Inferiority: Some parents insist on letting their children "admit their mistakes" after hitting them, which shows that their children are educated. In fact, doing so can only aggravate the child's xenophobic tendency. On the surface, the child seems to do what his parents ask, but in fact, his resistance is great. After being beaten, he will be at a loss and uneasy. Over time, children will feel more and more inferior. Every child has self-esteem. Children who are often beaten are frustrated in self-esteem and have inferiority complex, and it is very easy to embark on the road of self-abandonment. Helpless: Some parents feel heartache and regret after hitting their children, which in turn will touch the pain of their children being beaten, and even cry with their children in their arms and give them double material compensation. In this case, children will feel puzzled at first, but after a long time, they will get used to it. Children who are often beaten will feel lonely and helpless and lie: some parents will beat their children once they find that they have done something wrong. Over time, in order to avoid the pain of flesh and blood, children can hide and cheat, because for children, if they cheat once, they can reduce a "disaster." However, the lies told by children are often untenable and easily found by parents. In order to punish children for lying, parents will be tougher; In order to avoid being beaten, children will lie more when they do something wrong next time, which constitutes a vicious circle. Cowardice: If children are often beaten for a long time, they will feel afraid and dare not approach their parents. Therefore, no matter what his parents ask him to do, no matter what his parents say is right or wrong, he will only obey. Children who grow up in such a bad environment of absolute obedience are often prone to inferiority and cowardice. Such children are often obedient, depressed and passive in their studies. This laid the seeds of "cowardice" for him to go to society in the future. Stubborn: Some parents beat their children easily, which not only hurts their self-esteem, but also makes them rebellious. Some children deliberately make trouble to express silent resistance. If you want to go east, he will go west, deliberately making his parents angry. Other children, the more their parents fight, the less they admit their mistakes, the more stubborn they fight, and the bigger they fight. Some children often run away from home, play truant to confront their parents, and become more and more stubborn. What impact does domestic violence have on children's psychology? 2. It will make children feel inferior. For children living in a domestic violence environment, it is easy to feel inferior, because parents will beat their children when domestic violence occurs. After that, parents will not only admit their mistakes, but also let their children admit their mistakes. Therefore, children will feel a kind of rejection from the deep heart, because everyone has self-esteem, and children's self-esteem is very strong. If they suffer from domestic violence for a long time, second, it will make their children weak. When parents beat their children, their hearts are usually very scared, which easily leads to cowardice. Even if his parents don't hit him, he doesn't dare to talk to his parents, which will easily lead to what his parents generally ask him to do. He will promise to help his parents do everything because of fear, without considering right or wrong. This kind of obedient behavior will make children carry a kind of. Third, it will make children more and more stubborn. According to research, children in domestic violence environment are more likely to rebel than ordinary children, so they often run away from home and often do outrageous things to confront their parents. This is the so-called stubborn character. The children educated by this family are generally very distorted, which will have an impact on his later life and is not conducive to his growth. Fourth, it will make children tend to be violent. This violent behavior of parents will also have a certain impact on children, so children are prone to this violent tendency. At first, they will show the appearance of fighting with their classmates at school, but they don't think this behavior is wrong, because their parents also have this behavior. For such children, it is very dangerous to step into society in the future. Fifth, it will cause depression in children, and it may also cause depression in children. These parents love their children by beating and scolding them. In fact, cold violence is also a kind of domestic violence, which is more harmful to children. Children who come out of this family generally have mild depression, which will become more serious once stimulated. So don't use domestic violence against children, let alone cold violence against children. In fact, cold violence has a greater impact than those personal attacks. In fact, the best education is not beating and cursing, but parents educate their children with their own behaviors and guide their children with their own behaviors. This kind of education is the true love for children. What impact does domestic violence have on children's psychology? 3. The influence of domestic violence on children: 1. Inferiority Some parents insist on letting their children "admit their mistakes" after hitting them to show that their children are educated. In fact, doing so can only aggravate children's grievances and dissatisfaction. On the surface, the child did what his parents asked, but in fact it was very resistant. After being beaten, the child will be at a loss and uneasy. After a long time, they will feel more and more inferior. Every child has self-esteem. Children who are often beaten have impaired self-esteem and inferiority, and it is very easy for them to embark on the road of self-abandonment. 