Cat dad is a general term for fathers who teach students in accordance with their aptitude by means of personalized education. They are tolerant and good at communicating with children. They use a combination of Chinese and western education to guide their daughters to choose the life they want.

The Background of Daddy Cat

It is no accident that "Tiger Mom" became popular. Education is the common interest of both ends of the earth. Americans say that the education method of "Chinese tiger mother" Chua Mei-er is terrible, but China retorts that Chua Mei-er is not really from China, and the education method of Chinese mothers has long changed ... and there was a fierce dispute for some time.

The story of Tiger Mother was reported by mainstream American media in turn, which also attracted the attention of domestic readers. The Chinese version of "I am an American Mom —— A Classic on Parenting taught by Yale Law School" was released in mid-June at 5438+ 10, and soon after it was released, it ranked first in the non-fiction category of a book sales website.

Mr Chang Zhi Tao, who teaches Harvard Daughters, doesn't think so. He is very satisfied with his new name-Chang Shuai's father and daughter Chang Shuai won the competition with the best students in the United States, and 20 10 was admitted to Harvard University. The local newspaper said that Chang Shuai "danced at Harvard" and the girls insisted on dancing 12 years. What makes the students "envy" is that this girl who often skips classes to visit or perform dances is among the best in Shanghai Qibao Middle School and gets scholarships every year.

Cat Dad-Educational Idea

School education should embody universal education and realize the goal of cultivating generalists and social people. Family personalized education is embodied in teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. Only pay attention to the cultivation of skills, but often think that family education is more important to cultivate children's personality and morality.

Cat dad-education model

At different stages of children's growth, the roles between parents and children are not static, but constantly changing. China's educational tradition emphasizes "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude". Different individuals have different educational methods, and the same individual has different educational methods at different stages. Before Chang Shuai 10 years old, the education methods of "cat father" and "tiger mother" were similar, because the independent and complete personality of children had not been cultivated, and the education of parents was the basis for lifelong growth.

/kloc-After the age of 0/0, that is, from the senior grade of primary school to junior high school graduation, there should be an interaction between parents and children. At this time, her self-awareness began to awaken and she mastered certain knowledge and skills. Her parents need to give her the consciousness and skills to grow up, give her some guidance, give her some free space, and do more things to make her own decisions.

At this stage, children have a lot of life and study contents, and also have their own hobbies. They want to have some independent space, and it is not good to stipulate when to eat, when to play and when to read.

freedom

"Cat Dad" had a conversation with Chang Shuai, telling her that he was willing to abide by some rules of the game, so that he could prioritize. For example, learning is the first task, and there is no room for bargaining. If you study consciously, let you decide something for yourself. If you are given autonomy and you make good use of it, I can give you something bigger.

Giving children autonomy will form a virtuous circle, and their self-confidence, trust and appreciation will be enhanced. She feels that she is trusted by her parents, so she will have demands on herself, handle some things well and take responsibility, so she will be very confident. Self-confident children are also more self-reliant, and in order to gain greater autonomy, they will ask themselves to do better. There are rules of the game at this stage, but they are not strict.

Social contact

My daughter's classmates are very welcome to play "Cat Dad" at home and have a birthday party at home. Occasionally, she will spend the night at her classmate's house, and her classmate's father will read some English essays and tell some short stories to her children. "Cat Dad" thinks that it is more important to accumulate moral character and cultivate personality at this stage, because knowledge learning can last for a long time. Whether children are confident, kind and honest, and whether they can stand on their own feet in a team outside the family is the first important thing for children.

Hobbies and interests

Chang Shuai chose to teach himself to dance. Go three or four times a week and practice for two hours. Chang Shuai goes to the Children's Palace by bus, and sometimes falls asleep with a pole on the bus. I joined a dance club when I went abroad for an exchange in my sophomore year. Now studying in America, dancing modern dance three times a week. Children will be very persistent in their choices.

Emotional interaction

In the high school stage, the children entered a rebellious period, and the communication between "cat dad" and the children encountered great obstacles. At this time, they should play cards according to the rules of the children's game. Children tend to be unwilling to communicate with their parents. They think you may not understand my idea. The child's sense of autonomy has increased. If they want to do what you ask, she will be cold war, soft resistance, non-violence and non-cooperation. She listens to everything you say, but it's hard to say whether she listens or not.

At this time, we should consciously grow up with our children, such as going to the Berlin Symphony Orchestra concert with her, but she can't accompany her when she watches the concerts in May and Avril Ramona Lavigne. In order to find a common topic, "Cat Dad" often shows her fashion magazines and buys clothes with her. At this time, she is most willing to be with you, and she will also listen to her father's advice on how to match. This is also an emotional exchange.