The first book is "Be a Good Parent, Raise a Worry-Free Baby", the main purpose of which is to guide the baby's healthy physical and mental growth with love and heartfelt praise.
The second book, Who Took the Children's Happiness, is a collection of children's stories by Li Yueer, the founder of Ba Xueyuan, according to his own practice, and also presents us with the extreme and common phenomenon in today's family education.
Duhamel Du Monceau Lee's book is the third book, but it is called the Bible book in children's education, which guides us to look at problems from children's perspective. This book defines the role of children. They are independent people, and the role of adults is to help them grow into themselves. Children's daily work is to be themselves. They learn to talk, walk and learn more knowledge. They feel happy in this kind of work. Children imitate the actions and behaviors of adults because they expect to be a real person, and adults always judge whether those behaviors are correct from their own perspective, so they can't help but disturb and correct them, and even help them complete them.
When we bend down and think from the children's point of view, we will understand their fears. Because of their height and development, they live in a giant world, with tables, chairs and beds. Everything is out of tune with their size. Adults take their extremely skilled movements and behaviors as a model, constantly urging us and making us feel scared.
While reading these books, I was at my brother's house, surrounded by my daughter for one hundred days. My brother's two sons, one year and seven months old and five and a half years old, are called the eldest, the second and the third respectively according to my age. When I first started reading these books, I felt that I had got a magic weapon and a foundation for disciplining children. Yes, I used discipline. But the more this happens, the worse the effect will be due to lack of parenting experience or misunderstanding of methods. For example, I told my mother that the boss had been beaten for a long time, and sometimes I had to discipline him with a little effort, but I felt that putting myself and others on my daughter would make me regret it. But I understand from Duhamel Du Monceau's book in the stands that a competent teacher should learn to observe, that is, take children's nature as the original intention, observe the cause and effect of all behaviors and the initial motivation, so as not to be an obstacle on their way forward, so as to control themselves, but as for non-standard issues, we must do it when we should.
Based on these principles, I can be calm and critical, and save a lot of arguments and unnecessary contradictions. At the same time, it also makes taking care of children less unacceptable.
Being a parent may be instinctive, but how to be a parent must be learned. It is better to dive down and admit your ignorance and grow up with your children.