2. Loneliness and helplessness Some parents feel remorse and distressed after hitting their children, and then touch the pain of their children being beaten, even crying and admitting their mistakes with their children in their arms, and giving them double material compensation. In this case, the child will feel puzzled at first, but after a long time, he will get used to it. Children who are often beaten will feel lonely and helpless. Personality defect In the face of parents' abuse, children lack the ability and consciousness to seek help from hospitals or related institutions. Many children wait until junior high school and senior high school to discover their psychological problems. As an adult, he has psychological problems such as getting married, raising children and making friends. They went to the hospital for consultation and traced back to the source to find that the problem came from childhood abuse. The consequence of this is that children miss timely intervention, and their psychological and mental problems are not solved and channeled over time, and gradually develop into a part of their personality. It is difficult to be completely cured in adulthood, and it will be affected for life. 4. Difficulties in interpersonal communication A large number of studies have found that children who suffer from domestic violence have many emotional and psychological problems, and they have a strong sense of self-prevention and hostility. Children who suffer from domestic violence often appear to be over-alert, keep a high degree of vigilance against any traces of harmful stimuli in the environment, and make attacks quickly; Children who suffer from physical abuse or neglect also show more problems such as conduct disorder, attention problems, hyperactivity, destructive behavior and anti-social behavior. Their interpersonal and intimate relationships also have serious difficulties. Witness the impact of domestic violence on children: Whether children are physically abused or not, they often suffer emotional and psychological trauma because their fathers abuse their mothers' families. Children whose mothers are abused, if they are boys, will often use intimidation and violence to deal with their female companions when they grow up, and they will not respect their female companions; If girls grow up, they will believe that threats and violence are the norm in relationships, and their partners are more likely to be violent to them. Children from violent families are at higher risk of alcoholism/drug abuse, post-traumatic stress disorder and juvenile delinquency. Witnessing domestic violence is the single best predictor of juvenile delinquency and adult delinquency. How can children who have witnessed and witnessed domestic violence face their own psychological shadows and live a happier life when they grow up? Here are some methods for your reference. 1, reconstruct a story. There are actually two ways to look back on childhood. First, from the perspective of a child abandoned by his parents, lacking love or even abandoned; Second, tell yourself: I will definitely live better than this! Pack your bags and let's go. According to the first view, you are the victim; According to the second view, you control your own destiny and become your own master. 2. Realize that "blame can't change anything". Domestic violence should be condemned. But if we stay on the accusation, it means that we are still reminiscing about the past, we don't see the possibility and strength of change now and in the future, and we don't even really want to change our lives-a little self-abuse, which is a disguised continuation of domestic violence. 3. Be kind to the occasional visit of memory. Sometimes, we will recall the painful experience of childhood, crying, getting angry and complaining, and let it show naturally, instead of suppressing and rejecting it. What to do after that, such as finishing the work at hand or cooking a delicious meal. 4. Accept the fact that not everyone wants you to be strong. This sentence sounds a little cold, but it is true. People around you may keep whispering in your ear: everything is fine now, don't let yourself get tired; Or keep accusing you, saying that you can't do this and that is wrong, making you feel useless. They think that if you are strong, two things will happen. First, you have to leave them. Second, they will be left behind by you. They love you very much, and they will feel more comfortable if you stay where you are. 5. save money. One of the good ways to get rid of the shadow of childhood is to save money. Don't spend all your money, leave some money in your hand. Money is your advantage. Every penny I saved, I told myself: I took another step on the road away from those annoying people! 6. Try to work part-time. Force yourself to do things you don't want to do. Find a proper job that bothers you and stick to it until you don't hate it anymore. No more difficulties can crush you, and your bad childhood memories will be over. That is to say, I have tasted coptis chinensis, and the bitter gourd I used to eat is not bitter. 7. Professional help In the process of self-regulating the psychological shadow caused by domestic violence, if you feel that the effect is not good or difficult to implement, it is recommended to contact a professional psychological counseling agency for professional counseling in time.