How should parents educate their children? As we all know, our children are both the darling of every family and the expectation of every family. Many parents "expect their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed". Then do you know how parents should educate their children? Let's take a look at the way parents educate their children!
Parents' methods of educating their children 1 moral and emotional education methods
First, create a good moral education environment.
Love to imitate is a child's nature, but also a child's age characteristics. For young children, people around them are imitators of each other. Therefore, we should not only create a good external environment for children, but also create a good interpersonal and social communication environment suitable for moral education.
Example has a great influence on children. In kindergarten, teachers, as the closest people to children, should set a good example for children. Teachers' own words and deeds are a kind of silent education. Secondly, family education and kindergarten education should be coordinated. Parents are their children's first teachers, and their education of their children's morality, behavior, habits and methods has a special and subtle effect on the formation and development of their children's morality.
Second, moral education should permeate all kinds of activities.
Nowadays, most children are only children, so many bad habits have been formed. Teachers make full use of every link in daily life and pay attention to cultivating children's good living habits, hygiene habits, self-care ability and self-protection awareness and ability, so that children can get good development. The activities we design and organize focus on the comprehensive use of various educational means, giving full play to the overall benefits of education and entertaining education.
(A) the use of holiday activities, moral education.
Using festivals to cultivate children's moral education can not be ignored. In traditional festivals, we all carry out different educational activities. For example, Mother's Day will teach children to love their mothers. Through physical experience, children will feel the hardship and happiness of their mothers, and will sprout feelings of respecting their mothers and filial piety to their elders. They will make a display board with the teacher, "Mom, you have worked hard". At the same time, the teacher asked the children to help their mothers do something within their power at home, which played a role of demonstration and encouragement among the children. During the activities, children learned to respect their mothers and other elders, and understood that expressing their feelings requires action.
(B) in daily life and games, seize the opportunity of education to carry out moral education.
Daily life has a very important influence on the formation of children's morality. Through seemingly simple daily behaviors, children can be cultivated to be polite, disciplined, honest, brave and caring for others. For young children, the teacher's attention and guidance is very important, so we should attach great importance to the educational value of one-day life for children, so that children can gradually form good moral character in their daily life. Games are children's basic activities and their favorite activities. In the game, children's sense of unity can be stimulated, and children's morality and behavior such as being fearless of difficulties and perseverance can be cultivated. For example, when children walk on a single-plank bridge and individual children feel scared, teachers will try to educate them bravely in time and properly. Daily life education is the most basic and direct education in all educational channels, and its importance and function are obvious.
(3) Carry out moral education theme activities and create a good educational environment.
According to children's age characteristics, design theme activities suitable for children, and enrich the content of children's moral education through various activities, such as "educating you, me and him"
Etiquette depends on everyone's sitcom games to cultivate children into civilized and polite children. Another example is the "big and small" activities, where big brothers and little sisters work together, eat together and play together. Brothers and sisters care more about their brothers and sisters, and brothers and sisters also trust them. Through this kind of activity, the excellent qualities of children, such as mutual care, love, unity and friendship, good communication and responsibility, have been cultivated.
Third, comprehensively use a variety of educational methods to cultivate children's moral feelings.
(A) Hint method
Suhomlinski said: "The less a child feels the intention of the educator in any educational phenomenon, the greater his educational effect." Because implicit education methods can reconcile the relationship between educators and educatees and make them feel equality and respect. The methods of suggestion include language suggestion, example suggestion and so on. The most influential hints for children are body posture and expression.
(B) Empathy education methods
According to children's cognitive characteristics and lack of knowledge and experience, empathy education is adopted, because empathy education can effectively stimulate children's inner emotions and cultivate sensitivity and understanding of others' emotions. Guide children to identify emotions by listening to stories; Continue to make up stories and feel emotions; Situational performances further feel emotions, experience emotions, put yourself in others' shoes, and thus produce emotional resonance, such as situational performances: civilization is around us. The children are blue and red to give presents to grandma. One is politeness, the other is rudeness. Finally, the rude child found that he was wrong, admitted to correcting his mistake, and finally became a polite child. Let children systematically identify what civilized behavior is, and they will feel sad, sad and angry for others, especially at the end of the activity. The teacher pays attention to let every child participate in the activities, which promotes the children's emotional experience.
Four, home synchronization, jointly carry out moral education.
Childhood is the enlightenment period of life, and it is an important period for shaping healthy personality and forming good moral quality. The cooperation between family and kindergarten is inseparable. At the beginning of the school year, we will introduce the goals, educational goals and educational views of kindergartens to parents, so that parents can understand the importance of early childhood education and help them establish a correct view of talents. In our daily life, we should make use of the weekly telephone communication between "Home-School Contact Network" and "Home Letter" to let parents know about kindergarten education and children's presence in the kindergarten, attach importance to strengthening the contact and communication between homes, and strive to make parents change their positive identification from concept to active cooperation in action, so as to keep family education consistent with kindergarten education.
It takes a long-term education and training process for children to form good moral quality. We must enrich children's moral concepts and connect them with various emotional experiences. To cultivate children's moral behavior and form children's moral feelings, we should always put forward requirements for children's moral quality, so that children's moral and emotional experiences can be continuously summarized and deepened.
