much I regret it, it won't help. My child went to junior high school and chose the best fifth middle school recently, which is also my alma mater. I want my child's dream to set sail here again.

As a father, we must have enough communication with adolescent children, more companionship, more patience and more positive guidance. The ultimate goal of education should be to shape and cultivate a sound person. So I began to push away some unnecessary social activities, try to go home before school, try to put down my mobile phone when my child is studying, read a book in his hand, and be a qualified father.

The role of words and deeds is self-evident, and soon I was delighted to see the changes in my children. He started talking to me about school, and he was willing to ask me questions without knowing anything. Suddenly I felt the value of my existence, and my image became tall in my son's eyes.

The child will soon be promoted to the second day of junior high school. Now I see more and more bright spots on him, and I have an impulse no matter what I do. He also told me that if I want to do it, I must do my best. My wife once recommended me to read the book My mother is better than a good teacher. At that time, I was dismissive and even asked why a mother should put the responsibility of education on her father.

Now I understand that parents are children's friends, teachers and guides, and both are indispensable. Our actions often affect a child's life. Wise parents will never ignore the importance of family education. Today, with this learning opportunity given by the school, I began to reflect on myself: only when parents change can children make progress.

From this moment on, I am determined not to shirk my responsibility, and I want to give my children a positive influence. I hope that good family education and school education can pave a broad road for every child, so that they can walk out of school with ideals and expectations, love and gratitude for life, and create a better life for them!