In life, many parents complain that they care about their children, while children are selfish and don't know how to care about their parents and others. The ancients said: "At the beginning of life, human nature is good." In fact, it is not that children are born without love, but that parents love their children, do not pay attention to educational methods, and inadvertently deprive them of love. Today's children have lived in a rich environment since childhood, and they simply can't understand the poverty and misfortune of others. At home, children enjoy many "privileges" and "concessions", and adults always unconsciously let their children go. In this case, it is a good choice for parents to take their children to hard rural areas and let them receive tempering education. For primary school children, letting them keep small animals is the most caring thing for them. Small fish, chickens and ducklings are not expensive or troublesome, and they are still children's favorites! Love needs a process of gradual cultivation. In family education, we should be good at discovering children's bright spots and lose no time in educating them about love. Parents should start with small things, such as respecting the elders and sympathizing with the weak. These are all manifestations of love and are conducive to the formation of children's good values and outlook on life. However, many parents still have misunderstandings when educating their children. They only value children's grades, and think that children with good grades have a good future. In a case, a successful boss and his wife gave all their love to their only son, but his son was selfish: good food should be eaten first; Clothes, shoes and hats should be worn by parents; I only know that I reach out to my parents for this and that, but I never care about my parents, even if they are sick. A child educator said: "I only know how to take, but I don't know how to pay;" It is a common problem for an only child to know that he loves himself and does not know who to love. "Kindness is the most glorious, noblest and greatest character in human nature. To teach your son to be a man, you must first give him a loving heart. " "Selfishness" and "self-centeredness" are the enemies of love, but they are not innate to children, nor are they innate. It is rooted in parents' private love and doting. In order not to let children's love die, parents should not only love their children, but more importantly, let them learn to love. If you just work hard and don't ask about the harvest, then this kind of parental love can easily become a kind of private love and doting on children. Spoiling is the saddest thing in the relationship between parents and children. Children cultivated with this kind of love refuse to give their hearts to others. So it is particularly important in family education. Tell me my superficial views on the problem.

First, love should start at an early age. Parents should always caress their children and smile at them, so that they can feel their parents' love for them. This is the starting point of their love. As children grow up day by day, parents should regard themselves as their children's partners, play games, chat and study with their children, let them feel the warmth of their families and the happiness of being loved, and lay the foundation for their dedication to love. Second, love should set an example. Parents are children's mirrors, and children are parents' shadows. Only caring parents can cultivate caring children. Children always regard their parents as their role models, and their parents' words and deeds are imperceptibly influencing their children. This is the truth that example is more important than words. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, be filial to the elderly, care for children, care for others and be ready to help others. Let children feel that their parents are caring people and they should be caring people themselves. Parents' sympathy for others' difficulties and pains will deeply touch their children's hearts, infect and arouse their concern for others. For example, on the bus, parents said to their children, "Look, how tired that aunt is holding her little brother. Let them sit here. " The old neighbor was ill, so parents took their children to visit, greet and help with things. The news reports that some people are short of money for surgery and their lives are dying. Parents bring their children to donate money and offer love ... It is often seen how adults sympathize, care and help others. This is the best way to cultivate children's good quality. Third, improve children's empathy. The so-called empathy ability refers to the ability to put yourself in others' shoes and feel their feelings. For example, let children compare their feelings in a painful state with others' experiences in the same situation, understand others' feelings, and let children learn to understand others and learn to empathize. For example, when a child falls, parents inspire the child: "Do you think it hurts when you fall?" The child must be very uncomfortable. Go and wipe his face. "When a disaster happens in a certain place, parents can guide their children:" The children there have no food, are very hungry, have no clothes to wear, and are freezing. Think about it, what would happen if you were here? Let's donate some clothes and food to people in this area! "Fourth, provide opportunities to give love. Many parents only know how to love their children blindly, but ignore the opportunity to give them love. The implementation of love and the acceptance of love are mutual. If children are only allowed to accept love, gradually, they will lose the ability to give love. They only know how to take it, but they don't know how to give it. They feel that it is natural for their parents to care about him. Some parents think they should give their children more care and love. When he grows up, he will respect and love his parents. Actually, this is a misunderstanding. How can children care about their parents if they are not given a chance to learn to care? Other parents think that children's task is to study, and nothing else is important. Only by studying hard can there be a good future, so everything is for the sake of children, clothes reach out and mouth open. Learning is important, but children's personality, habits, quality and psychology are more important to their growth and success, which need to be cultivated in life and study, and will not be achieved overnight. Persistent cultivation will make the seeds of love take root in children's hearts and become conscious behavior habits. Fifth, protect children's love. Sometimes parents turn a blind eye to their children's love because of busy work or other reasons, or reprimand them, killing their children's love in the bud. For example, a little girl poured a cup of tea for her mother who just got off work, but her mother said anxiously, "Go, go, do your homework quickly, who will use you to pour the tea?" "Another example is a child squatting on the ground to help a wounded chicken. The mother said angrily, "Who told you to touch it? How dirty this chicken is! " "Children's love was thus deprived by their parents. In fact, many times, parents don't know that their actions will inadvertently hurt or deprive their children of love. Teacher Lu Qin said, "Children's love is tender. If you care about it, it will grow up. " If you ignore it, it will wither; If you hit it, it will die. "If you want a caring child, please cultivate and care for it in your life. A trickle makes a river and a sea, and a sand and a stone make a palace of love. Giving sympathy and compassion to children from an early age is to cultivate kindness and kindness in them. Children's initial sympathy and pity is a reflection of adults' sympathy and pity. Parents usually pay attention to the cultivation of their children bit by bit, teach by example, pay attention to their children in daily life and cultivate their love. That kind and broad love will take root and sprout in children's hearts, and will continue to expand and rise with their growth. Each of our children has a caring heart. Only by loving parents, friends, teachers, schools, hometown and motherland can each of us live a happier and more peaceful life in the future.