Teachers tend to step into several misunderstandings when educating children, one of which is contempt. This is mainly manifested in the condescending situation of middle and senior teachers in the basic education stage. This ideological tendency, on the one hand, makes the superior teachers stand on the higher point of education and ignore the children's learning in primary and secondary schools. On the other hand, they often show indifference to the teaching of primary and secondary school teachers. Once this attitude is felt by children, it will directly lead children to doubt the knowledge and reasoning given by teachers.
A large number of survey data show that the primary and secondary school stage is the worst period of self-control in one's life. If there is no authoritative belief support in campus life at this stage, it is very easy to form bad study and living habits and even deviate from the correct direction of life. Some teachers fail in early education, and no matter how hard they try, they often can't save their children. It can be seen that in the basic education stage, it is very necessary for teachers to attach importance to children's early education and fully respect their teachers. Mr. Tao Xingzhi once said, "We must awaken the people of China to understand that childhood is the most important life and childhood education is the most important education." As teachers, we should understand this more.
In this book, Mr. Wang Jinzhan, as a high school teacher, also talked about this point when he reflected on his mistakes in educating his daughter, because earlier, he attended classes all the year round and had heavy teaching tasks. When his daughter went to primary school, he thought that the child was still young and didn't need to spend too much energy until she went to junior high school. However, because of his job transfer, he came to Qingdao from a small county. Because of the convenient transportation, he arranged his children in a primary school behind his building. But in this school, children are unhappy and have psychological problems for many reasons, which the father ignores. It was after he saw his daughter's long diary that he learned about her loneliness and depression, which made him feel guilty. In fact, many people think that a teacher should have a good understanding of children's psychology and be good at educating children. In fact, our own experience and the experience of many colleagues around us show that if we don't pay serious attention, children's psychology will still go wrong. Moreover, when you find that there is something wrong with your child, it is difficult to control it and change it. After realizing his own problems, when his daughter was in Grade One, Mr. Wang Jinzhan insisted on teaching Grade One math with the school, and the school agreed. Here, I think teachers are different from our ordinary teachers. Many of our teachers are reluctant to put their children in their own classes, because they will have some sense of superiority considering that children will be under pressure. Teacher Wang Jinzhan handled this very well.
There is a passage in the book that has narrowed the psychological distance between my father and me. I really admire his quality of surpassing himself and constantly exploring.
I have studied this passage repeatedly, and so have I. I can appreciate the advantages of the most naughty student in the class, but I can always see his shortcomings to the children. Treat the most disobedient students as an amiable teacher, but treat the children's small mistakes with a stern mother's face. I have analyzed it psychologically, which is the result of my childhood education and cannot be changed. But Mr. Wang proved that the weakness of human nature can be overcome with practical actions. The key is how to treat his education. If it is sometimes clear and sometimes vague, the final result will definitely be gain and loss. Children will grow up in your wavering education and will not succeed.
Many of our teachers' children have a sense of superiority because they go to school where they teach, and because of the invisible care of teachers, they are easy to cover up their shortcomings and deficiencies; Because the special care of teachers will also make children dependent, once they leave this environment, they will fall out of favor and lead to psychological imbalance. Children are naive, they know best and need equality most. Any special treatment will not have a good result, but will be counterproductive. From this point of view, I think my son and I don't go to the same school, so he didn't enjoy my sense of superiority and dependence around him like ordinary children, and the children themselves developed very well. I think this is more conducive to his growth.
As parents of teachers, educating children is a special field in the general category of education. The most familiar is often the least familiar. It is precisely because our teachers love children and education too much that they are most vulnerable.
Cause analysis Because parents who are teachers are easily influenced by the teacher's role mindset when educating their children, they often educate their children as teachers and in a tone regardless of the occasion, which will only make children feel that they lack feelings and produce rebellious psychology, leading to the failure or even failure of education. Because teachers are familiar with this industry, we may find fault with children's education, especially some avant-garde teachers who have made little achievements in education are more likely to find fault with children.
Teachers' children don't like learning, which is a negative confrontation of children. We need to reflect and take a warning.
Teacher Wang Jinzhan came to Beijing from Qingdao for her daughter, and her career has developed very well. My daughter finally succeeded in being admitted to Peking University, which made me admire. Dou Guimei, a well-known primary school Chinese teacher, talked about why she went to Beijing to develop. One reason is that it is easy for my daughter to enter the university in the future. We don't have their impressive teaching achievements, and our work can't be transferred casually. Most of us are just ordinary teachers and need to think about how to educate our children well. Sometimes we are too busy at work to take care of our families, and sometimes even make our children feel that their parents love their students more than themselves. This kind of contribution is certainly good, but it is definitely not good for the education of your children.
In addition, modern society is increasingly showing the diversity and complexity of value orientation. It is unscientific to judge one's children's speech and behavior from the teacher's point of view indiscriminately. In addition, in the eyes of children, they value family more. If parents who are teachers ignore this point, it will easily lead to emotional alienation and educational failure.
For the starting point and destination of their own education, we should appreciate children, understand their psychology, tap their potential and implement scientific education according to their characteristics. Only in this way can we be worthy of our children.
As parents of teachers, we need to have a normal mind. Not all children can get excellent academic results. The core of education is to cultivate healthy personality, that is, to cultivate children's self-confidence, friendliness, strong sense of responsibility, good self-management ability and strong ability to resist setbacks. A child's healthy personality is more important than learning.