The way parents educate their children. Early education that can not be ignored
If children's education has to wait until after entering school, they have actually missed the best education period. Because sensory organs are the physiological basis of human perception of the outside world, fully stimulating children's sensory organs can promote the active activities of all parts of the brain. Active is a child's nature. When the child 1-3 years old, we let her develop with the nature of "not afraid of dirty, tired and dangerous" to fully stimulate the child's brain. The performance of jumping skin in infancy is actually a signal of rapid brain development. We can't intervene forcibly because of dirty or seemingly dangerous behavior.
Second, consolidate the personality foundation and strive to improve emotional intelligence.
Parents who attach importance to education know that "EQ is the key to success in life". Good moral sentiment, optimistic and humorous personality, courage to face and overcome difficulties, self-motivation, perseverance and caring for others are the magic weapons for children to eventually create brilliant lives or become mediocre people after entering the society in the future. In a word, fostering education can make children have higher cultivation and more standardized behavior, become an educated and civilized person, and lay a good foundation for their success. Habit determines character, and habit dominates life. Every habit is particularly important in the first few days, so I teach my children to think about whether to do it before making a decision, stick to it from the beginning and don't give up halfway.
In order to strengthen self-control, I often take my children to the supermarket, but only if I don't buy anything. No matter how I cry, I can't break the routine and easily meet the child's material requirements. Children always have something they like and don't want to share it with them. I told her not to show off in front of the children, but to share it with them. It's not normal to keep them all for yourself. Don't let children develop bad characters such as wasting money, pursuing vanity and being inconsiderate of others.
When she was in the third grade of primary school, I was wronged because her work was not smooth. She didn't know why I was sad at that time and ignored her, so she slipped me a small note when she went out to school, which said, "Mom, what happened at work?" It doesn't matter, no matter what happens, you should face the facts bravely and smile. Mom, don't be sad. Bad things are not necessarily bad things. It will change. Don't be sad. Just say it. As the saying goes, "share weal and woe". You can think like this at an early age, handle problems correctly and inspire others. You have begun to be concrete and optimistic. This note is well preserved to this day.
Third, cultivate good study habits.
Learning depends on oneself, learning should be independent, and parents can only play a role of reminding.
Respect study time
Since the first grade of primary school, I have intentionally cultivated a concept of "study time is sacred and inviolable". You must concentrate at the beginning of your study, and you are not allowed to do any chores, such as drinking tea, talking, going to the toilet, etc. Adults should not disturb children when they are in trouble.
Homework must be done independently.
Learning is her own business, so she must do it consciously. We only use spot checks to supervise, which is conducive to cultivating her awareness of learning.
Overcome inertia
Read a book first, then do your homework. Think about what you don't understand first, and then try to consult authoritative reference books to avoid the inertia of relying on others to answer if you don't understand. Plan to preview and review all the courses every day. Don't wait until the exam is coming, so you will get twice the result with half the effort.
Entering junior high school, junior high school life is completely different from primary school life. The tension of homework and physiological changes made her uncomfortable for a while, and her grades went downhill. In order to prevent her from taking detours in junior high school, we put failures on the table again and again, looking for reasons and shortcomings. Comfort and encourage again and again, eliminate the learning methods in primary schools and formulate learning methods suitable for junior high schools. Perhaps it was her courage to admit defeat and overcome difficulties when she was a child that made her grades start to improve soon.
In fact, apart from strictly demanding children in their studies, we should also encourage their failure and progress, overcome their inferiority complex and help them build up their self-confidence.
Fourth, youth education.
In junior high school, adolescent rebellious psychology will be inadvertently manifested. With the development of information technology in modern society, the factors affecting children will be more diversified, and the chances of children spending less time with their parents will be greater. At this time, parents should communicate more attentively. Children spend most of the day at school, and when they get home at night, they are busy doing endless homework. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should take time out to spend more time with your children, understand their little changes, be aware of them, and let them spend their adolescence correctly and easily. According to the psychological characteristics of adolescence, we should also actively adjust the ways and means of communication with children.
Emphasize equality
Due to the rebellious psychology of adolescence, parents' imperative attitude is out of date. Children are not only equal in language, but also equal in action and deep in their hearts.
Become friends
Talk to your child like a friend, so that you won't be reckless when you get along with her, but pay attention to the timing and length of the conversation. The chances of disputes are greatly reduced, and the conversation becomes more effective and enjoyable.
Limited satisfaction, grasping the big and letting go of the small, and trying to decentralize.
Adolescent children pursue independence, and we should leave all the things that children are sure to do well to her. When there is a question of principle, parents should not only talk about principles, but also talk about methods. In many cases, methods are more important than principles, because methods don't hurt feelings and principles can't be sold. But we can't maintain our feelings and make concessions on important principles.
Five, don't be a nerd.
The high expectations make the present children bear heavy pressure invisibly, and ruthlessly kill their free, relaxed, happy and positive nature. As parents, they should relieve their children's pressure in time, arrange their children to go out to play as much as possible during the holidays, cultivate their sentiments and exercise at the same time, and learn a lot of practical social knowledge that can't be learned in textbooks.
Parents are children's textbooks and children are parents' mirrors. Children's words and deeds will be subtly influenced by the surrounding environment and parents' words and deeds. To be a qualified parent, it is not enough to have a correct understanding, improve quality and create a good study and living environment. Children's education needs to be completed through mutual cooperation and communication with schools, teachers and the joint efforts of the whole society. As parents, we are willing to actively cooperate with the school, fulfill the responsibility and obligation of children's education, and grow up with children.